OK, so I am very involved in the Veterans of Foreign Wars in Michigan. On Saturday we attended a fundraiser and I had no less than 10 people pull me aside to talk about my weight loss. And all 10 of them told me, "Well you don't need to lose any more weight or you will look sickly." I thought that was pretty ballsy. Who are they to tell me that I don't need to lose any more weight? Maybe I should have gone to them to perform the RNY on me since they have apparently all been to medical school. Mind your own damn business people and just be happy for me to be healthier.

Sorry, my rant is now over (it has been gnawing away at me since Saturday night). Please continue with your day.

Well at least you are talking to your face and not behind you back.

I want to lose 20-25 more pounds so people can gossip about me and say I am on drugs or something

People have no idea what normal looks like. When I watch old movies I realize how fat everyone is.

Yep that was me last week. 3 separate people pulled me aside and told me I could stop now. Really, I didn't know I needed other's permission to stop losing weight. 2 of the 3 also warned me about looking old or "gaunt" if I lose too much...Mind trip.

I can't wait to have this problem, lol! But it'll irk the heck out of me, I know that.


RNY 14 April 2017
SW: 295 lb / 134 kg
GW: 187 lb / 85 kg (I'll see when I get there)

well there is a fine line between looking thin and looking gaunt. It can happen anytime- it has happened to me but I put a stop to that with a quickness. My concern is that I continue lose weight and I don't want to. My weight was stable for a while, but since I started in this new position the weight is sliding off again. I do eat-3 meals but find myself being hungry in between (which was not happening before) this job does require more activeness, so I am wondering if I need to increase my caloric intake. Any thoughts?

2 minutes ago, Katriena said:

I can't wait to have this problem, lol! But it'll irk the heck out of me, I know that.


RNY 14 April 2017
SW: 295 lb / 134 kg
GW: 187 lb / 85 kg (I'll see when I get there)

Ha!!! yeah that's what I said, and now I am like "NOOOOO my booty is gone!" I would like to stop the weight loss personally

Maybe you could say, "Thanks for your concern. If I lose too much weight I'll ask to borrow some of yours."

OK, so I am very involved in the Veterans of Foreign Wars in Michigan. On Saturday we attended a fundraiser and I had no less than 10 people pull me aside to talk about my weight loss. And all 10 of them told me, "Well you don't need to lose any more weight or you will look sickly." I thought that was pretty ballsy. Who are they to tell me that I don't need to lose any more weight? Maybe I should have gone to them to perform the RNY on me since they have apparently all been to medical school. Mind your own damn business people and just be happy for me to be healthier.

Sorry, my rant is now over (it has been gnawing away at me since Saturday night). Please continue with your day.

These so called well wishers are just jealous and think we should do weight loss on our own no surgery, well in 2013 I was up to 238 lbs and I'm 4'11" my bmi is at 42, five years later I've managed to get down now to 204-210 but I fluctuate all the time. My own mother had more confidence in me when I quit drugs than she has for keeping the weight off. I dont get it but I dont care anymore. I'm doing this and I'm gonna do it right now. I've tried long enough to do it alone and I don't feel guilty asking for the tools I will receive thru wls.

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Maybe you could say, "Thanks for your concern. If I lose too much weight I'll ask to borrow some of yours." [emoji4]

Great answer can't wait to use that one lol


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People love to be told they're right. Just say "Thanks, I'm working with my doctor on it." I know I have been surprised by others' weight loss, and get concerned.

51 minutes ago, FatChicGettinFit said:

Maybe you could say, "Thanks for your concern. If I lose too much weight I'll ask to borrow some of yours."

Good one!!!

3 hours ago, BRINGSEXXYBACK13 said:

well there is a fine line between looking thin and looking gaunt. It can happen anytime- it has happened to me but I put a stop to that with a quickness. My concern is that I continue lose weight and I don't want to. My weight was stable for a while, but since I started in this new position the weight is sliding off again. I do eat-3 meals but find myself being hungry in between (which was not happening before) this job does require more activeness, so I am wondering if I need to increase my caloric intake. Any thoughts?

Think this is a no brainer, yes you need to eat more. Have snacks. I have a min of 5 and sometimes 6-7 meals a day depending on the day.

14 hours ago, BRINGSEXXYBACK13 said:

well there is a fine line between looking thin and looking gaunt. It can happen anytime- it has happened to me but I put a stop to that with a quickness. My concern is that I continue lose weight and I don't want to. My weight was stable for a while, but since I started in this new position the weight is sliding off again. I do eat-3 meals but find myself being hungry in between (which was not happening before) this job does require more activeness, so I am wondering if I need to increase my caloric intake. Any thoughts?

My NUT recommends eating 4 - 5 mini meals a day every 3 - 4 hours. She doesn't want us to be hungry in between meals.

This might help with your hunger. Also if you are more active, you probably need more calories. Add a healthy snack in between 2 of your 3 meals.

12 hours ago, FatChicGettinFit said:

Maybe you could say, "Thanks for your concern. If I lose too much weight I'll ask to borrow some of yours."

LMAO !!! Haha

Yessssss! I hate it, every single f'n day my coworkers ask how much i am down too, i had to finally say i quit weighing myself. Slower weight loss process 3 months out for me so i felt i kept saying the same weight. People are so annoying. They say dont loose anymore, and im like im still 200lbs then they're like oh you dont look like you weigh that much[emoji19]

HW 260
SW 245
CW 200
Sleeved 2/8/2017

20 hours ago, Redmaxx said:

OK, so I am very involved in the Veterans of Foreign Wars in Michigan. On Saturday we attended a fundraiser and I had no less than 10 people pull me aside to talk about my weight loss. And all 10 of them told me, "Well you don't need to lose any more weight or you will look sickly." I thought that was pretty ballsy. Who are they to tell me that I don't need to lose any more weight? Maybe I should have gone to them to perform the RNY on me since they have apparently all been to medical school. Mind your own damn business people and just be happy for me to be healthier.

Sorry, my rant is now over (it has been gnawing away at me since Saturday night). Please continue with your day.

I never told anyone about my WLS , but my husband. I started out at 223, I'm still 189lbs when my friends say "you can't loose another 25lbs " I say ..."I can most certainly do what I want " and then I laugh...and they laugh too. I think people mean it 1/2 as a compliment and 1/2 jealously ...maybe something else mixed in too. I have 4 close friends, 1 never even commented yet (the skinny one) , 1 commented after my weight became the conversation( the biggest one now) , the other 2 complimented me soon as they seen me (they are snow birds so I didn't see them in 3 months). I was the biggest one, now I'm the 2nd smallest one, so group dynamics change, people don't always like it, but they'll get over it!