I feel like Im completely alone :(

[MiloAndTheDiamonds 24]

Hi, first of all english is not my first language so Im sorry if I make some mistakes while writing

My surgery (sleeve) is in 9 days and in the past few days I've been feeling completely alone. My family supports my surgery but lives on the other side of the country, my best friend is on the other side of the country too doing her residency and my boyfriend is the kind of people that freezes with medical stuff so he's been nervous and avoiding talking about my surgery at all costs.

And I just feel like I need to vent, you know? Im already on the liquid diet, it's hard, and I havent lost a single pound in 5 days!! Im nervous about so many things! I don't doubt about having my surgery, Im just anxious and nervous and I want to talk about it! And I feel I don't have anyone to talk.... Until two days ago my mom was the one I could talk all day, but now she's more nervous than me and asking every 2 hours if Im sure and sending me articles about "natural" alternatives to loose weight without surgery.

Now Im distracting myself with work, and concentrating on being my own support, but I can't help feel scared. It would be great to talk to someone.

Did any of you felt like this before surgery???

[M!@ 320]

Hi, first of all english is not my first language so Im sorry if I make some mistakes while writing

My surgery (sleeve) is in 9 days and in the past few days I've been feeling completely alone. My family supports my surgery but lives on the other side of the country, my best friend is on the other side of the country too doing her residency and my boyfriend is the kind of people that freezes with medical stuff so he's been nervous and avoiding talking about my surgery at all costs.

And I just feel like I need to vent, you know? Im already on the liquid diet, it's hard, and I havent lost a single pound in 5 days!! Im nervous about so many things! I don't doubt about having my surgery, Im just anxious and nervous and I want to talk about it! And I feel I don't have anyone to talk.... Until two days ago my mom was the one I could talk all day, but now she's more nervous than me and asking every 2 hours if Im sure and sending me articles about "natural" alternatives to loose weight without surgery.

Now Im distracting myself with work, and concentrating on being my own support, but I can't help feel scared. It would be great to talk to someone.

Did any of you felt like this before surgery???

Milo, you are not alone...we are here to help and also let you vent when you need to.

It is natural to be nervous prior to such a life changing event, and it is natural for your boyfriend and mother to experience their own feelings of anxiety about this. They seem to really care about your health and well being.

[wendilin 29]

Thanks for reaching out to the forum, there are some amazing people here that can be a good support. My surgery isn't until September so I can't comment on that. Best of luck with your journey, it is quite the life changing experience!

Wendilin

[MiloAndTheDiamonds 24]

Thanks @M!@ and @@wendilin for replying so fast! I really appreciate your answers and taking the time to talk to me

[Christinamo7 4,041]

it is completely normal for both of you to be scared! this is a MAJOR life change. keep your eye on the prize. You'll be in my prayers this next two weeks as you go through this.

please don't worry about the scale in the next month. things will be crazy. you may loose weight you may not. you may retain fluids from surgery, you might not. The program works, I promise. just follow your surgeon's plan and it will be good.

Please let us know how you are doing. there's a lot of support here, and even though I do have a very supportive partner I couldn't do this without my peeps here who are going through or have gone through the process.

[MiloAndTheDiamonds 24]

Thanks @@Christinamo7 for your sweet words, it means a lot to me!

I definetly should stop weighing myself and focus on positive thoughts

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Welcome to BP. You'll find some good information, nice people, and great support here.

Very best to you.

P.S. Your English seems perfect to me.

[kat27641 34]

I agree with Christinamo- keep your eye on the prize! I had all sorts of crazy thoughts before and after. All my husband kept saying was if this is what you want. I didn't really find that supportive, he asked very few questions and all I could think he was thinking was how this was going to affect him and what I would be feeding him. The preop shake diet was rough for me too...hang in there.

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[MiloAndTheDiamonds 24]

Welcome to BP. You'll find some good information, nice people, and great support here.

Very best to you.

P.S. Your English seems perfect to me.

Aww thanks! There are definitely really nice people in here, Im glad I posted today!

[MiloAndTheDiamonds 24]

I agree with Christinamo- keep your eye on the prize! I had all sorts of crazy thoughts before and after. All my husband kept saying was if this is what you want. I didn't really find that supportive, he asked very few questions and all I could think he was thinking was how this was going to affect him and what I would be feeding him. The preop shake diet was rough for me too...hang in there.

My boyfriend is like that! Thanks for sharing it, I feel better knowing Im know the only one who felt like this before surgery. The preop diet is hard, but Im not really hungry so that makes it easier! I still have a few days to go...

[165B445 188]

Yes, post something daily to let us all know how your feeling, doing... this is one big classroom of support... I was just sleeve on May 18 and going thru this post op with help/advice or encouraging words of others... glad your feeling less alone... keep us posted

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[cc70 5]

I've just had gastric sleeve surgery on 17 May already I feel great xx

Remember why you are doing it xx to be healthy vibrant more beautiful x

Inside and out xx visualise the new you and image your wonderful new life xx and your English is brilliant xx

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[katesuccess 990]

Get to a support group if you possibly can! It is great to be with people who completely understand and want to talk about it (in detail, lol) as much as you do. I use this site as a support, but also have a good friend and an outside support group through the HMO that did my surgery. They also have a nutritionist and a therapist who help lead, so no one runs amok and we can ask lots of questions.

Good luck - you're not alone in this as long as you have the smarts to reach out like you did. Well done!

[MiloAndTheDiamonds 24]

Thanks! Im seeing a therapist and its been helpfull. Talking and posting in here definetly helps a lot, we don't have many support groups in my country unfortunately, but maybe its time to start one!

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[MiloAndTheDiamonds 24]

I've just had gastric sleeve surgery on 17 May already I feel great xx

Remember why you are doing it xx to be healthy vibrant more beautiful x

Inside and out xx visualise the new you and image your wonderful new life xx and your English is brilliant xx

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This is great advice, thank you so much! I feel like Im running a marathon and getting surgery will be like crossing the finish line.

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