This sight has been such a help to me. I went through both of my other surgeries not having anyone to talk to. There is so much available now and this site is so helpful in setting up a plan for success.

I initially picked 160 as a goal because I just have not reached that weight for 25 years and it seemed like something I could achieve. Now, after reading about the success stories I think I should pick a weight that puts me in the normal BMI range. So, 145 would be more realistic. My other big goal is to not have a fatty liver. That really bugs me.

I felt my best at 135 which is where I was in high school and early 20s. I thought I should aim for 145 and see how I am. Have the liver test and see if it is healthy. If so, I would accept 145.

I am 62 and I know that I do not have a lot of wrinkles because of the extra volume in my face. My face is where I lose it first so I do not want to be a thin person. Just a healthy person.

So: How did you pick your goal? And, how do I edit my goal? Thanks!

I picked 145, which is ever so slightly still in the overweight range. But I picked it because I was small until 20 and I was too small. I think I’d look good at 145. I think once I get there I’ll decide if I want to go smaller.

Well , my goal all along has been size 15 Junior/175 pounds. The junior because for a Once very obese ? and now lost feathers, claws and spurs, and probably my break and comb next, joke I already look like a Plucked Pullet in neighborhood of 190, scrawny neck, what seems like sunken- in cheeks, the whole sad train- wreck I think I LOOK like , although most people say I DON'T. I maybe chose 175 because it was a little over one- half the High Weight I once had 2 years ago, and after having Medical personnel say " OMG, You're at least 175 pounds overweight; that number, like a Bad Scar, I just can't escape it showing.Will 175 give me that cherished hope of a Size 15? Not certain, at this point I am either a 18 or 19, depending on which style pallets I'm dabbling in. I do miss Me, some of the old look I used to have, even the last time I was this size, Maybe summer of 1967, I still looked quite different. Although many say I do Not LOOK MY Age, I fear I look closer to the years I really have lived. Will they know ME when I walk into the Bariatric Clinic on August 14th? If they don't, IT IS THEIR OWN STUPID FAULT, not MY CHOICE not to be seen for 4 almost 5 months. Either it is Benign Neglect or I am NOT as interesting as once I was. Nurse Practitioner Valerie has decided to "grandfather" me into Good Health, does not want to do an additional EGJ even though I feel my ulcers are back again, the gnawing sensation eating , drinking milk, or even abstaining from food, nothing seems to relieve it. Yes I faithfully take my PPI once a day, have taken Carafate every 6 hours around the clock since October 12 2018, missed very few doses, probably could count them on my fingers and HAVE a digit or 2 left. But Valerie has made up in her little mind I am all BETTER, a miracle healing, Maybe she Moonlights as an TV Evangelist? Oh it is ONLY MY BODY after all, how dare I believe I might not be PERFECT by now?
Oh,I have kept my faith with my surgeon, the Great White Kahuna of it All, I promised on July 17th 2018 if HE would permit and perform my Surgery he would never hear a Whine , Complaint or me saying I regretted Anything about my Road TO and Through RNY and I have kept My Promise! I, on the other hand made No Such Promise to Ms VALERIE Moore, Certified Nurse- Practioner along with her other titles , like Masters in Nursing, Advanced Practice Validation/ Certification and GOD himself knows What Else. I am basically placid, sweet- tempered, put up up with enough BS to fertilize A Very Large Garden Plot, but at 73 just how much do I Endure before fighting back at least verbally? I have submitted, rolled over until I can't launder the soil out of my clothes, I would cry at the injustice but turning the " Other Cheek" gains one 2 bruised cheeks and permanently Red Eyes and Ragweed season is nearly over, can't pass this off as Allergies as I once did.
So better off or worse? I am thinner, look better, almost have a figure that Appears like a More Average Woman. But to gain this, I had MAJOR surgery, elected to make myself an Gastrointestinal Cripple. Yeah, in theory since I was an RNY, I could be reconnected since I did not lose my stomach, just had it divided into 2 sections, but what Guarantee do I have that ability to. take more than 6 ounces of anything in food, renewed enervation, natural peristalsis and all the things I once could take for granted WOULD work once again ? And Although I know my surgeon has more than adequate skills to effect this, would he be willing to? Would Medicare/ Medicaid fund another and MOST IMPORTANT-- Could I actually survive another? Yeah Alex Brecher did, but He's a Whole Lot Younger and his was to Save His Life, not to. merelyfeel better. Sorry folks, but tonight The.Big Brave Cowgirl has rode this pony until we are both ? Tired, stable one or both of us until Sunrise.??&?

@Frustr8 I understand. I might be calendar younger. But my body isn’t. I’m exhausted. I can’t say I regret surgery. I fought hard for it. I’m just exhausted with everything that goes awry and not having solutions.

For me a Goal weight is hard to perceive, I think I remember being called mildly obese in school and maybe weighed 135lbs I was actually 4” taller then and had a bigger body frame. Due to illness I lost bone density and have very small bony wrists compared to then. And I’m 5’ - tall.

Im exhausted with the never ending battle with my weight. At my highest over 215 lb I fought so hard to lose weight. I’d guess it was sometime prior to 2009. I can’t even remember. My weight at its lowest was around 124 lb. I struggled to keep it there but It kept creeping up. 2010 I had major surgery. Despite that I traveled to visit someone I thought was my best friend. To be there for her during the holidays.

i don’t understand people. Pretty much the first thing she said was something like I’m going to fatten you up. Let’s just say the whole thing turned into a bad dream.

I gained weight that I again fought to lose. I was down to 134 lb and that was during the process of moving to Florida. But somewhere at some point my weight jumped 30 lbs and for no reason I could discern. And then another 30. And I kept begging the doctors to help me. I dreaded seeing 200 again. But I did and my BMI hit 40.

My body can’t handle the weight, my immune system either. I was too afraid to set a goal weight. I’d be glad to get back to square one and hopefully beyond that. And be able to maintain it. My metabolic disorders looming over me. And the difficulties of ulcers, Dysphasia, stricture, etc. and my day to day chronic illness. I don’t really think about goal weight. I’m still on liquids and at best a protein soup with pasta that is a little easier to eat since the soft pasta goes down easier.

I hit the 42 lb loss mark. I forgot how much time has passed since surgery. I should be on regular food by now. I think July 12 was the timeline to hit phase 4. I had a endoscopy but never heard from my surgeon. They did a small dilation. But I’m having intermittent crushing pain in the center of my chest. And I’m feeling ulcers. I’m just beyond exhausted.

This thread has got me rethinking, in depth, about my goal weight. At my initial consult my nutritionist asked if would be happy at a 140lbs and I said no and I would be happy at 105 lbs. I've only been struggling with my weight for 8-9 years. It wasn't until I broke my ankle in 2018 that launched me into the abyss. I can live with a higher weight if I have swapped out fat for muscle.

On 7/22/2019 at 1:37 AM, Cheeseburgh said:

My advice is to pick a realistic goal weight so when you reach it you will have a better grasp on how you feel, how active you are and your diet. You can always change your goal.

This. One can always go lower with weight goals after having reached one. Some people pick as first goal getting out of the obese BMI for example.

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Psychologically it would be tough for me to set a goal I might not reach. So many people lose a bunch of weight yet still feel like they failed.

Again this.

I guess we've all read posts from users feeling like "failures" despite losing a real bunch of weight because their BMI is still in the overweight range.

On 7/24/2019 at 8:56 PM, ms.sss said:

Long story short, once you are on your "forever diet" I suspect our bodies decide what a realistic weight will be.

This is something to keep in mind. Our bodies will decide. Yoni Freedhoff writes about "best weight possible" and I think it's a sensible goal weight to have.