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Has anyone not told anyone about having surgery?

Ky89

By Ky89, in Tell Your Weight Loss Surgery Story

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Ky89    86

Ky89
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Has anyone not told a single person about having surgery? I mean not a soul!! No parents, friends, or coworkers. I'm single so no husband or boyfriend to tell. I am a little worried about negative remarks but that's not the reason I'm not telling anyone. There are only 2 people that work with me here and one is a guy and the other is my skinny Japanese boss, so I don't really have the urge to tell them.

I do love my boss like a mom but I think she wouldn't really understand my situation. And of course there's the option to tell my actual parents, but my dad absolutely would not understand nor approve of me getting surgery and my mom, I think, wouldn't understand either. At least right now. She would say I'm taking the easy way out and I should be saving my money, etc.

I do plan on telling my mom first maybe after a year and then she can decide if she wants to tell my dad.

Although I do have friends no one is really close enough for me to tell except one or two people. But I'm not even sure if I want to say anything.

I just want to see if I'm alone in not telling anyone.

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finediva    979

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I TOLD NOT ONE SINGLE ALIVE PERSON. YEAH!!!!!!!!

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Sleeve_Sistah85    193

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Has anyone not told a single person about having surgery? I mean not a soul!! No parents, friends, or coworkers. I'm single so no husband or boyfriend to tell. I am a little worried about negative remarks but that's not the reason I'm not telling anyone. There are only 2 people that work with me here and one is a guy and the other is my skinny Japanese boss, so I don't really have the urge to tell them.

I do love my boss like a mom but I think she wouldn't really understand my situation. And of course there's the option to tell my actual parents, but my dad absolutely would not understand nor approve of me getting surgery and my mom, I think, wouldn't understand either. At least right now. She would say I'm taking the easy way out and I should be saving my money, etc.

I do plan on telling my mom first maybe after a year and then she can decide if she wants to tell my dad.

Although I do have friends no one is really close enough for me to tell except one or two people. But I'm not even sure if I want to say anything.

I just want to see if I'm alone in not telling anyone.

Do what makes you feel comfortable. Maybe in the future you'll be ready to shout it from the rooftops.

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Ky89    86

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I TOLD NOT ONE SINGLE ALIVE PERSON. YEAH!!!!!!!!

Ahh I'm glad I'm not the only one!!

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Coby20    21

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I told my parents I was having a procedure done on my back, just so in case something went wrong they wouldn't be blindsided. They live 2000 miles away. I told nobody else I was even going to be in the hospital. Nobody's business.

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Cargannie    52

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I haven't told anyone either. I wanted to surprise my family when I see them at Christmas. I had surgery on 9/17 and I am down 42 lbs. Hope to be down 60 by time Christmas gets here. Oh my hubby knows uh cause he lives with me ha ha plus he is 200% supportive

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finediva    979

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Ahh I'm glad I'm not the only one!!

Nope, you are not the only one. I happily told zero people and I'm so glad. I don't have the stress of anyone looking at my progress and asking for updates. This is not a show, it's my life. The two people I would've shared this with, is no longer on this earth. BTW, at my pre op appt the nurse asked who would be with me on the day of surgery and I told her no one. I then told her no one new I was having the surgery. I asked her if she had anyone besides me not tell anyone. She replied " several".

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Noragretz    28

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Interesting topic, how did u all get home? Or were you allowed to drive? I have two kids, my 20 yr old knows, my 12 yr old does not. I did not tell any family. My boyfriend did it with me, he told everyone so they know I did through him. But I had no desire to share or discuss my personal health.

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I'm going in for my consult next week and hope for surgery before Thanksgiving (self pay so no insurance hoops) and leaning towards not telling anyone except for my husband. And when I do tell him I'm going for it, I'm going to keep it low key and not make it a "thing". My reason for doing this is I don't want this to define me. I want everyone to just see me when I'm 70 lbs lighter (my goal weight), not as the girl who got sleeved.

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Ky89    86

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Interesting topic, how did u all get home? Or were you allowed to drive? I have two kids, my 20 yr old knows, my 12 yr old does not. I did not tell any family. My boyfriend did it with me, he told everyone so they know I did through him. But I had no desire to share or discuss my personal health.

For me after I have the surgery I'll stay in the hotel inside the hospital for 2 days and then I'm renting a car when I get back stateside in California to get to LAX and then just rest for a few days and then I'm on a flight back to Japan. Since I don't have my car here I can only walk and ride my bike.

But I think each doctor is different with the times to do everything.

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finediva    979

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@Noragretz. I arranged for someone to drop me in front of the hospital on the morning of surgery and the same person came back and picked me up the next day. I simply said I was having a procedure. He asked no questions and I didn't volunteer any info. He also took me to get my pain meds on the way home. I actually walked into the pharmacy myself while he stayed in the car. The hospital would not allow you to go home alone.

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finediva    979

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@ncvsgchick. Yes! Exactly!

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finediva    979

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@Ky89. Are you having surgery in Japan or US?

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Ky89    86

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@Ky89. Are you having surgery in Japan or US?

I'm having surgery in Mexico!! I did check Japan but it's just as expensive as the US :( I know South Korea does a lot of elective surgeries but by the time I thought about researching it I had already made up my mind about Mexico.

I actually have a fear of flying so I think I'm more worried about getting the Mexico than the actual surgery.

Pretty funny considering I had to take a 16 hour flight to Japan :/

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finediva    979

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@Ky89. Ok, that explains it. Well, I wish you all the best. I hope we can follow you on you journey. Best.

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