Did you tell the world about your WLS?

[Sleeved36 356]

I am pre-op and have been pretty open with co-workers so far. Not sure how much family I will tell. I have 3 sisters-in-law that are blonde skinny/hangry/judgey, growing up with them is why my husband likes this curvy brunette! I don't need to hear their under educated opinions about anything.

I agree that lying is too much effort and that the more open we are, the more weight loss surgery will lose its stigma. At the same time, we all need to individually decide how much judgement we want to subject ourselves to (especially when you know its coming).

[Bryn910 519]

I have been doing some research/reading on this topic (here and on other forums/sites) & I have found that a lot of bariatric patients find it easier to tell outside people (friends, coworkers, strangers) rather than family.

I dislike it so much that family can be the one to tear you down. 😞

[frust8 962]

That is the truth, or they can be like my oldest RD ( short for Rotten Daughter) she cares so little when I tried to talk to her about it, she redirected the conversation to herself and her troubles. I believe if I had told her I was going to squat down and expose my lady parts to a buzz saw I would have gained the same reaction. She flat out don't care! And since she,was my first- born it hurts deep inside[emoji37]

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[Bryn910 519]

4 minutes ago, frust8 said:

That is the truth, or they can be like my oldest RD ( short for Rotten Daughter) she cares so little when I tried to talk to her about it, she redirected the conversation to herself and her troubles. I believe if I had told her I was going to squat down and expose my lady parts to a buzz saw I would have gained the same reaction. She flat out don't care! And since she,was my first- born it hurts deep inside

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I am so sorry. It’s nice to have these forums for support.

[SleeveinIL 386]

I didn't really tell many people. I told my parents and my in-laws. I was guilted into telling them by my husband. I felt forced to tell my SIL and BIL at Easter and boy did I feel ashamed when I did. I felt sick about it during and afterwards. My manager at work also knows as he has been incredible with allowing me time off for all the appointments. I don't want to deal with others judging me. Maybe at some point I will feel more comfortable about it. Heck, I have lost 45 lbs since Nov and not a single person has said, hey, have you lost weight? Not a single person. My clothes are baggy too. All in all, I am happy with my progress and I feel that is the only person who's opinion that really matters.