Earlier this week I met a guy, and he wanted to take me to lunch on Friday.

About my age, professional, works near me, owns his house, has a car, divorced with two adult children, etc. He's a civil engineer, so his thinking tends to be pretty linear. Not necessarily a trait that works with my sense of humor, but I figure what the hell, why not give it a go. Because, well, the guy I really have the hots for is unavailable.

Anyway, we're talking, and he wants to take me to a sushi place on Friday. Prior to surgery, I loved sushi. Oh heavens, YUM. When I started hemming and hawing, and he noticed, I told him I had a little secret. And then I told him that I had gastric surgery in August, and I couldn't eat rice, bread, or Pasta for now, so no pizza, sushi, or Italian food.

He gets a look on his face, and says his cousin had that, and that she looked "really gaunt". He follows that up with, "I hope you don't end up looking gaunt." I tried to laugh it off and said it would be the first time in my life.

He said he would think about a place to eat near work, and call me.

Any enthusiasm I had to go to lunch with him has kind of fizzled out. He's the first person who has said something really negative about the surgery - I think everyone else was too afraid of me. I'm finding that I don't care if he bails.

He doesn't even know what he's missing.

@@FrankiesGirl "But really all you had to say is that he is an engineer." NO KIDDING, 'nuf said

@@Sharon1964 - Sharon with your kink side and wicked sense of humor, you are not going to find happiness with the dry linear types. Your world is one of gray*, not black and white. If you want smart, start hanging around quantum physicists. I have a lady friend who loves smart nerd types. But not engineers, for the same reason as you.

5-15% of the world are non-linenar thinkers. That's your sweet spot.

*ahem, not a 50 Shades reference

@@FrankiesGirl "But really all you had to say is that he is an engineer." NO KIDDING, 'nuf said

@@Sharon1964 - Sharon with your kink side and wicked sense of humor, you are not going to find happiness with the dry linear types. Your world is one of gray*, not black and white. If you want smart, start hanging around quantum physicists. I have a lady friend who loves smart nerd types. But not engineers, for the same reason as you.

5-15% of the world are non-linenar thinkers. That's your sweet spot.

*ahem, not a 50 Shades reference

I lurv you lots, Mister Pirate!

@CowgirlJane Like CowgirlJane says, he may like fuller figures and then didn't know what to say once you mentioned that you were heading towards thin. If he doesn't follow up then he wasn't the one.

However I have a brother in law that had the sleeve done a couple of years ago. He isn't a spring chicken anymore prob around 62 or so and even though I am sure he is healthier, he does look gaunt to me. Especially in the face. This begins to happen to us older folks anyway as we lose the fat in our faces and our wrinkles show more. Then if we excelerate that by losing lots of weight it will probably be more noticeable. I know I told my husband that he may not realize who he's married to if I lose 100 pounds but I assured him that I would continue the same bitching I always do so he won't be able to forget!

Edited January 15, 201610 yr by MIMISAN

Dated a few "old skinny dudes" and they look "gaunt" even without WLS... jus' saying. Not everyone ages the same or as gracefully....

I love your plan to make sure hubby still recognizes you...teehee

@CowgirlJane Like CowgirlJane says, he may like fuller figures and then didn't know what to say once you mentioned that you were heading towards thin. If he doesn't follow up then he wasn't the one.

However I have a brother in law that had the sleeve done a couple of years ago. He isn't a spring chicken anymore prob around 62 or so and even though I am sure he is healthier, he does look gaunt to me. Especially in the face. This begins to happen to us older folks anyway as we lose the fat in our faces and our wrinkles show more. Then if we excelerate that by losing lots of weight it will probably be more noticeable. I know I told my husband that he may not realize who he's married to if I lose 100 pounds but I assured him that I would continue the same bitching I always do so he won't be able to forget!

Well it's 11:15 am on "lunch date day" and I still haven't heard from him, so I'm guessing it's a no-go. That's okay.

The experience though, has certainly given me some things to think about.

Well it's 11:15 am on "lunch date day" and I still haven't heard from him, so I'm guessing it's a no-go. That's okay.

The experience though, has certainly given me some things to think about.

His loss. I'm sorry. Big hugs to you.

all I can say is...... NEXT!

Bummer. I hate it when that happens.

Well, I did end up looking gaunt. But it wasn't because of WLS. It happened after the WLS. I was throwing up everything I ate. Waited to long to go to the doctor. Ended up being helacobactor pylori. I think I spelled that right. NOW, my family kept blaming the WLS. I looked sick. I was sick. Had NOTHING to do with WLS.

BTW, I think the guy was rude. Just my opinion.

@@SWEETTEA wrote, "BTW, I think the guy was rude. Just my opinion."

Oh, bosh, he's a piss ant. We don't need him. Er, @@Sharon1964 doesn't need him. There's no challenge or fun in whipping a piss ant into shape. A man of substance is a different matter.

Edited January 15, 201610 yr by WLSResources/ClothingExch

I eat sushi, the rice is on the outside and I don't eat the seaweed wrap, I just eat the center. No one cares.

I have been a low carber off and on for 16 years. I know how to cut the carbs out of eating almost anything.

People can easily get through life after surgery not telling people about surgery, and I still think privacy is the best policy.

They only way I am telling a guy at this point is we are really going to share our lives together, and get married. When I share my credit rating and investment portfolio.

Sometimes people do look gaunt. I don't think he was being negative I think he was just stating an observation that he noticed. That's the way I took anyway.

Honestly, a lot of guys my husband works with had the surgery, and they do look gaunt. BUT, they didn't/don't take care of themselves. That's his biggest fear of me getting the sleeve - that I'll end up gaunt and grey.

Well, for the record, I don't look gaunt.

Or gray.

I'm gorgeous and blonde.