Today I had an unexpected and surprisingly satisfying NSV. I noticed that my belly button shrank. It's about 50% shallower than it used to be! Who knew I would be so pleased about less depth to my belly button? ?

18 hours ago, SkinnyMingo1408 said:

Yay! I almost have that problem! Great job!

Thank you! It's great problem to have!

Something that recently hit me: I am noticeably smaller than my partner. I'm not the big woman with a skinny guy anymore, I'm officially the little spoon. It's such uncharted territory, and I love that I'm getting to experience it!

4 minutes ago, Smanky said:

Something that recently hit me: I am noticeably smaller than my partner. I'm not the big woman with a skinny guy anymore, I'm officially the little spoon. It's such uncharted territory, and I love that I'm getting to experience it!

love it!

there was something very satisfying as well for me when i hit the goal of weighing less than Mr. again! AND also being able to wear his offered sweater/or jacket when im cold ??❤️

5 minutes ago, ms.sss said:

love it!

there was something very satisfying as well for me when i hit the goal of weighing less than Mr. again! AND also being able to wear his offered sweater/or jacket when im cold ??❤️

Yes! And not just wearing it, but wrapping it around yourself. At my previous slimmest, I could just get into his jeans, now they fall off me! ?

I love a cross body handbag. My NSV is having to shorten the strap because the bag hangs way to low now that my back is so much thinner.

17 hours ago, summerseeker said:

I love a cross body handbag. My NSV is having to shorten the strap because the bag hangs way to low now that my back is so much thinner.

Yes! I had a blue handbag in storage which, even with the strap extended as long as it could, would sit waaaay too close to my armpit pre-surgery. Now it sits at my hip. The downside is that it's spent SO long in storage the faux leather is starting to disintegrate. The NSV that got away!

Here is a fun one!

So, I have always been super fat so when it came to food in public I would over think things.

For example: If we went to a serve yourself place (buffet, wedding, event, etc) I would NEVER bring back extra food or an extra plate for my wife or anyone I was with. I didn't want to be "the fat girl with 2 plates". Or, if we went somewhere with assigned seating, I would always get the pick of the seat I wanted, hoping to be an end seat so I can overflow into the isle... OK OK You get the point.

We went to a Broadway show (Beetlejuice- was awesome, different conversation) and when I went to pick my seat my wife said "Nope you are smaller than me now, I want that seat" HAHA I didn't think much of it.

But, then this weekend we were at an all inclusive resort which had like a late night snack grab and go thing. I said I was going to see what they had to get a snack and my wife says "bring me back something"... I did... 2 PLATES!

THAT'S RIGHT, THAT'S THE NSV! HAHA I carried 2 plates of food back from the self serve bar and didn't even hesitate.

Funny but a NSV for me, none the less!!!

Edited February 16, 20233 yr by kcuster83

I can relate to the seating issues. I work in a high school and last year (I had my RNY 6/22) I had to SQUEEZE in and out of the desks and HATED it. I felt like every time I stood up all the kids were watching and judging (high Schoolers that could've cared less). I had to push my way out. Now I get in and out so easy! Again, the students could care less.

2 hours ago, kcuster83 said:

Here is a fun one!

So, I have always been super fat so when it came to food in public I would over think things.

For example: If we went to a serve yourself place (buffet, wedding, event, etc) I would NEVER bring back extra food or an extra plate for my wife or anyone I was with. I didn't want to be "the fat girl with 2 plates". Or, if we went somewhere with assigned seating, I would always get the pick of the seat I wanted, hoping to be an end seat so I can overflow into the isle... OK OK You get the point.

We went to a Broadway show (Beetlejuice- was awesome, different conversation) and when I went to pick my seat my wife said "Nope you are smaller than me now, I want that seat" HAHA I didn't think much of it.

But, then this weekend we were at an all inclusive resort which had like a late night snack grab and go thing. I said I was going to see what they had to get a snack and my wife says "bring me back something"... I did... 2 PLATES!

THAT'S RIGHT, THAT'S THE NSV! HAHA I carried 2 plates of food back from the self serve bar and didn't even hesitate.

Funny but a NSV for me, none the less!!!

Me too. My partner has a disability so I would get his food and then go back for my own. Never, ever be seen carrying two at once. Now, meh, who cares, not me.

9 hours ago, kcuster83 said:

Here is a fun one!

So, I have always been super fat so when it came to food in public I would over think things.

For example: If we went to a serve yourself place (buffet, wedding, event, etc) I would NEVER bring back extra food or an extra plate for my wife or anyone I was with. I didn't want to be "the fat girl with 2 plates". Or, if we went somewhere with assigned seating, I would always get the pick of the seat I wanted, hoping to be an end seat so I can overflow into the isle... OK OK You get the point.

We went to a Broadway show (Beetlejuice- was awesome, different conversation) and when I went to pick my seat my wife said "Nope you are smaller than me now, I want that seat" HAHA I didn't think much of it.

But, then this weekend we were at an all inclusive resort which had like a late night snack grab and go thing. I said I was going to see what they had to get a snack and my wife says "bring me back something"... I did... 2 PLATES!

THAT'S RIGHT, THAT'S THE NSV! HAHA I carried 2 plates of food back from the self serve bar and didn't even hesitate.

Funny but a NSV for me, none the less!!!

Love this NSV.

For me - gone are the days of panicking when a waiter starts to show my family to a booth, rather than a table where I can push my chair back as far as I need. Some of the most public embarrassment I've faced during my life as a person with obesity.

5 hours ago, Spinoza said:

Love this NSV.

For me - gone are the days of panicking when a waiter starts to show my family to a booth, rather than a table where I can push my chair back as far as I need. Some of the most public embarrassment I've faced during my life as a person with obesity.

Yes to this one too! The bench stools at the airport that are bolted into the floor, with a metal back that I never used to sit in (I'd stand at the bench instead) are now super roomy and I could plop a child on my lap and still fit. No-Longer-Fearing-Chairs is honestly one of the enduring NSV high-points. ?‍♀️

27 minutes ago, Smanky said:

Yes to this one too! The bench stools at the airport that are bolted into the floor, with a metal back that I never used to sit in (I'd stand at the bench instead) are now super roomy and I could plop a child on my lap and still fit. No-Longer-Fearing-Chairs is honestly one of the enduring NSV high-points. ?‍♀️

So true! The couch at my therapists office is getting bigger and bigger.? The world finally fitting is definitely a plus.

On 2/16/2023 at 7:24 AM, kcuster83 said:

So, I have always been super fat so when it came to food in public I would over think things.

For example: If we went to a serve yourself place (buffet, wedding, event, etc) I would NEVER bring back extra food or an extra plate for my wife or anyone I was with. I didn't want to be "the fat girl with 2 plates". Or, if we went somewhere with assigned seating, I would always get the pick of the seat I wanted, hoping to be an end seat so I can overflow into the isle... OK OK You get the point.

We went to a Broadway show (Beetlejuice- was awesome, different conversation) and when I went to pick my seat my wife said "Nope you are smaller than me now, I want that seat" HAHA I didn't think much of it.

But, then this weekend we were at an all inclusive resort which had like a late night snack grab and go thing. I said I was going to see what they had to get a snack and my wife says "bring me back something"... I did... 2 PLATES!

THAT'S RIGHT, THAT'S THE NSV! HAHA I carried 2 plates of food back from the self serve bar and didn't even hesitate.

I know exactly what you mean about being self-conscious about food in public, and I've been in that same situation of not wanting to bring food back for someone else because I know no one would believe me. That is very cool that you can feel free to carry two plates of food now.

Sadly, even after losing the weight, I still hate eating in front of people and I still carry that shame about food. Even when I'm eating healthy food, I still feel like people are watching and judging what I eat. A few months back, I was buying fish at a seafood market and I asked for advice about how to cook a certain kind of fish, and the lady at the counter started to say it's good fried, but then she stopped and said, "Well, you're probably into healthy cooking, right?" based on nothing but looking at me, and it felt so weird! I don't think I'll ever lose the scars of being the fat girl.

On 2/16/2023 at 8:15 AM, SkinnyMingo1408 said:

I can relate to the seating issues. I work in a high school and last year (I had my RNY 6/22) I had to SQUEEZE in and out of the desks and HATED it. I felt like every time I stood up all the kids were watching and judging (high Schoolers that could've cared less). I had to push my way out. Now I get in and out so easy! Again, the students could care less.

Oh, man, I have so many horrible memories of those chairs with attached desks. I haven't encountered one since I lost weight, but now that I think about it, I kind of want to see what it's like to fit into one comfortably!

On 2/16/2023 at 5:23 PM, Spinoza said:

For me - gone are the days of panicking when a waiter starts to show my family to a booth, rather than a table where I can push my chair back as far as I need. Some of the most public embarrassment I've faced during my life as a person with obesity.

Yes! I used to hate booths so much, but I was too embarrassed to speak up and ask for a table because I was too fat to fit in a booth, so I just had to hope and pray to get a booth. I wonder if servers think about that. You would think it would come up often enough that they would try to be nice and default to a table when they see a plus-sized customer. Anyway, it is nice not to have the emotional burden of always having to wonder if I will fit into a seat.

On 2/17/2023 at 6:23 AM, Spinoza said:

Love this NSV.

For me - gone are the days of panicking when a waiter starts to show my family to a booth, rather than a table where I can push my chair back as far as I need. Some of the most public embarrassment I've faced during my life as a person with obesity.

I can relate to this. We went to a restaurant that my wife likes and all the indoor tables were taken. They only had outdoor tables with swing seats (with ropes and wooden deck etc). One year ago we would have just left and I'm sure the waitress would have not mentioned those tables upon seeing me lol. We sat there and enjoyed the meal. The swings were fine when we left. From now on, that is where we are going to sit every time we go there.