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OMG. I have lost 50 lbs and the person I work with kept telling me how good I look and it's the best thing I could have done. I thank him, but my thoughts are "why is that important to you?" I need to own the compliment and move on without the negative thoughts. Alot of people tell me how good I'm looking. My best friend tells me that I shouldn't loose too much more weight. I plan on losing at least 20 more lbs. It is really feeling great to know I have come this close to my goal weight. Yeah...... Everybody enjoy your new bods, you are the ones who count. Take care and Merry Christmas.....

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What was a real surprise to me was one of my Aunt's. She talked to me about it before I had the surgery. She had a bypass years ago and the doctor did a terrible job, she suffers every time she eats. They cannot fix what was messed up with her and she is thin, she hasn't gained any weight back so regain has not been a problem. I saw her and her husband and daughter at my other aunts house on Thanksgiving. She didn't say a single word to me about it and was almost acting standoff ish, it made me sad.

My other aunt and uncle on the other hand raved about it. My uncle just kept saying, I can't believe how different you look over and over.

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Why do you need approval? You should just fixate yourself on yourself and focus on the foods you eat and learn how to manipulate your bodys genetics. Once you have your bodys nutritional needs and knows what each one does you will be able to get down to the 10% bf ranges. It might just be that I am a guy but I dont care what others think I just see the light at the end of the tunnel.

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I know I am a little rough and it takes a special woman to be able to take me lol but I understand yall because my wife does the exact same thing with her cousin. When I say Exact I mean Exactly the same thing.

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I find everyones' posts interesting. I personnally hate it when anyone remarks on my weight, whether I gained weight or lost it, but particularly when I lose weight. It makes me very uncomfortable that people are paying that much attention to little (or big) ol' me. I especially hate it when other men, for example a boss, comments.I feel the only one who has a right to comment is the person I share my body with- my husband. So, I think others feel the same way I do. Since I do not want to make others feel uncomfortable,(I don't want people to think I want to intrude into their personal business, so I never comment about someone else's weight. If anything, I will only say, "you look nice today". (I didn't realize by me not commenting, someone would feel hurt or disappointed. I just try to treat others the way I would like to be treated. ) I thought it was bad manners to comment on personal issues, like weight. So I learned something new today!

I feel the same for the most part. I do not like attention like that. Not if I am losing or gaining. You look nice works just fine for me. I have a lot of immature back stabbing women at my job and cringe thinking about after I am sleeved. I have not and will not say a word.

A year or two ago I lost about 40 plus pounds and this gal, who is a big girl became very mean and hateful. Since I have gained it back she is nice again. I truly want to lose to be healthy, tie my shoes, run with my kids, sit on my husband's lap, ect. I dread the attention. I am not shy but it makes me feel very uncomfortable and anxious.

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I never say anything about people weight loss or gain. I was raised being told it was rude to bring it up and that has stuck with me.If someone brings it up themselves then I will say something but otherwise I never say a peep. Im sure they noticed and Im sure you look wonderful! 47 pounds is huge, congratulations :)

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