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Backsliding due to divorce

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SPI Tortuga    1

SPI Tortuga
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Hello, all!

It is my sincere hope that all of you fellow texans are doing well. I got my world turned upside down October 2012, my husband of 22 years and I will be apart forever, soon. I have always been a stress eater, and have been backsliding by eating lots of carbs. I am not a sweets person, but the carbs are doing me in somewhat.

I have maintained my activity level, but eat stuff I shouldn't. I continue to take my Vitamins and B-12

My question is, should I just "start over?" I could find an old diet from when I began on solids. thoughts? I'm just so sad and angry right now. Sigh...

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Museum-Mama    196

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First....HUUUUUUUUUGGGGG!!! You will get through this. YOU WILL. I did, and so will you.

My divorce and the mess leading up to it is a huge factor in my weight gain. Do what you can to avoid this. It will only make you more unhappy, and unhappy with yourself. I don't know what circumstances are leading to the divorce, but mine was messy and I almost ended my life over it. It wasn't until I realized that this IS a new start, and i am no longer controlled/manipulated/emotionally abused by another, unloving person.

Set a day that will be your RESTART. Not only should you change your diet that day, but start thinking about yourself differently. You are free to be you, to better you, and to find people who will life you up (and vice versa). But start with YOU. Focus on you and your needs. Don't fuss with the finding a date and such. That will come when you have emotionally healed. If you don't want to go out on a date a friend set you up with, then DON'T. You need to be emotionally ready for dating. So smack a friend if you have to. I did. She finally got the point. ;)

Also, you have us to lean on...sort of. Good for you for asking for help and encouragement. Trust me, hiding everything away is not very healthy. So message me if you need to. I'll be here.

Take heart. Read my signature, and what Christopher Robin says to Pooh Bear. This truly did help me get through all the pain of my broken marriage and divorce...and another woman who went through the same things gave it to me. It had helped her too.

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paulae486    11

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I wanted to check on you and see how you were doing. I care and am here if you need to talk!

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