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Remember to tell the kids that you are not mad at them. Kids will internalize things, so you need to keep reminding them. Even the super young ones, tell them how much you love them and you are not mad at them. Trust all of us on this site, the moodieness will go away. Hang in there!

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@kinnymomX3

I know exactly how u feel I love my son to death he is 5 yrs old n my niece is 12 they argue like cats and dogs. You would think that the 12 yr old would be very mature but NOOOOO not her. I had my surgery on 8/14 I came home to both those kids . I couldnt believe that my sister left me here alone with two kids so soon. I couldnt yell cause I thought my stomach was ripping apart. So I had to call my sons godmother to come get him for the wknd n it worked out well cause my niece helped me all wknd but that first nite I cried because I was overwhelmed n then I was crying cause the pain from crying was unbearable but I couldnt stop crying. Kinnymomx3 it will get better if your 7 yr old wants to help let him help you n try to relax

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Im a single mother of 2 daughters 17 & 11. My 11 year old is very very helpful and concerned about me. Stayed at her dads while I was in the hospital.,The 17 year could care less and has NOT!!helped me do anything actually left me at home alone my first night from the hospital. My baby girl came home the next day and has been helping me do everthing. She is a great kid!

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Im a single mother of 2 daughters 17 & 11. My 11 year old is very very helpful and concerned about me. Stayed at her dads while I was in the hospital.,The 17 year could care less and has NOT!!helped me do anything actually left me at home alone my first night from the hospital. My baby girl came home the next day and has been helping me do everthing. She is a great kid!

Teenagers can be such a$$holes sometimes! I stayed at my parents house after surgery just so my mom could help when she got home from work, but low and behold my 16 y/o nephew was such a blessing! He took my son every day after school and played with him for an hour or two so I could nap.

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I went in their rooms and explained everything to them . I hope they understand I took my three year old and put him in the bed with me and read his favorite book "I 'll love you forever" three times. His father came and got him and took him upstairs to his bed . When he came back down I cried in his arms for a few minutes and I feel better. I took so pain meds tonight becuase I'm a little more tender than usual and now in nauseated...great :( goodnight

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Goosebumps. You're a good momma

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I have a 5 and a 6 yr old. My son walked in the house the day I got home from the hospital and asked me was I still fat. I was like what! And he repeated it so with my quick reflexes I asked him was he still fat. He's a joker so he says yes. But it took me about 10 min to calm down and I talk to him and apologized but I also let him know how rude he was. I'm staying with my mother in law so I have lots of help but my husband has surgery on his ankle on Tues so we will both be cripple. Love my mother in law.

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You are mourning the end of a lifelong relationship with food. This is a grieving period. If you are like most moms, you are feeling selfish for doing something for yourself so there is an added level of guilt which you are overcompensating for by being mad at yourself. Subconsciously you are defending yourself from your family from what you think they think about you. You need to stop, breath, rest and remember that it is ok to have these feelings but it is not ok to lash out at them. It will get better but do not be afraid to ask for help if you find the emotions do not go away. Professional counseling can do wonders. In the meantime, we are here for you. Glad you voiced.

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