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And by “ the world” I mean everyone whom asked you about your weight loss, co-workers, friends, etc.

I was 90% on board with telling people about my WLS. But now my anxiety is through the roof with opening up about it. When I had my VSG, I told people I was having a female related surgery (I have had them in the past) and then told people that I was following a doctor supervised diet. Because I was visibly eating less & losing weight.

But now I am having a revision (regain/GERD) to RNY & I don’t know what to tell people. The only people who know about my revision are my husband, mother & sister. I just feel like I dont want the embarrassment of regain or disappointment from others for having surgery. But people will clearly see my body & eating habits change. Part of me wants to just say nothing but then again I don’t want to hear people talk behind my back or whisper their assumptions about me. Also, part of me feels incredibly guilty about lying! I didn’t feel guilty about lying about the VSG because I was just scared. I have already been around friends/co-works where weight loss surgery topics pop up and I see their dislike for it (even from my obese friends). Deep down I want to shout to the world that I am having it and feel good about it but another part of me feels so ashamed.

I know this topic must have been brought up a lot but I need input/opinions. Thank you in advance to all.

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Everyone outside the fam thinks I had a hiatal hernia repair. :) I'm not the poster child for WLS awareness. So it's my private beeswax and I don't need to tell them about it anymore than my hysterectomy.

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Nope, I just told the people that mattered and went on my way.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-128
GW-130
Size- 2, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 34C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX

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Nope, I just told the people that mattered and went on my way.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-128
GW-130
Size- 2, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 34C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX





Awesome stats! Way to go! I started off just 3lbs heavier then your highest weight. When did you reach your goal?

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Awesome stats! Way to go! I started off just 3lbs heavier then your highest weight. When did you reach your goal?

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Thank you 🙂
I reached my goal in the middle of last month.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-128
GW-130
Size- 2, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 34C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX

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Thank you 🙂
I reached my goal in the middle of last month.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-128
GW-130
Size- 2, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 34C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX



Wow, congrats! What an accomplishment!!!!

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Thank you 🙂
I reached my goal in the middle of last month.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-128
GW-130
Size- 2, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 34C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX



Did you find that you have a lot of loose skin in your mid section or arms?

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2 minutes ago, Myaiku_Kuraitani said:


Thank you 🙂
I reached my goal in the middle of last month.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-128
GW-130
Size- 2, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 34C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX

Huge props and congrats to you!!!

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Did you find that you have a lot of loose skin in your mid section or arms?

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Yeah, definitely my mid section and arms. It's not noticeable though. My arms are the worst of the bunch though.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-128
GW-130
Size- 2, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 34C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX

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I am only in the very early stages yet, haven't even had an initial consult with the surgeon, but should I go ahead with WLS I won't be telling many people at all, if any.

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I would, personally. It has more pros than cons in the long run. It's less of a hassle to tell a lot of people. Some of them have big mouths.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-128
GW-130
Size- 2, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 34C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX

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I am only in the very early stages yet, haven't even had an initial consult with the surgeon, but should I go ahead with WLS I won't be telling many people at all, if any.




I was the same way at first. However, right before surgery I let everyone at work know. It actually was a relief and the outcome was great. Everyone was supportive and now they know not to offer me food. They are just a great support group. Some of them were interested in the surgery for themselves and their spouses. I forgot to mention that I work with 30 men and am the only women here in my office so it was a little intimidating for me, but I knew I wanted to let them know. Before, they would always offer me doughnuts, Cookies and Breakfast tacos. Now, they now I am truly on a healthy path and do not ask me if I want any. They even are courteous enough to ask if its okay to eat around me, which at first can be hard to see, but eventually you get over this phase.

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24 minutes ago, biakitty said:


I was the same way at first. However, right before surgery I let everyone at work know. It actually was a relief and the outcome was great. Everyone was supportive and now they know not to offer me food. They are just a great support group. Some of them were interested in the surgery for themselves and their spouses. I forgot to mention that I work with 30 men and am the only women here in my office so it was a little intimidating for me, but I knew I wanted to let them know. Before, they would always offer me doughnuts, Cookies and Breakfast tacos. Now, they now I am truly on a healthy path and do not ask me if I want any. They even are courteous enough to ask if its okay to eat around me, which at first can be hard to see, but eventually you get over this phase.

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Wow, that is a great support system you have there at work!

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Wow, that is a great support system you have there at work!



Thanks, they are a great group of guys. I think it is very important to have support in the workplace as well as home life.

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I effectively told the entire county, and then some. I'm a reporter for the county newspaper, and once I got back to work, I wrote an editorial commentary about having the surgery. (You can read it here if you want: http://enquirerdemocrat.com/taking-big-step-forward)

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