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re14768    72

re14768
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My family is making me nervous. .they keep telling me I'm not big enough for WLS.that I will get to skinny. .they are concern why my doc world allow me to have wls..I currently weight 235lb, 5'4..we have a family friend that had VSG 2012.. she's realllly starting to look scary unhealthy, and my mom & sis..keeps telling me. They hope I take her example seriously. .getting nervous :-(

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Madam Reverie    2,958

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I was of that opinion, too (search the word 'controversial' in the forum topics and it might come up) - that not all people 'look better' after weight loss surgery. It inspired great debate about whether it is better to be 300lbs and unhealthy, or really skinny and 'healthy'. I guess its a personal choice and finding that 'happy medium' for you.

I do think people can go too far.

I do think it has a lot to do with finding the right balance of calories - fats, Proteins, carbs and knowing went to stop losing and just maintain.

Despite all this, I read a lot on here, I found my 'truth' and I still had the surgery. I think I'm doing okay.

I am 5ft 10, I was 250lbs at the start. I've lost 46lbs. My BMI was 35.9 or something and I started to show signs of serious long term health problems that I wanted to 'nip in the bud' - so I did.

Only you can make this choice, my dear. All I can say is read and read and read, until you're confident in your own decision making. There's a lot of experience on this site - do your own analysis and let it guide you to what is right for you.

Best of luck :)

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Indigo1991    1,612

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LL, nope, you look fabulous... Not sure where the last 15lbs are going to come from.... ;-)

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Mrs.RRn    2,110

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I don't look unhealthy. I look f'n hot! LOL

I think it has to do with balancing your diet, being active, and just generally taking care of your body & mind. :)

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LipstickLady    25,682

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LL, nope, you look fabulous... Not sure where the last 15lbs are going to come from.... ;-)

I was 15 pounds heavier there than I am now. The dress is a good cut. :D

I am just into size 10s and I bought a pair of size 8 Seven Jeans. They are too tight but will fit soon. I have plenty of meat on my bones, trust me.

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re14768    72

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I'm 5'3". Do I look unhealthy yet? :D

You look fantastic!

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Indigo1991    1,612

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LL, nope, you look fabulous... Not sure where the last 15lbs are going to come from.... ;-)

I was 15 pounds heavier there than I am now. The dress is a good cut. :D

I am just into size 10s and I bought a pair of size 8 Seven Jeans. They are too tight but will fit soon. I have plenty of meat on my bones, trust me.

Feck - you were 15lbs heavier then than now??? Well, you looked great then, must be looking amazing now. Love that dress...

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lsereno    2,525

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I looked unhealthy to my family for a short period. All the weight came off my face, my hair thinned and people were just not used to seeing me at a normal BMI. I am 5'6" and weighed 254 in heavy clothes when approved for surgery. I weighed 222 the day before surgery, 4 months later. My feeling is that after rapid weight loss, it takes a while for everything to settle its place. They still comment about my size, but I don't are. I feel heathy and good and I'm squarely in the middle of the normal BMI for my height.

Lynda

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gmanbat    5,889

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It seems what Isereno said is the rule. Fat comes off different places at different rates. Fat comes off of the face quickly with some people giving them a drastic change. In my case the belly was the last to go. Most folks are saying the "sickly" look goes away after fat rebounds a bit and things even out.

LL, you do look unhealthy...unhealthy for me if my wife catches me looking at your picture too much. :o :D

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Chantel    67

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I'm 5'3" and I've lost 62 pounds in just over 6 months. Only the first 30 pounds were "easy". I'm going to have to work even harder for the last 20. I'm not yet in the "heathy" BMI range and I don't think I'm in any danger of losing too much. I started at 212. I do think I look a little bit older (or maybe just closer to my actual age). I have a before and after pic in my gallery, I think. :-)

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thicvik    50

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@lipsticklady you look amazing!!! My surgery is Tuesday 1/7 I am excited but very nervous at the same time,

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I'm 5'3". Do I look unhealthy yet? :D

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