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I was sleeved April 18th. So I had an appointment a week out and then today. Since surgery I'm down 26 pounds. Add that to preop, in 6 1/2 weeks I'm down 46 pounds. I am ecstatic. That almost 50 lbs off. He looked at me and was like "now you gotta start working on it. You need to workout and eat right. This is up to you. We want to make sure you get as much me your weight off in the first year. You gotta be accountable."

WTF?! I get up 2:30 am 5 days a week to work out do at least an hour before work. I walk my daughter in her stroller when I get home. I hadn't chewed anything in 7 weeks and only ate 3 times a day. What more can I do? Only good part is I'm allowed food now. Do you think I took it wrong? Gah... Sorry guys... Needed to vent.

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He doesn't sound very supportive and you are doing great! I was sleeved 4/20 and I lost 18 lbs, to date. My doctor told me not to get discouraged :-) You know you are doing great and you should be applauded. Tell your Doc to lay off the Hater-ade.

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Some doctors are just @ssholes, and your doctor seems like one of them.

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I think your doctor is crazy! You're doing great!!! Sorry he came across that way! Keep doing what you're doing & ignore him!!!

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Wow you're doing better than me and I was sleeved 4/10...I'm only down 24 lbs , what are you doing other than waking up so early ;) and working out. I fluctuate on working out so I have to get better at that !

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Your doctor is being a jerk! You are averaging 4 pounds a week, which is GREAT! Don't be discouraged, maybe he was reading or subtracting numbers wrong. I've had to do the math for my surgeon's nurse before.

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You are doing beautifully and so long as you feel good about what you're doing, that's all that matters. Most surgeons are good at cutting, but not with the bedside manner. Mine included. But when you think of the number of patients that come to them with real food issues, who think they can do this and still eat junk -- all the crap they have to hear day in and day out -- I get it. They want to push and motivate because they see people struggle, cheat, fail. And they know that after the first year is most likely when weight regain COULD happen, if you haven't adopted a healthy eating regimen or exercise as part of your daily life. Which it sounds like you do.

Not that it's an excuse for his behavior. I found it easier when I didn't have to talk to my surgeon anymore because he said all the same things. They try, but sometimes it just comes out all wrong. Keep it up!

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Thank you guys. I needed to be validated on what I thought. And wasn't even adding the 10 pounds of Fluid after surgery I had to lose again lol.

I owe everything to my stressful job, a SPRINTING 15 month old, and the fact that only fluids have passed my lips in 7 weeks lol. Had some chicken today... Let's just say "shades of gray" had nothing on that first bite lol.

I may not be losing like some people, but this is my journey. I have to do it myself. With the research I've done, and the support of you guys, I think I have a good game plan. And a 46 pound head start :-)

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Sounds like he has a script and says exactly the same thing to all his patients at one month out ... you're doing so well! :)

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You are do great! He is a jerk.

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Some doctors have standard things that they say patience and are going to say it to you even know you're doing everything right because you're the exception not the rule most people don't goal and work out most people don't avoid foods are supposed to avoid your doing a great job just reminder Dr. about

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Star, I think you were a victim of "rote speech". He hears the same things from patients so often that he has a speech in place for that expected conversation. He doesn't know how to vary his approach to someone who is actually being successful. I agree that he's an a##, but at least he actually sees you instead of palming you off on someone else like some of the doctors I've read about on here.

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I'm still pre-op, but I would be doing a happy dance if I were you! Great job! :)

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My military doctor sounds like him and I appreciate his frankness and no nonsense leadership style. I am motivated because of him, he did his job with the surgery now it's time for me to do my part which is to work hard and keep it off.

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