Six months post-op+ : The Sophomores Thread

[GreenTealael 24,864]

2 hours ago, sideeye said:

I need more detail. Is it a princess carry? For how long? Are there certain start and end points? Does something specific happen when the carry ends?

Now its all different types at all different occasions. It just happened outdoors 😭 so not just sexy carry but general carrying too. I told him i don't like it (again) and he said he would try to remember. But he really likes picking me up... 😶

[MIZ60 1,291]

12 hours ago, sideeye said:

I need more detail. Is it a princess carry? For how long? Are there certain start and end points? Does something specific happen when the carry ends?

I think the "show a photo or it didn't happen" mandate should apply here....or even a short video...😂

[GreenTealael 24,864]

25 minutes ago, MIZ60 said:

I think the "show a photo or it didn't happen" mandate should apply here....or even a short video...😂

LOL

[sideeye 1,440]

I’ll admit, I’m flummoxed. I mean, you’ve said you don’t like it, especially in public. That should not be hard to remember - maybe needs a pointed booster like “I happen to really like kicking people in the shins who pick me up unexpectedly”. Or maybe screaming like you’re mid-abduction once, and like you MEAN IT, so he’s not tempted to just try it out freelance in future.

Dig and find out WHY he likes picking you up, work from that angle to find a compromise? But if he’s still picking you up when you’ve outright told him not to, and he “tries to remember”... dude, kick him. Or bite him. Or yell “stranger danger”. Take up Krav Maga.

Not picking up another fully grown human is not a challenging concept to retain.

[Orchids&Dragons 9,046]

Man, all this "getting picked up" talk is a flash-back to high school for me. There was this one guy in our speech class who used to pick me (and my desk) up and carry me around the room. I wish it was because I was irresistible, but I always figured that it was because I was the biggest girl in speech class and he was just showing off how strong he was. The teacher would follow him around impotently saying "Orlando, put her down!" Understandably, I skipped speech class a lot.

[GreenTealael 24,864]

6 hours ago, sideeye said:

I’ll admit, I’m flummoxed. I mean, you’ve said you don’t like it, especially in public. That should not be hard to remember - maybe needs a pointed booster like “I happen to really like kicking people in the shins who pick me up unexpectedly”. Or maybe screaming like you’re mid-abduction once, and like you MEAN IT, so he’s not tempted to just try it out freelance in future.

Dig and find out WHY he likes picking you up, work from that angle to find a compromise? But if he’s still picking you up when you’ve outright told him not to, and he “tries to remember”... dude, kick him. Or bite him. Or yell “stranger danger”. Take up Krav Maga.

Not picking up another fully grown human is not a challenging concept to retain.

53 minutes ago, Orchids&Dragons said:

Man, all this "getting picked up" talk is a flash-back to high school for me. There was this one guy in our speech class who used to pick me (and my desk) up and carry me around the room. I wish it was because I was irresistible, but I always figured that it was because I was the biggest girl in speech class and he was just showing off how strong he was. The teacher would follow him around impotently saying "Orlando, put her down!" Understandably, I skipped speech class a lot.

LOL I even said I'm going to pick you up now then he got an excited twinkle in his eyes and said ok do it. I redacted the offer. I will tell him seriously that i don't like it again before it happens so it does not look like a joke.

[FluffyChix 17,409]

It makes them feel manly, strong, and virile, and like they can go caveman on their tiny, smokin' hot, girlfriend. Meh. What's not to like? Enjoy it while you can. Cuz at 55, Mr. F. doesn't even dream about picking anything up more strenuous than a mouse (computer) lol. If I suggested he do it, he'd look at me like I was cray.

[Debbielol 2]

Help I’m so confused. Not loosing much weight 7 months in . I still get full and can’t eat much but I feel like I eat more then I used too . Is this norm . So scared don’t want to screw up but I feel like I might . Eating small meals but snacking to much in between and when I snack I don’t get full . Only when I eat a meal do I get full HELP this doesn’t feel right

[GreenTealael 24,864]

3 minutes ago, Debbielol said:

Help I’m so confused. Not loosing much weight 7 months in . I still get full and can’t eat much but I feel like I eat more then I used too . Is this norm . So scared don’t want to screw up but I feel like I might . Eating small meals but snacking to much in between and when I snack I don’t get full . Only when I eat a meal do I get full HELP this doesn’t feel right

Stop.

[FluffyChix 17,409]

5 minutes ago, Debbielol said:

Help I’m so confused. Not loosing much weight 7 months in . I still get full and can’t eat much but I feel like I eat more then I used too . Is this norm . So scared don’t want to screw up but I feel like I might . Eating small meals but snacking to much in between and when I snack I don’t get full . Only when I eat a meal do I get full HELP this doesn’t feel right

When was your surgery? Sorry you're going through this.

You have to go back to basics, eat your meals. Drink your fluids. Prioritize Protein and al dente veg. No composite, calorie laden, high reward style of meals that make you crave. Just simple Proteins and veg and healthy fats. It's 4 days of pain then blessed relief from the snack and hunger monster.

[Debbielol 2]

Ok I’m back on slim fast twice a day and eating 1 meal at dinner will this reset my stomach and cravings

[mousecat88 2,279]

1 minute ago, Debbielol said:

Ok I’m back on slim fast twice a day and eating 1 meal at dinner will this reset my stomach and cravings

Slim Fast shakes are pretty high carb/calorie (even the "keto" ones). I looked at the "keto" ones the other weekend and was like WTF! Try 5 small meals a day. Or at least pick a better shake like Atkins High Protein or Premier Protein.

Edited April 9, 2019 by mousecat88

[YeahOkay31 651]

1 hour ago, Debbielol said:

Ok I’m back on slim fast twice a day and eating 1 meal at dinner will this reset my stomach and cravings

Hi Debbie.

Slim fast shakes (even keto) are a 'no'. Get yourself some Isopure Zero Carb (https://www.amazon.com/Isopure-Protein-Powder-Isolate-Flavor/dp/B0015R26V8/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?crid=2NYY6LR9OVRPW&keywords=isopure%2Bzero%2Bcarb&qid=1554828012&s=hpc&sprefix=iso%2Chpc%2C116&sr=1-1-spons&th=1) if you must have a shake--mix it with some fairlife, or even Water. But at six months you should really try to be eating solid food at least two of your meals (3-4 oz of lean Protein, 1/2 cup veggies).

Snacks are ok --in my book at least--but something like 1.5 oz of cheese, edamame or cucumber slices. And no more than twice a day. Good luck!

[GreenTealael 24,864]

Commencing Hell Week...

[Debbielol 2]

Slim fast advantage is low carb only 2 sugars and high Protein without looking I know they are 20 gm protein or more