Here We Go!

[BoBann 42]

Hello Everyone,

I am new to the site and have been reading along for over 3 months now. I have recently finished all necessary appts....physical, psych, and nut. My surgeons office will be submitting for auth so please wish me luck. I have scoured over pros and cons and know in general what to expect but what I want to know is what you think about the effects the surgery had on marriages? The divorce rate for Bariatric patients is above average.

I am including my stats because I love reading others stats and would also love to hook up with a surgery buddy. I'm located in the central valley in California.

Age: 37

Height: 5'2" (so many people leave this out ????)

Current weight: 210

Surgery weight: we will see

Goal weight: 140

Can't wait to be part of the losers bench!

You have all been such an inspiration already!

-BoBann

[betterthanbefore 19]

I am close to your stats. My date has been set to april 16

Not from california though. I am from texas.

36 yr old

5'4"

210

Goal weight is 125

[BoBann 42]

Nice to meet you Betterthanbefore

Truth be told I would love to be 125. I just feel greedy for wanting that low of weight. I can't remember ever being 125. In high school I started at 130 and by the time I graduated I was 150.

[IowaAndy 95]

Have never been married so can not help you with the divorce issue. I know that one of the many reasons that I have never settled down had to do with me being overweight..........sad really and now I am so set in my ways that somedays I think the dog wants to leave.

[betterthanbefore 19]

I remember being 125 in high school at one point also and before i got married i was 140...so i will be happy if i get to 140 but i am being greedy and shooting for 125. I am excited and very nervous. I have had a c section and Lipo before, but for some reason my mind feels like this is more drastic...even though i think the c section would be worse. It took me 6 weeks to recover from that. It was very painful.

[BoBann 42]

I'm only asking about the marriage issues because my husbands last marriage ended a year after his last wife had WLS surgery. He is totally supportive but the closer I get he seems a little more nervous. I feel for him because he is stuck in the middle sorta speak. His family is kinda like "didn't you learn your lesson the first time?" it's unfair to him and me. I'm a totally different person than his exwife and I strongly feel that our marriage is solid. He has admitted to having some nervous feelings. Everyone else surrounding him who know the details of his divorce all blame the surgery and say his wife totally changed. Has anyone else experienced a "total change" in personality either themselves or in others who have had the surgery? The psych says it it doesn't happen but I want to get other points of view.

[sleeve 4 me 910]

Welcome

[BoBann 42]

Thanks Sleeve 4 me! I have read many of your posts and you look fantastic!