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I’m down about 70 lbs and I’ve had several people ask me if I’ve changed my hair. I’m hoping they’re just being a bit awkward bc I’m hoping that 70lbs is much more noticeable than a hair cut. But at the same time when someone says I look like a whole new person, I feel weird. I never knew this part of the journey was going to be uncomfortable. I didn’t struggle with weight until after my kids and gained over 100lbs so when people tell me I look like a whole new person, I actually just look like me again.

I’ve also been dealing with not grasping the fact that I’m not 256 lbs anymore and am afraid to embrace my new weight. I’m so used to failing over and over again in the weight loss department that I’m terrified to let this be real.


Sleeved 8/7/17 HW: 256 SW: 248
CW: 188 on 3/7/18 5'7" GW: 150

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I've given away at least 30 bags of clothing ... I don't have much now (can't buy EVERYTHING at once) but at least what I have fits!


I’ve also given away tons and tons and literally have 6-8 pieces of clothing I mix and match. Now that it is starting to warm up, I’m panicking bc all I have is winter stuff. It feels really, really good to have a really well cleaned out closet but I do look like I’m wearing a uniform with such a small wardrobe!


Sleeved 8/7/17 HW: 256 SW: 248
CW: 188 on 3/7/18 5'7" GW: 150

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I just had my first experience with someone treating me negatively re surgery and weight loss. My sister has clearly become the green eyed monster because I’m down 90 + lots of new muscle, full of self-confidence and people raved about how I looked at her husband’s bday dinner. I was always the better looking, relationship successful sister but when I got heavier I lost my self esteem, haven’t dated since 2009 and she got married. I decided to cut her out of my life for at least a while. She also said the surgery made me skinny even though it was surgery helping me change my diet and doing 10 workouts a week. That belittles how hard I’ve worked.

What’s extra silly is she’s naturally thin. She has a much smaller frame while my mom says I’m built like a German (IDK!) and have always been an athletic body type.

Why can’t people just be happy for you?


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People resent you getting fit with the help of surgery because they feel you didn't suffer enough to get there. They want you to suffer for being fat.

They also are threatened if you go from obese to more fit than they are.

In short, people are the worst.

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What I'm interested in is whether any of you have folks in your lives who are also heavy who are taking your success to heart and thinking about also getting sleeved.

Frankly, I sort of assumed there would be, as I have several truly heavy friends and family members. But nope, no one is into this at all. Even the heavy people who are supportive of me don't seem to be considering doing the surgery themselves. They're continuing to double down on new gym regimes, new diets, etc.

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What I'm interested in is whether any of you have folks in your lives who are also heavy who are taking your success to heart and thinking about also getting sleeved.
Frankly, I sort of assumed there would be, as I have several truly heavy friends and family members. But nope, no one is into this at all. Even the heavy people who are supportive of me don't seem to be considering doing the surgery themselves. They're continuing to double down on new gym regimes, new diets, etc.


I was honestly expecting my brother in law to at least get serious about diet and exercise. Surprisingly there’s no one in my life currently the size/BMI for surgery but my BIL will be if he doesn’t get his **** together. Actually, there’s one person...my mom’s boss and family friend who has type II diabetes and would qualify but instead tries and fails bullshit multi level marketing diets that aren’t sustainable because it’s prepackaged mediocre food. However, I haven’t seen him since losing the bulk of my weight so I don’t know if I could be inspiration. This surgery was amazing for me and I praise it whenever anyone knows and asks or guesses.


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Some of my friends have said they wish they could have it done but can’t afford it, for them it’s the cost. In the uk just about everyone has to pay for bariatric surgery, the nhs will only pay if it’s life threatening and then you have to wait years. Private Insurance won’t pay so for me I had to pay $16,000. Luckily I had recently retired (early) and had a good pay out so my husband said it was the best thing we could use the money towards to make sure I lived longer to enjoy my retirement and the grandkids. I am proud I had it done and my friends all seem to support me.

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For me its my sister, unfortunately its the cost because her type of insurance wont cover any cost. She is so depressed and agitated because she has changed the way she eats and goes to gym 6 days a week. Im giving her all the encouragement i can to help her get thru her own journey. Im the best supportive sister i can be, she is my world and all i want is happiness for her!!😀

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For me its my sister, unfortunately its the cost because her type of insurance wont cover any cost. She is so depressed and agitated because she has changed the way she eats and goes to gym 6 days a week. Im giving her all the encouragement i can to help her get thru her own journey. Im the best supportive sister i can be, she is my world and all i want is happiness for her!![emoji3]

Have u suggested the presurgery diet to help her. I almost skipped the surgery because I had such good results from the diet alone


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I have no idea if this is a case of cause-and-effect, but I ran into a former coworker at the doctors' office; he's quite heavy and has struggled with losing weight. Someone else later told me he was going to have the surgery . . . he's one of the very few people who remarked that I looked different (at about 60 pounds lost). But he hasn't communicated with me at all about his decision. Either way--I'm happy to think he's going to take charge of this problem. He's young, he's smart, and he's nice--he deserves the best future he can have.

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2 hours ago, tovasha said:


Have u suggested the presurgery diet to help her. I almost skipped the surgery because I had such good results from the diet alone


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I have, she doesnt believe she can do it. She is in a weight watchers group and seems to like it, but still not losing weight. Me personally, they are just like a carnival and meant to take your money. Even her Dr told her that. Ive tried all that, and it didnt work for me as well.

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Weight Watchers works to an extent, unless you are insulin resistant - which I believe many of us are - once they allowed fruit to NOT count toward points I could not lose much weight. And it goes in reverse - you gradually eat less and less food (points) and that messes your metabolism up more. So each time you attempt the program you get less results. With wls - you start out with smaller portions/ounces and add more as your metabolism revs up. And then the constant sales pitch for products plus changing the program every two years so you need more new products - point calculator, books, points guides, etc etc. just became less of a support system.

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Today I'm 7 months post op... I've gone from 294 to 224 lbs. I've lost a total of 70 pounds since preop 62 since surgery and 89 lbs from my highest of 313. It has been such an emotional roller coaster for me but I'm so very glad I went through with this surgery. I know for a fact- I would have never been able to lose 70 pounds on my own and keep it off. I'm still a ways to go but I'm positive about my journey and I've stopped comparing my loss to others and that's helped me so much ---and of course the fact that I look damned good.[emoji41] will post progress pics when I have a chance. Hope you all are accepting and enjoying this journey for what it Is! A lifestyle change that will only benefit you! Love yourself enough to not compare your rate of loss to others and take it day by day. That's how I did it. Hope this helps someone who feels down about there "average" loss.

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I should also mention that I've inspired my niece who is only 5'2 And 280 lbs to go ahead and go through the 6 month process to getting approved for vsg surgery. She is only 21 so I want her to enjoy the life she deserves. She's will be having surgery August 2018! Some people will keep trying to lose weight on their own and then there's people who know with certainty that they need this tool to lose. I'm glad she realizes that it's way too hard to keep losing and gaining it back the 'natural' way. Some people need drastic measures to improve their health. If that means I should cut out 80% of my stomach so be it.

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Weight Watchers works to an extent, unless you are insulin resistant - which I believe many of us are - once they allowed fruit to NOT count toward points I could not lose much weight. And it goes in reverse - you gradually eat less and less food (points) and that messes your metabolism up more. So each time you attempt the program you get less results. With wls - you start out with smaller portions/ounces and add more as your metabolism revs up. And then the constant sales pitch for products plus changing the program every two years so you need more new products - point calculator, books, points guides, etc etc. just became less of a support system.

Ugh, weight watchers. I have joined it so may times over the years, it’s embarrassing. I drove by it the other day and I happily said, out loud too, never again! My goal is a healthy relationship with foods, eating the appropriate amount of real, clean food. I hated how WW always pushed fat free cheese and artificial stuff. Saying no more to weight watchers was actually a very cathartic moment for me. My bariatric support group and this site are where it’s at for me now! No more counting points, EVER!


Sleeved 8/7/17 HW: 256 SW: 248
CW: 188 on 3/7/18 5'7" GW: 150
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