In need of some real answers to myself. Went for my 4 of 6 monthly DR visits and have only lost about 7 pounds in this time, she thinks I may not have the want to stick with it after the surgery. It was my GP not the surgeon.......if I can't show more weight loss will my surgeon tell me no,,,,,,,,,insurance nor surgeon have said anything about having to lose weight and I am failing. What if I can't do it, questioning myself after my check in today.........have been walking, gave up soda, trying to not eat junk and that is my weakest point........not going to have surgery until the end of June if everything passes..........really down on myself today, been ready to break into being a crybaby all day......is there anyone out there that didn't know if they could do it but did

The doc may have said that to get you riled up. As in.. "I'll show her!"

If you want to lose weight, eat nothing but meat and nonstarchy vegetables. Unless your metabolism is absolute toast, that will knock some pounds off. No drinking calories.

You can do this! Have a good cry, then get mad!

It appears that you had a lap band and are currently trying to obtain a revision to RNY gastric bypass. What happens to several individuals with lap band is a serious complication where the band erodes into the stomach. This is a dangerous condition and causes several individuals to transition to gastric bypass to correct the problem.

I am over 3 1/2 years post-op RNY gastric bypass. One of the interesting things that happened to me was that after surgery I completely lost my hunger. When hunger is not constantly, continually gnawing at my bones, I found that it was not difficult to drop the weight. The experience after surgery was not akin to dieting. It was a totally different experience. Many people experience this effect (but not all). Generally you will not notice this effect take hold until you transition from the puree to solid stage of the program.

Generally pre-op, the insurance requirement is to show that you are trying very hard to lose weight through diet and exercise. So make sure you document your attempts such as giving up soda, walking each day. Document your diet through a journal to track your food intake. Attend bariatric surgery support group meetings. And let nature take its course.

It appears that you had a lap band and are currently trying to obtain a revision to RNY gastric bypass. What happens to several individuals with lap band is a serious complication where the band erodes into the stomach. This is a dangerous condition and causes several individuals to transition to gastric bypass to correct the problem.

I am over 3 1/2 years post-op RNY gastric bypass. One of the interesting things that happened to me was that after surgery I completely lost my hunger. When hunger is not constantly, continually gnawing at my bones, I found that it was not difficult to drop the weight. The experience after surgery was not akin to dieting. It was a totally different experience. Many people experience this effect (but not all). Generally you will not notice this effect take hold until you transition from the puree to solid stage of the program.

Generally pre-op, the insurance requirement is to show that you are trying very hard to lose weight through diet and exercise. So make sure you document your attempts such as giving up soda, walking each day. Document your diet through a journal to track your food intake. Attend bariatric surgery support group meetings. And let nature take its course.

I am hoping that my hunger goes away. I lost 100 lbs over the course of about 8 months the "natural way" in 2007. For 6-7 or so years after that, I had CHRONIC hunger. Like, non-stop, distracting hunger. I told my doctors, reached out to friends, and even started therapy to try to figure out what was happening.

Now, more than a decade later, my surgeon's office tells me that my experience is very common for people that manage to have extreme weightloss quickly; I was suffering from a diminished metabolism.

Thankfully, my sense of hunger has mostly abated in the last 3-4 years. My biggest wish is that I lose my sense of hunger after surgery!

no lap band, just getting prepared for bypass

Dieting is hard. If it were easy, we'd all be thin without needing surgery!

Just do your best and keep at it. I'm the type of person that has to stay away from the junk altogether -- trying to have sugar in moderation just doesn't work for me. Others can schedule dessert once a week and go the rest of the week not having it, and for them it's not a problem. You know yourself best -- are you able to schedule a treat in for once in awhile as a way of sticking to your diet the rest of the time?

Are you someone who likes challenges? Maybe you can join a diet or fitness challenge (either on here, or check out DietBet).

Otherwise just keep trucking along. If you mess up, don't write the day off, or the diet off: just pick right back up and keep going.