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People and their big mouths

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So....here it goes..... i need to have a rant to people who understand.

I had my sleeve done 8 weeks ago... have lost 33lbs last time i checked.. haven't weighed myself in a while.. but i am sure I've lost more since..... 55lbs till i reach goal.

I was 209 when i last checked and an (Australian) size 14 which is quite loose on me... and i am 5'7" so i wouldn't say i am very big by the usual standards... i haven't told anyone other than my family about the surgery to avoid negativity.

So today we had a family get together and wore something i have not been able to fit into in a while.. i was feeling great, really proud of my progress and excited about finally being able to fit into my usual clothes.

One of my family members i have not seen since my first week post op... and this was the comment...

"What was the point of you getting surgery... you arent even skinny yet, what was the point of getting your stomach cut off if you are only going to lose so little in 8 weeks... in my eyes YOU ARE STILL FAT"

Omg.... really? The rest of my family were commenting that it's really starting to show and i am starting to look what i did before i gained weight after removing the band.

So, i basically said "i am not allowing you to belittle my hard work, i won't be subjected to your negativity and will not tolerate being put down" and left.

Why do people feel the need to say such stupid things..why can't they just keep their mouths shut!

It upset me... because i was finally getting my confidence and groove back

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    OMG. So freakin rude! I'm in australia too and would love a buddy as I will be having the op in the next couple of months.

    Oh yay! Another aussie! There are a few of us on here...

    @@KindaFamiliar @ @@aussiecosy

    When are you having your surgery? What are you getting done?

    hi all!

    Ill have my op in January

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    You hit the nail on the head... i have always truly felt that particular family member has some mental issues... they have no empathy for anyone... and seem to get off on the pain of other people, no verbal filter and literally never felt remorse when they have wronged anyone.

    They have lied, cheated, stolen, physically abused people and has always been proud of it.. grrr

    This is why i don't really speak to them, only when i "must" and it is unavoidable... hence why i only saw them 2 months after my surgery.... very toxic and negative person.. who needs that in their life... not me

    You're doing the best thing. Number one rule we have is to go 'No contact.' That includes no social media, birthday cards, Christmas etc. and act as if they never existed. That way they get no attention and most will eventually leave alone.

    I'm sorry it's happened. Just know that they target the people who have an abundance of what they don't have. So you'll be kind, caring, considerate, valued and appreciated by others... a lovely soul. That's why they target you to take you out. Giggling a bit in that I really feel a need to 'disinfect' my brain after dealing with the garbage that spews out of their mouths. It's kinda funny that by now I know that their targets are actually the kinds of people who make life beautiful! Decent people with sound values.

    Sent from my SM-A500FU using the BariatricPal App

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    It makes me wonder though how many people deal with or are in abusive relatonships and have been "broken" by these people to a point that they are too scared to cease contact.

    I remember being so petrified when they were around, walking on egg shells practically... somehow after my first surgery i gained confidence and became stronger.... now i won't tolerate abuse or anyone disrespecting me... regardless of who they are...

    Its a funny side effect of losing weight... i found my inner strength and voice.... has anyone else become stronger as a result of wls?

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