Earlier this week I met a guy, and he wanted to take me to lunch on Friday.

About my age, professional, works near me, owns his house, has a car, divorced with two adult children, etc. He's a civil engineer, so his thinking tends to be pretty linear. Not necessarily a trait that works with my sense of humor, but I figure what the hell, why not give it a go. Because, well, the guy I really have the hots for is unavailable.

Anyway, we're talking, and he wants to take me to a sushi place on Friday. Prior to surgery, I loved sushi. Oh heavens, YUM. When I started hemming and hawing, and he noticed, I told him I had a little secret. And then I told him that I had gastric surgery in August, and I couldn't eat rice, bread, or Pasta for now, so no pizza, sushi, or Italian food.

He gets a look on his face, and says his cousin had that, and that she looked "really gaunt". He follows that up with, "I hope you don't end up looking gaunt." I tried to laugh it off and said it would be the first time in my life.

He said he would think about a place to eat near work, and call me.

Any enthusiasm I had to go to lunch with him has kind of fizzled out. He's the first person who has said something really negative about the surgery - I think everyone else was too afraid of me. I'm finding that I don't care if he bails.

He doesn't even know what he's missing.

Sometimes people do look gaunt. I don't think he was being negative I think he was just stating an observation that he noticed. That's the way I took anyway.

The tone of his voice and the look on his face definitely conveyed negativity.

And the fact that he didn't call me for our lunch date kinda confirms it.

It's okay though, I have nothing invested in this guy. His loss.

I am 51...look at my before and afters. ..no gaunt girl here!

I am sorry I can't spin this positive. It's like somebody has their 40 th birthday and you say "sure hope you don't get bald and fat"

I am 51...look at my before and afters. ..no gaunt girl here!

I am sorry I can't spin this positive. It's like somebody has their 40 th birthday and you say "sure hope you don't get bald and fat"

You look awesome!

He is an as*****le.No time for losers...next!

...and next time no need to reveal you had WLS.This is too much needless info for someone you just met.You simply say"I don't eat sushi...simple as that.Tell us not someone you just met.

As an engineer-type myself, let me apologize for him. We are sorry. We have no social skills. We know this. lol

With that remark he wasn't being a very "civil" engineer.

I don't think he was trying to insult you. It is probably that his mouth was in drive but he was grinding his brain gears.

Too bad for him, you probably look like a different 5 letter word starting with "G" and ending with "T"...GREAT!.

ANYONE who does not get enough daily [Protein and Water will start to look gaunt - sickly, WLS or not.

5 years since surgery, and no one ever knew...never told anyone,\

My weight loss is old news, not many people remember when I was an out of shape fatty.

I too had to stop eating certain foods, but I told people I am changing my ways and starting to eat healthy....so nothing white, and that includes rice.

Im with you, its no bodies business. I never thought about that 5 years down the line people will have forgotten what i looked like prior, lol....