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OK, freak out mode full on. Hanging out with a guy tomorrow night (first date in seriously 2+ years). I wasn't going to allow myself to date (so messed up) until I hit 205 (I'm 233 as of this AM), but I really want to see him so I just folded. We casually dated briefly about 3 years ago. I was about 20 pounds lighter then, but trying super, super hard not to focus on that (AKA I'm obsessing over it). Need some feedback on this dress from anyone and everyone. Going to wear a cardigan of some sort over it. Thoughts?

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Gorgeous! Be proud of who you are!!!

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Looks good????

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wow! Gorgeous! Whatever sweater you wear, try not to hide your curves that the dress highlights. So shrug or lightweight cardi, not like, you know sweater. With the curves and the hint of cleavage, I think you'll be working it! Love it.

And remember to HAVE FUN.

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First off, try and not stress over the date. He is just a man, and trust me, men are far more stress than not. haha. I could easily tell you not to worry, that your beautiful, you should feel happy with your weight loss so far and that if he doesnt like you for you then he is not worth it. BUT, ive been in your shoes, and it is easier said then done. I have been with my man for almost 4 years and i STILL sometimes stress about what i look like, what im going to wear, etc. And through all my experience i can tell you this: as hard as it may be, when you are out with him, do not stress too much about how you look, or what your stomach looks like when you sit down or how your arms look when you take off your jacket, because you know what, those thoughts will consume you and you will end up not having any fun. The guy will appreciate smiles and laughter much more than a woman who cant stop thinking about how they look, cause trust me, they can tell! BUT, have a wonderful time. the dress looks good and you will do great!!

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I agree with gamergirl, show off your curves! And I would take off the fitbit, replace it with a pretty Bracelet. And remember that guys don't notice even half of the details that we women notice - he will just be paying attention to you. Have a wonderful time!

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That dress is great and gives you great curves. If you wear a necklace it'll pull attention up toward the cleavage area and draw it away from any other areas you'd like to go unnoticed.

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I think you look great! That dress fits you perfectly!

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OK, I can do this! Thank you all for the encouragement! Why does my mind always go here?

Light sweater, Bracelet, statement necklace and good attitude. I'll let you guys know how it goes :) :) thank you again!

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The dress looks great!!! Just be sure that he deserves to see you in that dress!!!

Enjoy your night out!!!!!!

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You look great!!! Do not stress. Love the dress on you!!

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Wish there was a whistle button on here! You look great! Dont wear a sweater that will overpower and cover you up. Pretty pretty!

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Classic little black dress! You can't go wrong! If you wear a sweater, make sure to take it off! You've got to die for curves!

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No cardigan needed. You look great!

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wow! Gorgeous! Whatever sweater you wear, try not to hide your curves that the dress highlights. So shrug or lightweight cardi, not like, you know sweater. With the curves and the hint of cleavage, I think you'll be working it! Love it.

And remember to HAVE FUN.

I completely agree! Your curves are lovely! OWN that gorgeous hourglass!! Your best accessory will be your smile and confidence.

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