So....here it goes..... i need to have a rant to people who understand.

I had my sleeve done 8 weeks ago... have lost 33lbs last time i checked.. haven't weighed myself in a while.. but i am sure I've lost more since..... 55lbs till i reach goal.

I was 209 when i last checked and an (Australian) size 14 which is quite loose on me... and i am 5'7" so i wouldn't say i am very big by the usual standards... i haven't told anyone other than my family about the surgery to avoid negativity.

So today we had a family get together and wore something i have not been able to fit into in a while.. i was feeling great, really proud of my progress and excited about finally being able to fit into my usual clothes.

One of my family members i have not seen since my first week post op... and this was the comment...

"What was the point of you getting surgery... you arent even skinny yet, what was the point of getting your stomach cut off if you are only going to lose so little in 8 weeks... in my eyes YOU ARE STILL FAT"

Omg.... really? The rest of my family were commenting that it's really starting to show and i am starting to look what i did before i gained weight after removing the band.

So, i basically said "i am not allowing you to belittle my hard work, i won't be subjected to your negativity and will not tolerate being put down" and left.

Why do people feel the need to say such stupid things..why can't they just keep their mouths shut!

It upset me... because i was finally getting my confidence and groove back

Edited June 26, 201610 yr by AussieGirl81

People suck...

You're doing a great job and you know it...

Don't let some toolbag with a big mouth get you down...

Keep doing what you're doing...

F*ck the haters!!

@@KindaFamiliar

Thanks hun, its easier when i stranger does it... but when your own family members do it... it hurts so much more...

Mind you, this comment came from someone who is morbidly obese themselves,... so if anything they should understand!

Edited June 26, 201610 yr by AussieGirl81

Being that they're made of people, families suck too...

Yeah people and family definitely can suck. They're just jealous and hateful. Keep doing your thing and when you reach your goal, tell them to kiss your ass.

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Edited June 26, 201610 yr by PrinceVanHalen

I kinda wish i had said that lol

I read somewhere that the only taste of success some people get is the bite they take out of you. Seems like your success is tasting pretty bitter in some ones mouth. Don't let this jealous person steal your groove. You earned it.

Congratulations on your fantastic weight loss efforts so far!

Omg! That's just horrible! They are obviously jealous of you and what you have already accomplished. I have a family member that I know would say something like that if she knew I was wanting to have surgery....therefore she will never find out. I'm so sorry this happened to you!! And congrats on the weight loss so far! I know it hasn't been easy!

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Edited June 26, 201610 yr by jennmonterrozo

Congrats to you for your progress! And what an a$$!! I cannot believe someone would say that - to anyone let alone family!! I'm so sorry that happened. I don't have any advice but just wanted to say that I am feeling irate for you!

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Thanks everyone for your support... that family member is usually a jerk.. so i don't have high expectations from them... but secretly it has actually cut me deep...

But i guess i need to remind myself that its their ignorance that they expect me to go from obese to healthy in a couple of weeks.

What makes me so sensitive to it is that i really did try after i had my band not to regain, and this surgery was a last resort.. so to have someone mock that, hurt that little bit extra... grrrr

Perhaps i should have shoved the sunday family roast lamb in their mouth to shut them up! Hahaha

Edited June 26, 201610 yr by AussieGirl81

I read somewhere that the only taste of success some people get is the bite they take out of you. Seems like your success is tasting pretty bitter in some ones mouth. Don't let this jealous person steal your groove. You earned it.

I'm going to have to steal that line a few times in my life. ☺

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What the heck? That is stunningly offensive, mean, rude, and RIDICULOUS! What, losing 55+lbs in such a short period of time isn't good enough? Are they simple-minded? Have they EVER heard of anyone losing 100+lbs in 2-3 months? That's crazy to expect something like that overnight. Duh.

I'm so sorry that happened. My in-laws are rude jerks who have commented on my weight in the past, so I'm certainly NOT telling them about the surgery. No point trying to educate asses.

...Perhaps i should have shoved the sunday family roast lamb in their mouth to shut them up! Hahaha

I was thinking the opposite end of the digestive tract would have been more appropriate for the rude people.

Use it as a motivator. You'll show them next time you see them and they will have to eat their words.

It upset me... because i was finally getting my confidence and groove back

when your own family members do it... it hurts so much more...

Mind you, this comment came from someone who is morbidly obese themselves,... so if anything they should understand!

Every bozo you've ever encountered who wasn't your family was family to someone. Being family doesn't preclude stupidity, obliviousness, self-loathing and fear. Your relative just happens to have cornered the market on all of them. The comments to you have no bearing on your life, never mind your work and success. Good for you for speaking up. Your confidence and groove are yours. Screw the fools.