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1 hour ago, GreenTealael said:

Self reflection is a super important part of the journey so congrats for taking the time to think about the tough questions ahead of schedule.

Trust in your ability to puzzle it out or seek the help you need

We are here with/for you, cheering you on. Safe surgery tomorrow ❤

Thank you! I appreciate all of the support!!!

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Good luck Snnezer

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Oops I hit the send instead of backspace, but I want to send my very best wishes. Today is my 6 month Surgiversity, hasn't been the journey I booked for, haven't had exactly the results I was seeking, but you know what? Its still good, I'm still betterthan I was. when I started. Fought over 3 years to get my RnY, 3 years 3 weeks to be exact, against what often seemed insurmountable odds. You see I was 72 years 8 months 10 days when I finally received it, many facilities won't accept you past 60, let alone 70+. you're expected to die fat, sick and obese. So I had even more specialists than average to clear me, psychiatrist as well as psychologist, 2 different cardiologists, pulmonologist, sleep study, dieticians/nutritionsists, jumped through every hoop, can't jump high but was successful. Found out some things about me along the way, got confirmation of something I had suspected for years, after hearing God made an error, I was worth living because I didn't fit life 's pigeon- holes , I am Aspergers, a high functioning Autistic, a slightly different motherboard than many but I'm very cool to know. I have wondered literally since adolescence, another of our traits, many of us " rock" on research. But for years the official line was Autistics are male only, thank you Temple Grandin for proving them wrong. We were the silent minority that feel through the cracks, unoticed and underserved Sorry sometimes I got off on a tangent about this, but finding out I wasn't defective, crazy or worthless helped me to finish my journey toward surgery.
I am widowed so don't have themarital dynamic but my son , who I call Tomkitten because my original e- mail had kkatlady in it serves as my #1 support and our bouncing off each other is similar. Yes you will still live your husband, and if he is the right guy, he loved you heavy he' 'll still love you thinner . He fell in love with the inner Sneezed not just the covering. Oh there will be moments when you turn into a Ragin Cajun, as the fat melts a lot of chemicals and hormones get released. I'm long past menopause but I had a weepy day once because I didn't have a picture taken right before surgery. Sounds silly looking back, but I was heartbroken at the time, another day I got weepy because I am starting to resemble a dead relative, I couldn't hardly reconize ME in this face. Everybody says your chest is the first place you lose, not me, it was my forearms and wrists, they started looking like a little old lady owned them.
But my main advice as you face your surgery, dont look back, that's not the way you are heading. This is an investment you are making in you, your future and your marriage. And he will be so proud of you for your strength in seeing this through. You can text me, PM. me but I am going to be one of your biggest fans, usually the ones questioning before have the best end results. No tears, no fears, You Are Going To Do This and Do it Well. Now Big Smile😝 and On You Go! ❤Frustr8❤

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Thinking about you today!

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Was just thinking about you! You must be out of surgery by now. I know you probably wont be on for a few days, but I wish you a very speedy recovery. If you need anything please let me know. Take care!

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Was just thinking about you! You must be out of surgery by now. I know you probably wont be on for a few days, but I wish you a very speedy recovery. If you need anything please let me know. Take care!
I am home resting. Pain is manageable. Sleepy but trying to balance awake time and sleep time.all seems to be ok. Drinking the one ounce is interesting because I get pain in my stomach but it subsides quickly. I'm looking forward to getting some energy back soon.

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Thinking about you today!
Thank you! All is going well. I'm at home resting comfortably.

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On 03/07/2019 at 22:49, sneezergirl said:

I am home resting. Pain is manageable. Sleepy but trying to balance awake time and sleep time.all seems to be ok. Drinking the one ounce is interesting because I get pain in my stomach but it subsides quickly. I'm looking forward to getting some energy back soon.

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Congratulations!!! So glad everything is going well. Now just rest and take it slow

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Those are natural thoughts and concerns going into a major surgery like this. You can do it! Good luck.

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I was the same way before my surgery. I was I guess mourning my fat and the person I had become. I am almost 5 weeks post op and 27 pounds down. You will become more confident, start loving your self a little more each day. As far as the commitment of staying true to the life change in the way you eat, That is still a challenge daily but you have to tell your self this is the life style change you chose for better health and a better you. You will figure it all out just be patient with your self. Find a good support system that you can tell your feelings to and who will be your cheerleaders. You are going to do amazing!!!! Good luck and prayers on Angel Wings.

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On ‎3‎/‎8‎/‎2019 at 9:16 AM, michelle.boone27 said:

I was the same way before my surgery. I was I guess mourning my fat and the person I had become. I am almost 5 weeks post op and 27 pounds down. You will become more confident, start loving your self a little more each day. As far as the commitment of staying true to the life change in the way you eat, That is still a challenge daily but you have to tell your self this is the life style change you chose for better health and a better you. You will figure it all out just be patient with your self. Find a good support system that you can tell your feelings to and who will be your cheerleaders. You are going to do amazing!!!! Good luck and prayers on Angel Wings.

On ‎3‎/‎8‎/‎2019 at 9:16 AM, michelle.boone27 said:

I was the same way before my surgery. I was I guess mourning my fat and the person I had become. I am almost 5 weeks post op and 27 pounds down. You will become more confident, start loving your self a little more each day. As far as the commitment of staying true to the life change in the way you eat, That is still a challenge daily but you have to tell your self this is the life style change you chose for better health and a better you. You will figure it all out just be patient with your self. Find a good support system that you can tell your feelings to and who will be your cheerleaders. You are going to do amazing!!!! Good luck and prayers on Angel Wings.

Thank you! I am 5 days post op and surprised at how hungry I feel most of the day. I'm sticking to my 1 ounce per 15 minutes of liquid and topping out at 80+ grams of Protein a day, and I still feel hungry. Does this subside? I've not weighed myself intentionally so I can focus on something other than the scale, but I do not feel as though any change has happened yet. I will weigh in on Wednesday and then not again until my 3 week post op appointment on the 28th. I'm trying to stay positive....

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On ‎3‎/‎8‎/‎2019 at 7:09 AM, DanaC84 said:
On ‎3‎/‎7‎/‎2019 at 8:49 PM, sneezergirl said:

I am home resting. Pain is manageable. Sleepy but trying to balance awake time and sleep time.all seems to be ok. Drinking the one ounce is interesting because I get pain in my stomach but it subsides quickly. I'm looking forward to getting some energy back soon.

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Congratulations!!! So glad everything is going well. Now just rest and take it slow

I am 5 days post op and my stomach hurts some times when I drink too. like it is stuck at the opening. then goes away. I'm hungry most of the time which concerns me, but the pain is managed well with Tylenol and Advil. It just takes so long to take all the pills. . . an hour to get it all in (Tylenol is liquid, but the Advil is not). I've been averaging 80+grams of Protein a day thanks to genpro ( https://smile.amazon.com/GENEPRO-Musclegen-Research-Flavorless-Certified/dp/B00K6OSDYA/ref=sr_1_5?_encoding=UTF8&hvadid=174268468981&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9033569&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t1&hvqmt=e&hvrand=14981272652004684345&hvtargid=kwd-12063637423&keywords=genpro&qid=1552331291&s=gateway&sr=8-5&tag=googhydr-20&th=1 )

But i'm still hungry. Also using GenPro with shakes from Optavia which have 11 - 14 grams of protein and are 8 oz has really been a great solution... they taste great and the variety provides some great options.

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I am 5 days post op and my stomach hurts some times when I drink too. like it is stuck at the opening. then goes away. I'm hungry most of the time which concerns me, but the pain is managed well with Tylenol and Advil. It just takes so long to take all the pills. . . an hour to get it all in (Tylenol is liquid, but the Advil is not). I've been averaging 80+grams of Protein a day thanks to genpro ( https://smile.amazon.com/GENEPRO-Musclegen-Research-Flavorless-Certified/dp/B00K6OSDYA/ref=sr_1_5?_encoding=UTF8&hvadid=174268468981&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9033569&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t1&hvqmt=e&hvrand=14981272652004684345&hvtargid=kwd-12063637423&keywords=genpro&qid=1552331291&s=gateway&sr=8-5&tag=googhydr-20&th=1 )

But i'm still hungry. Also using genpro with shakes from Optavia which have 11 - 14 grams of Protein and are 8 oz has really been a great solution... they taste great and the variety provides some great options.

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32 minutes ago, sneezergirl said:

I am 5 days post op and my stomach hurts some times when I drink too. like it is stuck at the opening. then goes away. I'm hungry most of the time which concerns me, but the pain is managed well with Tylenol and Advil. It just takes so long to take all the pills. . . an hour to get it all in (Tylenol is liquid, but the Advil is not). I've been averaging 80+grams of Protein a day thanks to genpro ( https://smile.amazon.com/GENEPRO-Musclegen-Research-Flavorless-Certified/dp/B00K6OSDYA/ref=sr_1_5?_encoding=UTF8&hvadid=174268468981&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9033569&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t1&hvqmt=e&hvrand=14981272652004684345&hvtargid=kwd-12063637423&keywords=genpro&qid=1552331291&s=gateway&sr=8-5&tag=googhydr-20&th=1 )

But i'm still hungry. Also using genpro with shakes from Optavia which have 11 - 14 grams of Protein and are 8 oz has really been a great solution... they taste great and the variety provides some great options.

That is fantastic that you already meeting your Protein goals!!

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