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For those of you that are keeping surgery a secret, how did you do it?

What was excuse for surgery and time off? Just trying to find a way to set up my story

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I have a job where I could come straight back to work on Monday after having surgery the previous Friday. However I ended up taking 5 more days as sick leave because I had the flu as well. My weight loss is significant but has not been that drastic in a short time. I am now eating well and that would explain the loss to curious minds. I am generally a private person and don't share my medical history so I haven't felt the need or pressure to explain anything.


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I was laid-off in July and took that time to set-up and have the surgery. Worked out weird that I needed to start my new job two weeks after having the surgery. It was fine I just tired easily. And although I have lost 40 something pounds everyone just knows I'm doing low-carb and that explains it. I also bring Water but don't drink it while I eat. No one has said anything to me. I do push my food around a lot and really people aren't paying nearly as much attention as we think they are.


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Sleeved 8.21.2017
Age 45
HW 237 SW 226
CW 199 GW 150
Total Lost - 36.2 lbs

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At work, I only told my one coworker - whom I trust completely not to say anything about it. I felt like I would be judged by everyone else so that’s why I decided to keep it a secret not only at work, but also in my personal life too.

I did a “hybrid” surgery, so they did a liver biopsy at the same time they did my sleeve. I used the biopsy as an excuse for the time off. I’m getting to the point where I’ve lost a noticeable amount of weight. I tell everyone it’s because I’ve changed my lifestyle and they seem to buy it.

IMHO, keeping it a secret has simplified things for me! [emoji4]


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I say I had acid reflux surgery & am doing Keto :) Not super inaccurate. They addressed my reflux issues during the surgery and I am eating ketogenic foods.


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tell them you had digestive issues and had to go in the histpital.

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I make up the most ridiculous diets I can think of and try to convince them that is how I am losing the weight. My latest one is a famous scandinavian diet that consists of being able to eat as many sardines and Peanut Butter as you want, as long as you eat them together. I follow that with jogging backwards for 3 miles a day. 40lbs in 4 weeks - it works! :P

For close friends or people that are genuinely concerned I might have some kind of health issue, I will tell them what I did. If it is someone I don't know well or care about, then they can try to figure it out on their own through one of my crazy diets.

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I only told my boss I was having surgery. Didn’t say what type and she didn’t ask. My leave was approved just under “surgery” title. I told my most trusted coworker before I left. I’ll tell people when I go back to work if they ask, I won’t lie. But they didn’t need to gossip while I’m away ;P

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I started flowing the post op diet 6 months before surgery so I lost a good 40 lbs before surgery. I was pretty public about my change in eating habits pre-ops. Just saying I’m eating clean and high Protein. So everyone knew I was dieting.

That way there wasn’t a sudden loss in anyone’s mind. After the first few weeks post op (where I did loss big numbers) I really lost 2-3 lbs a week, and everyone saw me at the gym everyday. So it was easy to say, yes thanks I am losing weight and working my Ass off. Which wasn’t a lie. [emoji6]. Good luck


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I kept mine a secret at first. Eventually everyone found out because I had complications.

You may find over time, once you’ve lost the weight, it won’t matter as much who knows how you did it. I was embarrassed at first and feared a lack of support but I ended up getting a lot of support. I tell people now and they don’t even blink. Wls is so common these days. :)


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I never understood the point of hiding the surgery as if people are ashamed they needed help to live longer and better. I have a friend whose wife allegedly had "Hernia surgery" then all of a sudden lost over 100lbs...Yeah, ok.... Not one single gym selfie on her social media, in fact I never hear of her working out a single day.. But she lost all this weight...lol

Seriously whats your reasons for hiding it??

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9 hours ago, JerseyJules said:

I have a friend whose wife allegedly had "Hernia surgery" then all of a sudden lost over 100lbs...Yeah, ok....

What a coincidence! ;)

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I told people months before surgery that I’m working on my weight loss via diet & exercise. So, it makes my weight loss look natural. I tell them I’m on a ketogenic diet which is technically true anyway.

I kept it a secret because I don’t like people inputting their opinions on MY CHOICE, MY BODY. People can be so negative & gossip. Only my significant other & one friend know.

At work, I said I was sick that’s why I needed time off and took my sick pay. I wasn’t specific about why I was gone & it’s really none of their business.


Height: 5'0"
Weight for WLS consultation: 216 lbs.
Surgery date: 2/13/17
Goal: -71 lbs for healthy BMI (about 145 lbs).
Current weight: 130 lbs, 10 lbs away from new goal.
My profile picture is not me. It's my "FITspiration" body.

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