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i like the sex threads. For me sex has always been good, but after loosing 50lbs its even better! I want to talk about it , toss around some ideas or even some insecurities. OH has a sex forum, we could add one here we can have the lounge and the bedroom lol

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... tossing roung insecurities .... that's one of the reason I think that the sex threads are so important. We have many bandsters who've been fat their entire lives and haven't felt good about their bodies in a long time, if ever.

I think we need someplace to talk about these new feelings, but I think just labeling the threads is good enough.

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Sorry Kylie if I offended. I am very glad you opted for the band instead of the other surgeries. I have a problem with WLS in the young because I deeply believe that not only is anatomy still shifting and evolving, but behavior and emotions too. Most of my band issues are emotional in nature and I know that I would not have been able to "handle it" whan I was fifteen.

I am glad you are progressing toward your goals and doing everyting you can to be healthy and happy. Thank you for replying to my post, I needed to hear it.

My question is... how did you find it? Are you supposed to be on this thread?

What do you think? Do we need a locked area, or are clear titles enough? I know fifteen isn't nearly as young as it used to be. Have you been shocked or offended by anything you've found here?

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Sorry Kylie if I offended. I am very glad you opted for the band instead of the other surgeries. I have a problem with WLS in the young because I deeply believe that not only is anatomy still shifting and evolving, but behavior and emotions too. Most of my band issues are emotional in nature and I know that I would not have been able to "handle it" whan I was fifteen.

I am glad you are progressing toward your goals and doing everyting you can to be healthy and happy. Thank you for replying to my post, I needed to hear it.

My question is... how did you find it? Are you supposed to be on this thread?

What do you think? Do we need a locked area, or are clear titles enough? I know fifteen isn't nearly as young as it used to be. Have you been shocked or offended by anything you've found here?

I don't think that areas need to be locked. Most of the things that the older people talk about are nothing new to me. Honestly, most of the things they talk about are things that, surprising as it may be, people at my school talk about.

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So what's the general consensus of the board ? Have we decided how to approach this yet ?

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Gosh I must be missing something. Where are the threads about sex? :) I've seen from time to time someone asking an honest question about sex and the band. I think that is legimate and I was curious about that as well. Don't want to give everything up! I think most can decide whether they want to read a thread or not. For instance, I know when I go into the American Idol thread I'm not going to read about the band. If you get started on this then we won't have someone sharing their surgery photos with us. I personally was so intrigued by that thread and the person posting warned upfront that the photos were graphic. I vote for self censorship.

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Gosh I must be missing something. Where are the threads about sex? :) I've seen from time to time someone asking an honest question about sex and the band. I think that is legimate and I was curious about that as well. Don't want to give everything up! I think most can decide whether they want to read a thread or not. For instance, I know when I go into the American Idol thread I'm not going to read about the band. If you get started on this then we won't have someone sharing their surgery photos with us. I personally was so intrigued by that thread and the person posting warned upfront that the photos were graphic. I vote for self censorship.

I agree with you that self censorship should be the way to go. Let's see how it works.....

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I'm pretty sure we decided to just mark our naughty threads with an XXX. No adult board necessary.

I'm OK with creating an adult board if that's what everybody wants ?

Marking the thread with an XXX is a great idea!

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I think we decided on no separate forum because we wanted not to encourage MORE sex talk that wasn't band related.

If we had a separate forum, folks would feel obligated to fill it up...

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