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mirVSG    10

mirVSG
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Hello beautiful people!!

I was wondering if any of you chose not to tell your family and friends about your WLS?

I feel this is like if I wanted to get my tubes tied because I no longer wanted to have children I wouldn't tell everyone.

Am I alone in this? If I am, for those of you who have had the surgery done are thee risks or benefits to telling ot not telling?!

Thanks!!

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mmy    62

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Hi, my surgery is booked on April 30th and like you I'm not planning on telling anyone about this except Hubby and my mum. I just don't want to hear people telling me I didn't need the surgery or asking if I tried dieting before opting for the surgery! Those are just questions that get me angry and I just want to focus on my weight loss and enjoy it. I don't want anyone to ruin it for me

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silverthreads    183

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Only my wife knows, and I'm booked for April 28. I may tell a few after the results show. I booked time away from the office and told a few people I was having surgery but left it at that. Nobody asked for details. If they pressed I was ready to say "it's a GI thing, let's not go into the gory details". I did tell one other person--my dermatologist who had always kept me accountable for my weight. His disapproving stare made sure I won't tell anyone else!

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mirVSG    10

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Hi, my surgery is booked on April 30th and like you I'm not planning on telling anyone about this except Hubby and my mum. I just don't want to hear people telling me I didn't need the surgery or asking if I tried dieting before opting for the surgery! Those are just questions that get me angry and I just want to focus on my weight loss and enjoy it. I don't want anyone to ruin it for me

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I agree. I only wanted my mom and husband. But my mom said she didnt want to lie for me if someone asked what she was doing. I just shake my head.

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mmy    62

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Hi, my surgery is booked on April 30th and like you I'm not planning on telling anyone about this except Hubby and my mum. I just don't want to hear people telling me I didn't need the surgery or asking if I tried dieting before opting for the surgery! Those are just questions that get me angry and I just want to focus on my weight loss and enjoy it. I don't want anyone to ruin it for me

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I agree. I only wanted my mom and husband. But my mom said she didnt want to lie for me if someone asked what she was doing. I just shake my head.

Ha ha well it was my moms idea not to tell anyone.. She too doesn't want me to hear any negative thoughts from others. She supports me with this all the way although at first I thought she would be the one to disagree.. In fact she will be traveling with me to get the surgery done since Hubby can't take time off work

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dafurrer    11

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Only my hubs, daughter and son-in-law know. I do not believe that I will ever share the information at all. It really isn't any bodies business what I wanted to do for myself. It has been a life time battle for me.

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lynnh24    11

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My surgery is the 27th. The clinic I go to wants you to have a couple support people, they want to to bring one in to the support groups too. I have told my close friends and close family members. I am sure I will have to tell others once the weight comes off and people start asking questions. I am not looking forward to telling people as it is a little embarrassing for me.

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pewpewpewpew    83

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i am only telling people i know will be supportive and non-judgemental. so specific family members, my partners and close friends.

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sleeve me Dee    4

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I agree, I don't feel I want to reveal this decision. I privately video my thoughts and experiences so i can look back at it all a year later. Hopefully after a year I will be pleased with my private decision.

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itstimealready    180

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I'm VERY pleased that I have told no one! I got an Uber home from the hospital! I've met 2 people randomly who had the surgery and kept in touch and they are a good support network. All in all the site was really all I needed. Having negative or snarky comments from people I can't get away from, for example people I work with or something like that or family, who needs it?

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Laughkc11    107

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This topic was the primary reason why I put surgery off for so long. I'm just in the beginning stages, but the coordinator said if everything went smoothly I could be looking at a surgery date as early as June! I've only told one very close friend. I think my mom will be the hardest person to keep it from, and will be the most hurt if she finds out. I'm not one to lie, but my mother is a typical nosey Italian mom, so not only is she a gossip queen, but if I tell her I'm sure to be receiving emails with links to all things WLS [emoji849] We live in different states so we don't see each other but a couple times a year. Still haven't decided what to do.

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HiHoSleever    20

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I agree, I don't feel I want to reveal this decision. I privately video my thoughts and experiences so i can look back at it all a year later. Hopefully after a year I will be pleased with my private decision.

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Great idea on the video log. I am also only telling supportive peeps and "need to know" basis. It's a deeply private matter and most people will not take the time to do the exhaustive research (and failed attempts) that we do to arrive here.

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mmazzo    26

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I'm weird...originally I didn't want to tell anyone, but during the process, I found myself telling people anyway. Most of the people I've told, though, are my colleagues, who are medical professionals, so they've been supportive. My family, on the other hand, I didn't really want to tell. I wasn't even going to tell my 91 y.o. grandmother that lives with me...mainly because I didn't want her to worry, but my mil blabbed . So, I get the decision to keep it private! Whatever works for you! Take care!!

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debby8892    14

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The only people that know that I will be doing VSG are my husband, my mom, dad and sister. Thankfully, my parents and sister support my decision and agree with me to keep this between us. My mom is my biggest cheerleader and she even wants me to stay with her the first week so she can help me. I'm having a hard time getting my husband on board. He doesn't understand why can't I just do it the nonsurgical way. Hopefully I get him on board by the time my surgery date approaches. At the end of the day, I have to do this for myself. I must say, if I didn't have support, I probably wouldn't have gone through with this. With that said, tell at least one person. Support is needed during this journey.

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