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I am feeling so guilty. I had a really stressful day and what did I do? Yep, you guessed it. I turned to food. Carbs specifically. I am just starting on this journey. I've had all of my initial appointments and just need to have my psych consult, attend a support group and keep a food journal and show a pattern of weight loss. I was off to such a great start and have lost 14 lbs. in the past few weeks eating low carb/high Protein. Today I completely fell off the wagon and ate a bunch of crackers and 3 mini ice cream sandwiches. Ugh! So mad at myself. I decided to note it all in my food journal, so I'm sure I'll hear about it from the nutritionist next week at my check in. If I'm this weak, how am I ever going to be successful even with the sleeve???

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So you made some choices you wish you hadn't made. You can decide right now to turn around and start over. We've all been there. That's why we're getting sleeved...our own motivation lacks at times, and we need a powerful tool to help us. That's what the sleeve will do. Don't beat yourself up. You're human. And you are on an amazing journey. Just commit to restarting from here. You're doing great!!

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I don't know about everyone else, but my cravings diminished substantially since I had the surgery (even though it has only been one week). I was a total carb junkie before and was always an emotional eater, but just going through the surgery itself has not only curbed my physical cravings, but the whole process has helped me feel so much more confident that I will be able to do this. Do not beat yourself up. It is OK. We all fall down and then get right back up. Good luck to you!

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You'll mess up on your journey. I was 3 months, 10 days following a really reasonable pre op diet, no shakes, no liquid only, and I fell off the wagon, sometimes just a little, other times with a spectacular binge. Cynthia Alexander said it best in "The Emotional First Aid Kit". "You will fall off the wagon thousands of times between now and the end of your life. Falling off the wagon is not the problem. It never has been. It's how long you stay off that's the problem". So cheer up and remember that tomorrow is a new day.

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I can say the same...tomorrow is a new day, dont beat yourself up over it....just do better tomorrow...I would also suggest try to increase your Water too tomorrow, just so those things you ate can move itself out of your system asap....

since my surgery I've had a few food dreams, and 2 bouts of heat hunger, and when they happened, and I realized what they were, I laughed at myself

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Cynthia Alexander said it best in "The Emotional First Aid Kit". "You will fall off the wagon thousands of times between now and the end of your life. Falling off the wagon is not the problem. It never has been. It's how long you stay off that's the problem". So cheer up and remember that tomorrow is a new day.

Thanks everyone for the positive reinforcement! I'm back on the wagon today, upping my Water intake (thanks for the suggestion PEvette!), and going to the gym to work off some of those carbs.

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Girl you have got to stop beating yourself up! First of all we all fall off the wagon even after the surgery, but you have to remember new day new start. Put it behind you and next time before you reach for those ice cream lovelies just STOP, think and take a walk...get those endorphins flowing and then AFTER the walk see how you feel. Now when I get that feeling I reach for a cup of coffee....which is my new addiction. Before surgery i could not drink the stuff nor stand it and now i like it....go fig! Anyway, before you have the surgery see if you can book a couple of sessions with a therapist. Get some counseing for food addiction and your stress eating. Journal your thoughts, keep a blog vent frustrations without food....I know these are all suggestions you have heard a million times but I can honestly tell you you have to view food as your friend. Not your friend you indulge in but your friend you see in a healthy way. Don't have unreal expectaions about your relationship with food. For example am I going to tell you "dont you ever put that ice cream into your mouth again!!!!!!" No way, you like it you are going to eating again in your life, hands down. However, are you going to have three servings? NO! You're going to have one small helping and feel satisfied in the end that you have had enough to just hit the spot. Am I going to tell you that you are never going to have a day where you stress eat after surgery....no I'm not going to tell you that because you are human. Whatever you do if you have those days, don't beat yourself up, just remember that every new day brings a new beginning:) And don't forget to smile and be HAPPY!

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Reporting in that I had a great day today. Stuck with my meal plan and had a really good workout at the gym. Thanks again to everyone who provided words of encouragement. It was just what I needed! I'm still getting used to talking about weight loss and being honest when I have a bad day. I usually just suffer in silence because I'm so mad at myself and embarassed. Just about all of my friends and family members are thin and it's impossible to talk to someone who thinks having 10 pounds to lose is a big deal. I have to say I'm actually looking forward to my psych consult. Pretty sure it is going to be more helpful than I think.

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