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I find I am harder on myself now than before the surgery. It has been a great journey, but still not happy with the way I look. Never cared before surgery.

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I think that is natural, because before surgery most of us had given up on caring what we looked like figuring it just wasn't going to get better. But now we expect to look better and therefore put effort into it again.

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I find I am harder on myself now than before the surgery. It has been a great journey' date=' but still not happy with the way I look. Never cared before surgery.[/quote']

Um YES I'm so gross with my clothes off not even cute at all..

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I find I am harder on myself now than before the surgery. It has been a great journey' date=' but still not happy with the way I look. Never cared before surgery.[/quote']

I feel the same way! I constantly find myself asking my fiancé if outfits make me look fat. I spend more time in front of the mirror looking at my body and being unhappy about it. I think before surgery I was so ashamed of my body I didn't want to see my body I avoided it. Now I look for my flaws. I think it's the mental fall down from surgery. I know I see things other people so not see. I see someone much bigger who will never look "normal". However everyone else sees a different thing.

Morgan Whitaker

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Ooooh yes!! Absolutely harder on myself now than ever before. I look like i have an ill fitting skin suit on now where before i just looked fat. I think sometimes i looked better before.

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I think I dread that part the most...the ill-fitting skin suit... :(. Hopefully spankx will help mask it :) unfortunately for me being 53 yrs old is not gonna help...I hope toning exercises do!!

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Funny you should bring that up today..

I went shooing yesterday for clothes after losing almost sixty pounds I got depressed in the changing room several times (the lighting sucks)

Seeing myself undressed and in better fitting clothes.

I have a lots of things to work on still, my body and my mind.

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Nothing has really helped so far but I'm only 4 months out too. I've lost right about 75lbs total.

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Um, yeah, and if you saw it, you'd know why! ;)

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Um' date=' yeah, and if you saw it, you'd know why! ;)[/quote']

Haha! Did I mention my 16 year old skinny daughter was trying on clothes in the same room as me and every time she caught a glimpse she freaked out :P

I love scaring the sh*t outta her!!

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Um' date=' yeah, and if you saw it, you'd know why! ;)[/quote']

People always tell me how great I look and to stop loosing weight and my reply is you haven't seen me naked so you can't tell me I'm not still FAT

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Um yes since I am looking in the mirror a lot more.

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My stomach, which has shrunk a lot lately, is all jiggly and disgusting. Before I lost any weight it was bigger but firmer. Now it's like a wiggling bowl of Jello. Eeewww.

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Stop looking at yourself as less than gorgeous! Would you rather have the weight you've lost than the loose skin? Even if I don't have skin removal, and it isn't looking good for it, I'm still way happier with the loose skin than with the weight. Exercise has helped tremendously with my looks and firmness, so I plan to keep kicking that in the tush. :)

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Haha! Did I mention my 16 year old skinny daughter was trying on clothes in the same room as me and every time she caught a glimpse she freaked out :P

I love scaring the sh*t outta her!!

Oh yeah, me too! I think it makes my thin 17 year old daughter think twice before she sticks something in her mouth. I showed her my hideously huge and flabby underarms and she was just incredulous, lol. She's pretty sweet I don't think she wanted to hurt my feelings, but I think it scared her, haha! Hell, it scares me too.

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