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20 years old, never had a boyfriend.



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I get butterflies in my stomach just thinking about YOU both having your first kiss. What an NSV (nonscale victory) that will be!

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Im sorry your in this situation. I think we have all have gone through a period of loneliness one way or another. This isnt only about weight loss or what you look like. Its about who you are. Ive been in your shoes before... but after being single after a 12 year relationship, I found myself.. I found what makes me tick and also found the woman in me way before surgery. As long as you take the time to really love the very person that you are today, you will see doors open for you. We arent guaranteed to see tomorrow so weather I lose to my goal weight or never lose again, the one thing I have learned is to love yourself even if it meant the bigger me. People will start to see who you truely are and you wont be looking for happiness in someone else but you will already have it cause its in you.

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I'm feeling for you girl. Its good to keep in mind that when a man jumps on your body, it doesn't necessarily mean that he loves the real you. Keep it cool, and take your time. Its not a crime to not have a boyfriend at 20. Enjoy your life, keep laughing and having a good time. Take the time to get to know those men in your life for who they truly are too...Some men just are not attracted to big girls, thats true, but many are as well. You deserve men in your life that have good character, and will take good care of you! You don't want to end up with someone just because you are hot! Take care, don't be in a big hurry. I like the idea of checking out self help books... Some of them are really helpful. I did a lot of work on myself before I started having healthy relationships with men.

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I'm almost 27. I've been on 3 dates in my life. I've never had a boyfriend. I'm so excited to lose weight and date!!! Im excited to be more confident and I know it will happen for us someday :)

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Take Your time when you date. Get to know the person. Dont focus on looks because looks dont mean anything at all. Focus on the heart. If they have a good heart then thats a big plus.

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I completely relate with you. I am 22 years old, never had a boyfriend. I've had guys in my life interested in me though but could never follow though. I would always tell my girlfriends I was just "picky" buy really I was just ashamed of myself and my body and had no self esteem or confidence. Big mistake on my part, I never let myself be happy. I am soon to be sleeved and I can't wait to actually be myself around guys and let go of my insecurities.

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