I gather all my bills and started looking at the amount I owe. I owe under 8,000 but over 7,000 only 2 of the bills are over 1,000 but under 4,000. Instead of having someone throw it in my face how they are always paying the bills. I decided if my bills are due in the 1st week of the month. I will try to pay it off as long as I get to the mail box 1st. I don't want him knowing what I'm doing so he don't bitch & say well pay your own bills since you have money now. Remember I get 2 checks a month only the beginning of the month. He doesn't have in mind the names of the credit card bills I have or anything so he won't be asking if I got any bills. I should be done in a few months with the small bills. The bigger bills he would have to pay there is no way I can come up with thousands of dollars to pay it. I will save and attempt to pay it but I find it impossible.

Let's say... I pay off my bills what's next?

I guess I have to keep saving or start saving to get an apartment,but if I have a few thousands for an apartment. How do I have the government help me pay my rent? Or I'm I suppose to go down to the welfare office tell them I have to move & they find me a place & pay the rent or do they want me in the streets in a shelter to put me in a bad housing where my kids will be scare.

I'm all ears.... Let me know what to do. My husband isn't planning on changing & I don't want to be 40 living the sameway. Arguing & fighting almost daily.

I'm starting to feel sad. I want to do what's best for my kids. I know once I'm on my own I will be happy it's a matter of getting there.

I now have to leave. I'm doing it because he decided that my now 15 year old needs to leave by age 18. Only because she told him how sge feels & doesn't want him in her life once she leaves. Well no one throws my kids out!! She goes I go. She wants to save money. I will end up in a shelter but it's ok I was told I don't have to live in a housing. They will find me a place. Thanks guys & I will be fine. We will all be fine. I still have my bills in mind but my daughter works during summer so she will help me pay my bills so it's not so hard on me.

Mami you will be alright

Take care of your kids the rest will work its self out

And remember a leopard can't change his spots

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We're all rooting for you!! Good luck!

I'm going for a consultation I guess (never been there or know what is called) I want to explain my situation & see if I can be placed on a waiting list until there is something available. I'm told it takes a long time. I'm taking about housing but not housing project. I spoke to someone over the phone & they said I won't be put in project if I fear for my kids safety.

Check into section 8 housing. Reduced cost based on income.

Check into section 8 housing. Reduced cost based on income.

Sec 8 is closed in NY. We have no idea when that'll open up again.

That sucks! It's ok I have so many options that I didn't know about.

That sucks! It's ok I have so many options that I didn't know about.

Mami, stay strong. You are doing the right thing. Im praying for you..

There is always HUD or section 8. Some are in better parts. Some private agencies will help subsidize your rent. There are also energy assistance programs. Your assistance office may not have all of them so start googling. Also lots of churches will help you get situated with utility deposits. Also there are places like angelfood ministries that sell you discounted food- and you can buy them with food stamps. Bad credit will affect your ability to get approved for an apartment but not disqualify you. I know all this bc I left an abusive relationship 8 years ago with my kids and only clothing and diapers. We found a nice landlady and explained the situation. I just told her that I would always pay rent first bc eviction with 2 kids was not an option and that was also why credit cards weren't paid - bc rent was and she gave us a chance - and we still live there!

You can do it, just get organized and have a plan.

Thanks yes now they check for everything I don't have a history of paying rent but god is big. I have faith.

Keep ya head up I'm

praying for you

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Keep ya head up I'm

praying for you

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Thanks girl I think your prayer is helping me keep my head. I would had lost it already.

Hi Miami,

I'm sure someone would give you a chance, I wish u lived here in Atlanta!! I know so many people that would love to rent out there house. The church really has good connections as well.

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Hi Miami' date='

I'm sure someone would give you a chance, I wish u lived here in Atlanta!! I know so many people that would love to rent out there house. The church really has good connections as well.

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Too bad I'm not in Atlanta. I would had been on my feet already with a house to live in.