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This one is unbelievable!!! So, I just came back from a business trip this week. Now... I've always been a big guy, but could always fit into airplane seats and wear the seat belts. It's always tight, but I can fit. Well, as i was bording a plane in Milwaukee to come back to California, this "crazy" lady :blink: scanning the boading passes had the nerve to ask me "Am I going to need another seat? :angry: Now...initially.... It did not register what she meant... I said no.. assuming she meant if I wanted to switch seats... but then she has to the audacity to ask "can you place the arm rest down". :angry: At this point I look at her with a death stare... and then she gets the hint and just shuts up. But wait there's more..... this lady was morbidly obese herself!!!!!!!!!!!!! She had to be no taller than 5 feet and and easily 400 lbs. Unbelievable!!!

I guess life is funny. I've flew countless times, and never had anything happen to me like this. However, I am a month out from getting sleeved, and this ridiculous lady makes some stupid comments. I guess life wanted to throw another final jab before I get my sleeve on Sept. 18th.

Ok.. I am done with my rant.

Peace and Blessings everyone

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Rant away - I know all about that. I have personally never had anything said to me, but I was on a flight with someone who got moved out of the exit row b/c she had a seat belt extender and they don't allow you to sit in the exit row with one out of fear someone would get tangled up trying to get out of the plane.

Some people have unbelievable nerve! :(

I too am looking to get sleeved right around mid September too, probably the 19th actually. Here's to a new beginning...

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Rant away - I know all about that. I have personally never had anything said to me, but I was on a flight with someone who got moved out of the exit row b/c she had a seat belt extender and they don't allow you to sit in the exit row with one out of fear someone would get tangled up trying to get out of the plane.

Some people have unbelievable nerve! :(

I too am looking to get sleeved right around mid September too, probably the 19th actually. Here's to a new beginning...

Awesome...we're getting sleeved around the same time. And yes... that lady had incredible nerve. Some people!!!!!!!! But eh... Sleeve here we come. :)

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Another fat on fat crime !!! I recall reading a post about how overweight people are more hostile/ biased against us than people at healthy body weight. Hummmm. Remember that face and those questions the next time you are up on the Xtrainer ...........Hoo-Rah!

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This one is unbelievable!!! So, I just came back from a business trip this week. Now... I've always been a big guy, but could always fit into airplane seats and wear the seat belts. It's always tight, but I can fit. Well, as i was bording a plane in Milwaukee to come back to California, this "crazy" lady :blink: scanning the boading passes had the nerve to ask me "Am I going to need another seat? :angry: Now...initially.... It did not register what she meant... I said no.. assuming she meant if I wanted to switch seats... but then she has to the audacity to ask "can you place the arm rest down". :angry: At this point I look at her with a death stare... and then she gets the hint and just shuts up. But wait there's more..... this lady was morbidly obese herself!!!!!!!!!!!!! She had to be no taller than 5 feet and and easily 400 lbs. Unbelievable!!!

I guess life is funny. I've flew countless times, and never had anything happen to me like this. However, I am a month out from getting sleeved, and this ridiculous lady makes some stupid comments. I guess life wanted to throw another final jab before I get my sleeve on Sept. 18th.

Ok.. I am done with my rant.

Peace and Blessings everyone

I had a similar experience once on a plane and I wanted to toss her out the plane .. at 33k feet. :angry: Ok, I digrest. But, she ask me if I need an extention (which at the time I didn't know it was to extend the belt. I was mad, hurt to say the least. :( I did not want to take it but I would have cut off my own circulation so I did - reluctantly.

Yet one more inspiration for me to have been sleeved. Can't wait for my next plane ride! B)

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Yeah, I travel internationally alot and I am so sick of flying and being uncomfortable. On our last flight on Delta to JFK (RED EYE) we were in bulk head. Those seats don't have arm rest. They are divided by a metal barrier and the drink table is inside the divider. OMG, can I just tell you how uncomfortable that flight was. I was emotional and drained. I am just sick of it.

So can totally relate. I get nervous everytime I fly, like is someone gonna say something to me....it is mortifying. But what gets me is that lady. She had a damn nerve!

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I'm not proud of this, and if the women on this forum hate me for it or are offended, I'm truly sorry. But this was one of my rock bottom moments and it made me realize that I had to do something, anything, about my weight because I didn't like the person I was becoming. And I initially ruled out weight loss surgery because I thought it was too extreme.

Here's my story: I was taking my seat on an airplane and I was sitting next to this woman--not obese but very dumpy--and when I sat down, she gave me a dirty look and made that "scooting over" movement, clearly showing me that she didn't want to sit next to a fat person.

I looked at her and said, "What? What's your problem?" And she replied, "Perhaps you should have bought an extra seat."

Without batting an eyelash, I said, "And you smell like blood. Who's more offended?" She gave me that shocked, pearl-clutching face and wouldn't even look at me for the rest of the flight.

And at the time I actually felt good about saying that to her. Then I went to the airplane restroom. I was washing my hands and realized how inappropriate I was to this woman. I looked at the person staring back at me in the mirror and whispered, "Gustavo Alexander Rena, this is NOT who you are."

That was the very moment I decided to make an appointment with the surgeon.

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this is very sad/embarrassing (msp)

i was in Kohl's, asked a young girl at the register "where are womens i.e. blouses". she pointed me in the direction, then she said something like - oh and the plus sizes are. over there.

i was really hurt - i wanted to cry, i couldn't believe she said that :(

i know she was probably in her early 20's - if thats an excuse - i just wanted to die :(

better times are coming

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I'm not proud of this, and if the women on this forum hate me for it or are offended, I'm truly sorry. But this was one of my rock bottom moments and it made me realize that I had to do something, anything, about my weight because I didn't like the person I was becoming. And I initially ruled out weight loss surgery because I thought it was too extreme.

Here's my story: I was taking my seat on an airplane and I was sitting next to this woman--not obese but very dumpy--and when I sat down, she gave me a dirty look and made that "scooting over" movement, clearly showing me that she didn't want to sit next to a fat person.

I looked at her and said, "What? What's your problem?" And she replied, "Perhaps you should have bought an extra seat."

Without batting an eyelash, I said, "And you smell like blood. Who's more offended?" She gave me that shocked, pearl-clutching face and wouldn't even look at me for the rest of the flight.

And at the time I actually felt good about saying that to her. Then I went to the airplane restroom. I was washing my hands and realized how inappropriate I was to this woman. I looked at the person staring back at me in the mirror and whispered, "Gustavo Alexander Rena, this is NOT who you are."

That was the very moment I decided to make an appointment with the surgeon.

You said what a lot of us (I'm sure) were really thinking ... of saying but did not. Personally not offended. The sad thing is you're probable not the first, and unfortunately, may not be the last.

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Thanks everyone for their input. I know I am not alone in this, but it always nice to hear someone else's experiences. We will all be better for it!! There's just some cruel people in this world. And I agree with VSginn... it does seem like a fat on fat crime. I think that person was so unhappy with themselves that she put her own negative opinions on me.

Well... I am so looking forward to that sleeve date... I got 38 days to go!

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This one is unbelievable!!! So, I just came back from a business trip this week. Now... I've always been a big guy, but could always fit into airplane seats and wear the seat belts. It's always tight, but I can fit. Well, as i was bording a plane in Milwaukee to come back to California, this "crazy" lady :blink: scanning the boading passes had the nerve to ask me "Am I going to need another seat? :angry: Now...initially.... It did not register what she meant... I said no.. assuming she meant if I wanted to switch seats... but then she has to the audacity to ask "can you place the arm rest down". :angry: At this point I look at her with a death stare... and then she gets the hint and just shuts up. But wait there's more..... this lady was morbidly obese herself!!!!!!!!!!!!! She had to be no taller than 5 feet and and easily 400 lbs. Unbelievable!!!

I guess life is funny. I've flew countless times, and never had anything happen to me like this. However, I am a month out from getting sleeved, and this ridiculous lady makes some stupid comments. I guess life wanted to throw another final jab before I get my sleeve on Sept. 18th.

Ok.. I am done with my rant.

Peace and Blessings everyone

People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones! Wow, I can't believe that happened to you! I never fly anymore for fear that the same thing will happen to me. I cannot wait until the day that I can sit in an airplane seat again.

Good luck to you on your journey!

Holly

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Y'all are going to love love LOOOOOOOVE Life After Sleeve!!!! I'm not halfway through my weight loss yet but victories over these types of things are.... DELICIOUS!!!!!

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How frustrating =\

Just think how great it will be to step on next time and have no problems! I haven't flown for years because I'm worried about this kind of stuff. I cannot wait to board a plane with no worries!

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I completely understand. I was traveling for work, on my way back home. I had been furiously checking the seat assignments and someone was placed in the middle seat at the last minute. When I sat down, the woman next to me acted as if I had the plague. She huffed and puffed and made me feel completely uncomfortable. On the verge of tears, I went up to the flight attendant, explained what happened, and pleaded for her to change my seat. Thankfully, she was sympathetic and changed my seat. As I got off the plane, I couldn't help but hug her and say thank you for being compassionate.

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People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones! Wow, I can't believe that happened to you! I never fly anymore for fear that the same thing will happen to me. I cannot wait until the day that I can sit in an airplane seat again.

Good luck to you on your journey!

Holly

You're absolutely right. They should not throw stones. And she was definitely in a glass house.

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