RILEYSMOM22

First off, don't let him pay for your beer. He may insist, but if he pays, it screams "date".

I am just over a year out. My hair started to fall out just when they said it would. It has recovered somewhat. I am just waiting for the regrowth to catch up. To cope with the thinning, I went shorter and layered. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

From Buffalo, Sleeved by Dr. Caruana a year ago.

Eat something... Yogurt or milk Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I talk openly about my surgery with anyone who seems interested. I sometimes feel the need to explain when a man buys me dinner and I only eat a small amount of it. "Didn't you like it?", etc. Frequently, there is no second date and I blame it on that (because it cannot be that my sparkling personality turned them off!). I have had a couple men immediately mention skin removal after I've told them about the surgery. I wonder if they have seen TV shows or articles about weight loss and all that excess skin is what they envision....I don't know.

My doc had me try eggs the second week and it was tough. It felt like I had swallowed a rock. However, just a few days later, it was fine. It all depends on how quickly you heal and when the swelling goes down.

Thank you! I wish I was making this stuff up. There are some nice, educated older men in Oregon but it seems only the losers reply to my profile. I refer to myself as a weirdo-magnet, lol. Hang in there, Mr Right will come along!

These sites should have a filter for men with teeth, like they do for smoking and body type, etc.

Hugs to you. So sorry for your loss.

After surgery, I had a difficult time getting Water down, so carbonated beverages weren't even a possibility. Now, several months later, I have tried a diet coke and I can't do it. The carbonation is just too much.

Seriously? Please tell me this was not meant to be as mean-spirited as it sounds.

@@csawesome It takes a bit for them to reach the contrite phase. He is still justifying everything he did in his mind. At some point he will realize there is no good excuse for breaking your trust. Hang in there. Some relationships recover from this even stronger. You will know if yours can survive. In the meantime, get as prepared for the alternative as you can.

This past week, I had a nice, friendly lunch date with a guy I met online. The conversation was typical first date stuff... family, education, interests etc. He seemed very normal. There was no real flirting, no groping, or any of the things that previous weirdos have done. I wasn't really sure he liked me. Afterwards, I get a text "Don't work too hard. You have a really cute lisp." I read it out loud at work. My co-workers said "Did you lisp when you talked to him? You don't have a lisp." It was so odd. I ignored the message. The next day his text was "Do you want to chat?" I responded that I was working. He then asked "Would you like to be FWB?" I stared at my phone, stunned. Then I answered with "The nicest response that I can come up with is "Not my kinda thing" Unreal.... I swear I am a weirdo magnet.

Whew.... so much to say. I have been where you are...almost exactly where you are. It was 1997 when my husband had his first affair (or first one I knew about) with a co-worker. We had 5 kids, and he knew a divorce would bury him financially. He wanted an open marriage. I told him he was nuts. I went to see an attorney, who after outlining the divorce process, and probable settlement amounts, told me to stay calm and wait... this is a midlife crisis. So, I stayed. The affair ended,he apologized profusely and things were good between us until... 2004. It happened again. This time I moved out of the bedroom, and eventually, took the kids and left. They were older now, knew what was going on "Daddy didn't come home last night, mom." and I couldn't let them see me tolerate it. Your whole world has been rocked. You feel dazed. The future you envisioned is shattered. I remember all those feelings. But, like other posters have said, you have to get yourself and your kids through this as best as you can. Time is healing, push forward, and know that you will come out of this stronger, wiser....and with a rocking body!