Hi there. I'm still pre-op. I have a good friend who believes she has visions of future disaters. We were both at a funeral the other day, and right before the funeral started, she grabbed my hand and said, "I don't want you to have the surgery. Are you sure there is nothing we can do?" I told her no and that it was my decision. She then said that she had heard of people recently dying from WLS. I ignored her. Then, a few minutes later she leans over and tells me that she had a premonition that the dead guy at the funeral was going to die. I ignored her and left the funeral quickly after it ended.

This is not the first time she has alluded to a doom and gloom feeling about my surgery although she waits a few months in between saying anything. She has never said it directy, just indirectly like at the funeral. I am so pissed off! Now she has me worrying that I will die from surgery and leave my two young children with only one parent. I feel she is being completely manipulative and even using terrorist tactics with me. I have distanced myself from her.

Just had to vent....thanks for listening.

Shan

lol wow.

well she loves you and is really frightened. That said, you need to take care of you so you CAN live a long life with you 2 kids. You aren't going to a back alley to receive a hatchet job for goodness sakes

Good grief! I think your friend needs to sensor herself a little. I can't imagine saying that to a friend!!!! So much for being supportive! I am still in shock that she would say that to you! Does she ever have a positive premonition?

Newsflash for your friend....

everybody's going to die from something.

Too much Water

Not enough water

Too fat

Not fat enough

Too many Vitamins

Not enough vitamins

Hit by a car while walking

Hit by a car while driving

Hypothermia

Hyperthermia

Lived too long

Born too early

She needs to work on her premonitions, lol! You can't be psychic without details.

She does care about you. My friend also mentioned to me about this old coworker of hers that died after a bypass wls. I told her that any surgery has complications and I know she also cares about me. I have only told like 6-8 people I think the vsg has me nervous enough that I would not like to be defending reasons for wanting the vsg.

WOW, why friends like to do this?

I have a good friend and when I was pre op and told her that I want to do the surgery she told me right away that one lady at her work died after the surgery. and I just asked after which one and she has no idea. so Why are they tried to scared people for nothing. I end up not ot tell her about my surgery. it is easy then listen another story that someone died.

She probably means well - but like many folks, she may not be aware of the statistics with mortality with current WLS practices. My surgeon has been practicing a very long time and has zero fatalities - I am positive most of the surgeons here have the same track record.

Before my husband and I had our surgeries - I too thought the mortality rate was high, until I went to the information seminar and got up to date with accurate figures. I would be irritated as well if someone told me this before surgery. Just know that your current BMI from your ticker puts you in a super safe zone (barring medical issues and comorbidities that you may have) and you should have no problem reaching your goals rapidly if you follow Dr's and NUT orders.

This surgery has been the best thing my husband and I have ever done for ourselves - other than marrying one another

Someone died and hundreds lived long thin lives.... you'll be fine. She won't. (I just got a premonition she'll continue to upset people with her psychic abilities).

all i can say is "WOW"

totally extreme and unnecessary.

Don't believe a word of what she said. She might be scared. But she also might be jealous....

However bare in mind that surgeries in general have risks, and no one has immunity, even if their girlfriend tells them that they are going to be fine.

I didn't tell many people before I had the surgery for that very reason-there is always going to be naysayers & they mean well but don't realize the effect it can have on you. Of course there is risk with ANY surgery so I just chose to wait until after to say anything.

Tell me, in her premonition were you skinny or fat? I like to keep in mind how much higher the odds are of dying if one stays obese.

Perhaps in her premonition you did not have the surgery and died of a heart attack.

How strange! Maybe she just tends to have a lot of anxiety and "cares by worrying". It doesn't help when you are already nervous enough already. I have had a lot of mixed reactions: mostly people saying, "Why don't you just try watching your weight first?" Hmmmmm....never thought of that!!! Invasive surgery just looked like fun.....But seriously I am very nervous. I am just more worried about having a heart attack way before my time.

Like Bean said - my surgeon said that the risk of dying was astronomically higher if we we were obese and sitting in our seats in the conference room as opposed to lying on his operating table. And like Dr. Oz has said - We operate on cancer - if you have something as malignant and health destroying as obesity, you should operate!

Can she forecast stock market downturns, natural disasters and civil unrest?

I believe she believes this - but I am pretty skeptical. I think she just has some fears and this is how she expresses them.

Can't she predict you some lottery numbers or something a little more fun?

In all seriousness, what a frustrating thing for her to say! I'd be annoyed too. But try and keep in mind that she cares about you and this is her unique and strange way of telling you she cares and is worried.