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Ok so I had to share this with some people who would understand. I haven't had sex in a VERY long time partly because I was just too shy because of how big I was. I had very low self esteem made worse by one a*****e who did a real number on me, told me I was lucky that someone would ever want me sexually and other terrible things...

So I was sleeved in November and I have been going out meeting guys. I am now down 102 lbs and I have been noticing guys checking me out which is freakin awesome and I am no longer shy...well I have been seeing this one guy casually, nothing too serious and long story short last night we had sex. First time I didn't feel the need to cover up my body before, during, or after. He was very good and kept saying how much he loved my body (seriously almost cried but held it together). It was great, but I am gonna keep it casual, don't want to be tied down(metaphorically anyway) yet. I want to date around a bit (I was very safe last night). This is going to be an awesome summer. For the first time I am feeling empowered and I love it

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You go girl!! Have fun, you deserve it!

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What a great post. So happy for you enjoy yourself and the feeling of being a pretty woman. Just leave the hurful thjngs and people bavk and enjoy your new road. Congratulations you deserve to be happy.

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You go girl!

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congrats and well done you deserve this, have fun sampling the menus xxx

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I think you need to work your way through the Kama Sutra and report back :)

You go girl!!!!

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so he has been texting me and he basically wants to see me again, for round 2 lol

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That's awesome! I am so happy for you. Even in your writing I can tell how happy you are! Enjoy the attention and don't settle!

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Good for you! Be safe (both physically and emotionally) and have fun

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You go. I'm single as well and can't wait to see how men are going to react as I start transforming. Happy for you

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You go. I'm single as well and can't wait to see how men are going to react as I start transforming. Happy for you

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Thanks ladies and yes I was happy to meet him for round 2. I think I got him a little worked up over our texting this week cause he jumped me as soon as I sat down on the couch. I do like him. Before we had sex I did tell him about being sleeved, he asked if I was on the pill and I told him we still needed to be EXTRA safe, he was totally understanding, still haven't shown him my before pictures. He is a little older then me (by 6 yrs) and he is very different then the jerk (he was wham bam done while this guy is like a marathon, seriously 2 hours last time, it is better then the 30 day squat challenge) He is very giving and he loves to touch me. I thought I would be more shy about my wobbily thighs but he has no problems. My one girlfriend said it cause he is a guy and you are naked and that is all he cares about. I don't know if this is just a sex thing but I am having fun and so is he

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