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Hello all, as you can tell I'm new! I will have my VSG on Nov. 11th. I have been calm, cool, and collected on this journey thus far with my new life/goal in my sights. The day i got my surgery confirmed... The anxiety swept in. Has anyone experienced a sense of mourning the loss of the old you? Im not past the surgery yet and im afraid that i will lose myself who ive come to be, in doing this surgery. I'm ready and i want it, but im also sad. Does that make sense? I just keep thinking what if i dont recognize my reflection several months from now? I don't know if I'm making any sense lol. Hopefully im not alone thinking this. Any feedback would be appreciated!

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I am pretty sure you won't lose the old you. What you will lose is bad eating habits! I was nervous also, but 4 weeks out I feel like everything will be fine!

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12 hours ago, amifreebitterme said:

Hello all, as you can tell I'm new! I will have my VSG on Nov. 11th. I have been calm, cool, and collected on this journey thus far with my new life/goal in my sights. The day i got my surgery confirmed... The anxiety swept in. Has anyone experienced a sense of mourning the loss of the old you? Im not past the surgery yet and im afraid that i will lose myself who ive come to be, in doing this surgery. I'm ready and i want it, but im also sad. Does that make sense? I just keep thinking what if i dont recognize my reflection several months from now? I don't know if I'm making any sense lol. Hopefully im not alone thinking this. Any feedback would be appreciated!

In my opinion, you will not lose the "OLD" you, but you will gain a better you. I am still the same person that my morbid obese me was, but better. I feel better, I move much better, I can do things with my family (and not have to stop and catch my breath), and I am now running, which I had a hard time just walking. Relax and take a deep breath. You will be very happy that you had this surgery. God bless you on your journey.

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Yes, I know what you mean. I’ve had thoughts like “what if I don’t carry skinny well?” I’ve always been curvy, I have good skin, very few wrinkles, what if I’m an ugly skinny person? Yes I realize health is more important, but there is a sense of mourning the old curvy me that loved food of all kinds. I think that it’s okay to have these moments of fear and vanity. We’re human, and this is a lot to process.

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I'm still the old me....although I've had to find other things to do with my fingers in idle moments instead of snacking! I look hugely different on the outside, but inside, I still have the same values and personal qualities.

It's up to you how much you want to change. The potential is there for a complete Madonna-style reinvention...it depends how much change you can cope with all at once! 😊

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Hello all, as you can tell I'm new! I will have my VSG on Nov. 11th. I have been calm, cool, and collected on this journey thus far with my new life/goal in my sights. The day i got my surgery confirmed... The anxiety swept in. Has anyone experienced a sense of mourning the loss of the old you? Im not past the surgery yet and im afraid that i will lose myself who ive come to be, in doing this surgery. I'm ready and i want it, but im also sad. Does that make sense? I just keep thinking what if i dont recognize my reflection several months from now? I don't know if I'm making any sense lol. Hopefully im not alone thinking this. Any feedback would be appreciated!

Any changes in life can evoke feelings of loss as we let go of the old. Pretty normal to be anxious or sad when we make huge changes x

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On 10/21/2019 at 6:31 PM, DominicaAnne said:

Yes, I know what you mean. I’ve had thoughts like “what if I don’t carry skinny well?” I’ve always been curvy, I have good skin, very few wrinkles, what if I’m an ugly skinny person? Yes I realize health is more important, but there is a sense of mourning the old curvy me that loved food of all kinds. I think that it’s okay to have these moments of fear and vanity. We’re human, and this is a lot to process.

Yes!! Thank you this is exactly how ive felt! I was starting to feel a lil sad expressing my feelings to the few i did share this with, in my personal life because, expressing this to them they kinda gave me the side eye and of course couldn't relate at all. All I've known is me at this size so trying to visualize myself as something else is kinda terrifying tbh. Am i ready to change, yes. Have i made the necessary steps to have this new life, yes. But it's still freaking scary. So thank you for making me feel more at ease with this thought process and the fact im not alone is ever so comforting.❤️

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11 hours ago, Bastian said:

Any changes in life can evoke feelings of loss as we let go of the old. Pretty normal to be anxious or sad when we make huge changes x

Sent from my SM-G935F using BariatricPal mobile app

Sometimes its hard to take a step outside of yourself and process and self analyze. What you've said absolutely makes sense. I'm not sure I would've seen this perspective of my self for myself. Thanks.

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I feel the same way. I’ve been waiting on this surgery since 2011. I kept putting it off. With me going all the way through the process, I know I’m ready. Especially since I’m so close to my date, November 4th. I’m excited, scared and nervous all at the same time. I often think about how the new will look. Will I recognize her and can she come get into the habit of not directly going for the old things. 😂 but anyhoo, my pre/op diet is only 7 days. Please wish me luck 🙏🏾

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I feel the same way. I’ve been waiting on this surgery since 2011. I kept putting it off. With me going all the way through the process, I know I’m ready. Especially since I’m so close to my date, November 4th. I’m excited, scared and nervous all at the same time. I often think about how the new will look. Will I recognize her and can she come get into the habit of not directly going for the old things. [emoji23] but anyhoo, my pre/op diet is only 7 days. Please wish me luck [emoji1488]


Yay! You're so close! You got this! I wish you all the luck and strength!

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