Just throwing this out there...

It seems as though the thinner I get the nicer people are to me. I know it sounds rude but it's true. When I'm at the grocery store the workers go over and offer me a cart and while shopping workers say hello and offer to help me more. It really does feel as though people are nicer and more helpful to me now that I'm thin!

Anyone else experience this?

Yes' date=' I believe this is true. I also believe employers are sometimes put off by obese people who apply for jobs. It also could be that obese people sometimes do not dress properly for an interview.[/quote']

There is a hospital here in Texas that has a policy that they will not hire employees with BMI's greater than 35. So even though I am a hard worker, able to be on my feet 12 hours a day without complaint, & no health issues other than being overweight, I can not obtain employment as a nurse with 10+ years experience bc my BMI is 36.....that's what I call discrimination!

Well the only thing I can say then if you feel you were treated differently when you were heavy is that people only treat you the way that you let them and if you let them treat you differenlty then who is to blame. I have never been turned down for a job, been treated rudely, always had doors held for me at my heaviest, never had an issue with men treating me badly when I was overweight. I guess it all depends where you live because I never have been treated badly because of my weight.

Well .... Good for you. But everywhere else, in the "real world"..., larger people are treated differently. It has been proven over and over again in tv documented programs. I consider my self an attractive person and a very out-going extrovert. But the facts are.... thin people are treat differently from fat people.

How do you know for sure that you have never been turned down for a job because of your weight....? Do you really think someones going to come out and tell you..... I would love to hire you, but your too fat..... Hell no, they are going to give some other reason. And as far as people treat you the way you want to be treated.... really. When i was fat, i never woke up and said..... hummm today i want to be treated badly. Let me go out and find some one to do that because I deserve it.

Well .... Good for you. But everywhere else' date=' in the "real world"..., larger people are treated differently. It has been proven over and over again in tv documented programs. I consider my self an attractive person and a very out-going extrovert. But the facts are.... thin people are treat differently from fat people.

How do you know for sure that you have never been turned down for a job because of your weight....? Do you really think someones going to come out and tell you..... I would love to hire you, but your too fat..... Hell no, they are going to give some other reason. And as far as people treat you the way you want to be treated.... really. When i was fat, i never woke up and said..... hummm today i want to be treated badly. Let me go out and find some one to do that because I deserve it.[/quote']

Thank u!! I was totally ticked when I read that posters comments like we were all weak and allowing ourselves to be mistreated! With the kind of attitude I imagine she is always treated the same whether thin or fat...

Glad u said something. I thought I was over reacting hehe. Thirty ppl come on here and say they were treated diff on here then this jack comes on and insults us all!

Your welcome.... One thing i always do is speak my mind... sometimes it's good...and ummm sometimes not so good. I have a few people on here that don't like me because of that reason... but i yam whos i yam... gagagaga

My wife got banded last fall and has lost about 45 pounds since then. But to share one of her experiences. She took a plane to go out of town for work and on that plane a guy who sat next to her complained to the flight attendant because he didnt want to "sit next to a fat person". Sadder is that the guy was fairly overweight himself..so much he couldnt connect his belt because of his gut. He also complained that he had to sit next to someone who was overweight to complete strangers as well. I told her if I had been on the plane I would have decked him. The jerk!

ha... anyone that knows me knows that i would have told he.... oh yeah, well i use to be 223lb and i hate sitting next to stupid people. oh.. and by the way your no skinny person your self. Then i would have called the flight attendant over and said loudly, can i please move... it really bothers me to have to sit next to stupid people who don't have mirrors...

just a little background.... i am the person that will tell you you have too many items for the 20 item or less lane...

Without a doubt.

ha... anyone that knows me knows that i would have told he.... oh yeah, well i use to be 223lb and i hate sitting next to stupid people. oh.. and by the way your no skinny person your self. Then i would have called the flight attendant over and said loudly, can i please move... it really bothers me to have to sit next to stupid people who don't have mirrors...

just a little background.... i am the person that will tell you you have too many items for the 20 item or less lane...

LOL!!!

I was a size 4 seven years ago and now need Lapband so I know both sides of the fence. Thinner people are definitely without a question treated kinder. It goes from the airlines which are the worst offenders down to the waiters in restaurants. That is one of the main reasons I want to get thin again is I miss that treatment! I notice especially when eating out that you order and people around you look at you as if to say "she is eating dessert". Such a bias!!!!

I am actually considering doing some writing on this subject because I have seen it first hand.

ABSOLUTELY!!! :angry:

I have been passed up for a promotion because of my weight.

Also- my OB doctor was "fat-phobic." I believe I received sub-optimal care because he was disgusted by my weight.

I don't feel like when I was bigger I was treated mean when I was bigger... I just feel like people are generally more helpful and nice to me now.

There is a hospital here in Texas that has a policy that they will not hire employees with BMI's greater than 35. So even though I am a hard worker, able to be on my feet 12 hours a day without complaint, & no health issues other than being overweight, I can not obtain employment as a nurse with 10+ years experience bc my BMI is 36.....that's what I call discrimination!

I understand that I work for a contracting company in the middle east. They told me I had to get my BMI level down by my next physical. Which is next year. I have to be under 30 to obtain employment overseas. Oh and I don't work in the RED Zone either.

Your welcome.... One thing i always do is speak my mind... sometimes it's good...and ummm sometimes not so good. I have a few people on here that don't like me because of that reason... but i yam whos i yam... gagagaga

There is nothing about speaking your mind. I do it daily. Some say I have no feelings or I am cold hearted. It's neither, I am tired of listening to grown men or women throw 3yr old tantrums.

My motto where I work is "I wasn't here to make you like me, I am here to support the mission"