And by “ the world” I mean everyone whom asked you about your weight loss, co-workers, friends, etc.

I was 90% on board with telling people about my WLS. But now my anxiety is through the roof with opening up about it. When I had my VSG, I told people I was having a female related surgery (I have had them in the past) and then told people that I was following a doctor supervised diet. Because I was visibly eating less & losing weight.

But now I am having a revision (regain/GERD) to RNY & I don’t know what to tell people. The only people who know about my revision are my husband, mother & sister. I just feel like I dont want the embarrassment of regain or disappointment from others for having surgery. But people will clearly see my body & eating habits change. Part of me wants to just say nothing but then again I don’t want to hear people talk behind my back or whisper their assumptions about me. Also, part of me feels incredibly guilty about lying! I didn’t feel guilty about lying about the VSG because I was just scared. I have already been around friends/co-works where weight loss surgery topics pop up and I see their dislike for it (even from my obese friends). Deep down I want to shout to the world that I am having it and feel good about it but another part of me feels so ashamed.

I know this topic must have been brought up a lot but I need input/opinions. Thank you in advance to all.

I have been doing some research/reading on this topic (here and on other forums/sites) & I have found that a lot of bariatric patients find it easier to tell outside people (friends, coworkers, strangers) rather than family.

I dislike it so much that family can be the one to tear you down. ?

That is the truth, or they can be like my oldest RD ( short for Rotten Daughter) she cares so little when I tried to talk to her about it, she redirected the conversation to herself and her troubles. I believe if I had told her I was going to squat down and expose my lady parts to a buzz saw I would have gained the same reaction. She flat out don't care! And since she,was my first- born it hurts deep inside[emoji37]

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4 minutes ago, frust8 said:

That is the truth, or they can be like my oldest RD ( short for Rotten Daughter) she cares so little when I tried to talk to her about it, she redirected the conversation to herself and her troubles. I believe if I had told her I was going to squat down and expose my lady parts to a buzz saw I would have gained the same reaction. She flat out don't care! And since she,was my first- born it hurts deep inside

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I am so sorry. It’s nice to have these forums for support.

I didn't really tell many people. I told my parents and my in-laws. I was guilted into telling them by my husband. I felt forced to tell my SIL and BIL at Easter and boy did I feel ashamed when I did. I felt sick about it during and afterwards. My manager at work also knows as he has been incredible with allowing me time off for all the appointments. I don't want to deal with others judging me. Maybe at some point I will feel more comfortable about it. Heck, I have lost 45 lbs since Nov and not a single person has said, hey, have you lost weight? Not a single person. My clothes are baggy too. All in all, I am happy with my progress and I feel that is the only person who's opinion that really matters.