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I think in situations like this there are a few obvious things in play. The first one is that there is an established social order in this particular click of women. That is, this group of women socializes by going out to eat and that is no longer something that appeals to you. Second, you, knowing how painful it is to be very overweight in a culture that doesn't allow women to a joy to have body variety, in addition to whatever torment the individual holds that causes them to over eat to the point of becoming unhealthy, you represent the trigger. You have taken redemptive action that takes a great deal of courage, and your friends aren't there yet. Can you imagine how triggered they might sometimes get to see you accomplishing what they perhaps dream of doing? Most people do not have the skills to express their emotions lovingly when they hurt. Maybe be a little easier on yourself and your friends and invite them to do something that they can physically handle that does not center around food, or, begin finding yourself a new group to hang out with that is more active. Or both! Best of luck.

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I don't know.. I guess I don't understand why going out is so taboo.. you have to eat too! My family went out to Celebrate an anniversary during my full liquid week. I ordered hot tea and milk. Had a nice chat, and other than telling the waitress I was on a special diet, there was nothing weird.

Perhaps the difference is I live with 6 other people. I'm constantly surrounded by food that I can't eat. A restaurant is no different.

I would LIKE those around me to change and get healthy.. but it is their choice. I changed for me. They have their own journey to make. If I become a b****, I do believe it will be counter productive.

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