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Just sitting here pulling my hair out reading all this. Lol. So I have a dilemma, my wife & I have been together since we were 17 were now 36. When we met I was 350lbs 6'2" she was 5'11" 145lbs, she was a self proclaimed chubby chaser. Since I've gone from 440lbs to 200lbs her sex drive is gone and she should be in her prime @ mid 30's right.

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Maybe other things are bothering her. Do u guys have kids? Does she work full time? Maybe she's just exhausted.

I know that I need foreplay. So don't just go up to her and hump her, lol. Start by sitting and just hanging out with her and work ur way up to it.

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Ladies I do have a question. Before surgery I could deep throat the hubster but wasn't sure if that is not the best thing to do now or does it make a difference? Im just afraid it will make me puke or something. Took me forever to ask this on here. Lol

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Just sitting here pulling my hair out reading all this. Lol. So I have a dilemma' date=' my wife & I have been together since we were 17 were now 36. When we met I was 350lbs 6'2" she was 5'11" 145lbs, she was a self proclaimed chubby chaser. Since I've gone from 440lbs to 200lbs her sex drive is gone and she should be in her prime @ mid 30's right.[/quote']

Try the basics. Romance her. Flowers. Cards. Cook her a dinner or start a date night. Hold her hand. Talk to her. Listen. Remind her that you are the same guy as before only better.

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I think now that I have had the surgery my gag reflex is dam never gone.. I can go farther now than I could before ;-)

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I just turned 30 and ur right we hit ours later than men. My bf is 38 and at first struggled to keep up with me and he's a Marine. He got it tho and now he can make me tap out first. My friends who aren't gb are hitting theirs too and can't get enough. In my marriage he only had sex with me when we were on fertility treatments. My relationship now we have sex ateast four times a week. I'm also very attracted to him which is a plus. Gb changes a lot for ppl and I've known the best marriages to part bc they just lost compatibility or bc of sheer envy and jealousy. My marriage was different I found out he had been having homosexual affairs our entire marriage. Ultimately mine ended bc my ex could no longer hide behind me and use the excuse that I was unattractive. He got so angry when this occured too. He's now remarried to a woman who is very unattractive and very heavy much more than I was. I tried to say I'd support my ex if he were gay but he likes to pretend something he's not and he's not a straight man. Hope I helped ya some. :-D

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Oh and @SNE I struggled with oral sex before and now I love it and it doesn't make me sick to spit. Then again I'm highly attracted to my honey so maybe that's why ...

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Oh and @SNE I struggled with oral sex before and now I love it and it doesn't make me sick to spit. Then again I'm highly attracted to my honey so maybe that's why ...

I had no issue and love doing it but was worried if there is any difference after surgery. Guess I will just have to try.

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I tell u this in the years I've lived this way I've never heard of a person getting dumping from oral sex LOL...and now that I've mentioned that I'm gonna Google it. LoL we will know n just a click. Brb

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Dude fist bump...u officially stumped Google LOL. I couldn't find anything besides it can cause stomach cramps but that article wasn't attributed to gb patients.

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If it was pure sugar or white flour I could see it triggering dumping syndrome but its mostly Protein and salt... But I'll never truly know and will take y'all's word on it LoL

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LOL!!

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Cracking up reading this thread hahahha. Well i guess when I find a partner ( recently separated) that all the possible questions I could come up with regarding sex and bypass will have already been answered. Hahahha.

Women rock!! Lol. And love the guys input also!!!

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Dude fist bump...u officially stumped Google LOL. I couldn't find anything besides it can cause stomach cramps but that article wasn't attributed to gb patients.

So I revived a text showing an unfortunate clip of your response "dude fist u" I was like" these girls are out of control lol

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