Hello, I'm still in the 6 months pre op stage. I will be having gastric sleeve surgery .I am currently trying to stick to my pre op diet. I was not required to lose weight, but it was recommended just to shrink my liver for surgery. It will probably be 3 or 4 months before I have surgery. I don't have a date yet. Well, I find myself getting frustrated with my husband as he eats anything he wants to. He will bring home pastries, chips, pies, etc. It is so very hard for me to stay on track with him bringing these home. However, I feel like it's selfish of me to request him not bring them home anymore. Just because I've changed my eating, he shouldn't have to. Does anyone else have this issue? How did you handle this?

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7 hours ago, Lovely77 said:

Hello, I'm still in the 6 months pre op stage. I will be having gastric sleeve surgery .I am currently trying to stick to my pre op diet. I was not required to lose weight, but it was recommended just to shrink my liver for surgery. It will probably be 3 or 4 months before I have surgery. I don't have a date yet. Well, I find myself getting frustrated with my husband as he eats anything he wants to. He will bring home pastries, chips, pies, etc. It is so very hard for me to stay on track with him bringing these home. However, I feel like it's selfish of me to request him not bring them home anymore. Just because I've changed my eating, he shouldn't have to. Does anyone else have this issue? How did you handle this?

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Out of sight out of mind works for me.

I have asked my husband to keep certain temptation foods out of the house or hide them well.

I did, big time.

Basically, I indulged in a "last meal" that included a fruit pie.

After that, whenever I saw sweets in the house, I would stop and stare at them for as long as it took to process through:

1. the fact that those sweets are part of the reason I ended up at 300lbs.

2. They are just empty calories,

3. there is an unlimited supply of them in the world, so there will ALWAYS be sweets (even in a Zombie Apocalypse)! And if things became so bad that there wasn't any anymore, sweets would be the LAST of my worries.

4. I would think about and realize that I know EXACTLY how it tastes, and if I KNOW how it tastes, then isn't that good enough? I can experience it through memory, and memories are calorie-free.

5. Weight loss is like picking up a new religion. A person of faith usually has to change some behaviors.. setting themselves apart from the rest of society. 70% of Americans are overweight. If we don't want to be part of that statistic, we must behave differently.

I did, big time.
Basically, I indulged in a "last meal" that included a fruit pie.
After that, whenever I saw sweets in the house, I would stop and stare at them for as long as it took to process through:
1. the fact that those sweets are part of the reason I ended up at 300lbs.
2. They are just empty calories,
3. there is an unlimited supply of them in the world, so there will ALWAYS be sweets (even in a Zombie Apocalypse)! And if things became so bad that there wasn't any anymore, sweets would be the LAST of my worries.
4. I would think about and realize that I know EXACTLY how it tastes, and if I KNOW how it tastes, then isn't that good enough? I can experience it through memory, and memories are calorie-free.
5. Weight loss is like picking up a new religion. A person of faith usually has to change some behaviors.. setting themselves apart from the rest of society. 70% of Americans are overweight. If we don't want to be part of that statistic, we must behave differently.

What I find is that you need to rid your house of such temptations. The other thing is, the longer you go without sugar, the more you don’t crave it.

Yeah... well, I can't control what comes into my house, so had to "sit with my feelings". I live with my in-laws, and there is no controlling them. They bring in cakes, cookies, pies, etc. ALL THE TIME. The constant exposure hasn't actually been a bad thing, because I'm now used to it, and it doesn't bother me.

There was a couple months that MIL was in the hospital, so stopped bringing stuff in.. which was fine.. but then when she started again, it's like I had to start over! I get used to it being here or not being here... but when it switches, that's harder. It's an ongoing process.

Yeah... well, I can't control what comes into my house, so had to "sit with my feelings". I live with my in-laws, and there is no controlling them. They bring in cakes, cookies, pies, etc. ALL THE TIME. The constant exposure hasn't actually been a bad thing, because I'm now used to it, and it doesn't bother me.
There was a couple months that MIL was in the hospital, so stopped bringing stuff in.. which was fine.. but then when she started again, it's like I had to start over! I get used to it being here or not being here... but when it switches, that's harder. It's an ongoing process.

Thank you for your reply. Your advice is helpful. Yea, I really don't think I have a choice either. The best I can do is make peace with it and get used to it!

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What I find is that you need to rid your house of such temptations. The other thing is, the longer you go without sugar, the more you don’t crave it.

Thank you for your reply. Yes, that is what I'm hoping for, that one day I'll just be used to it .

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