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I, for one, would find it unbearably obnoxious to face a "warning screen" or "pop-up window" EVERY SINGLE BLEEPING TIME I want read a post in Rants and Raves. I also note that Rants and Raves-type comments frequently are found on other types of threads as well. For example, this thread is in "Suggestions, Feedback & Questions." So I don't think a "Warning Page" would solve anything.

I find it shocking that people feel that they need protection from a little robust bantering. Frankly, I'm embarrassed for anyone who feels that way. I think you are being ridiculous.

Fortunately, when this type of thing has come up before, the owner of this site has had the wisdom to tell people, in essence, to "get over it," and to just ignore anything you are not interested in. I fervently hope he continues with that approach.

I totally agree. Geeze it's just R&R, it's not a freaking porn site......

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Excellent point!!!

If you don't want to visit a thread, don't visit it for heaven's sake! Same thing as a tv show you don't like, or a movie you don't like. You don't like it? Don't watch it! Geez!

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look, all im saying, is that a LOT of times, people find themselves there by accident, and its like a train wreck.

it is MUCH like a porn site..in that inside are people behaving in a way that isnt acceptable in any other format, and not everyone wants to be exposed to it.

This is a place for suggestions, not rnr...It was merely suggested and i support it, and i think its a great idea.

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I totally agree. Geeze it's just R&R, it's not a freaking porn site......

Well said!:clap2:

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<p>What if when you signed up you get to put a check next to the forums you want to take part in - and this could be changed whenever - so really you can only the ones you wanted to and asked to see. That way old or new you can make the mature choice for yourself.</p>

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I, for one, would find it unbearably obnoxious to face a "warning screen" or "pop-up window" EVERY SINGLE BLEEPING TIME I want read a post in Rants and Raves. I also note that Rants and Raves-type comments frequently are found on other types of threads as well. For example, this thread is in "Suggestions, Feedback & Questions." So I don't think a "Warning Page" would solve anything.

I find it shocking that people feel that they need protection from a little robust bantering. Frankly, I'm embarrassed for anyone who feels that way. I think you are being ridiculous.

Fortunately, when this type of thing has come up before, the owner of this site has had the wisdom to tell people, in essence, to "get over it," and to just ignore anything you are not interested in. I fervently hope he continues with that approach.

Ditto. The fact is, if anyone "accidentally" goes into RnR, it's only because they aren't paying attention to what they are doing. Even in the "new threads" section, the forum that the thread is in is clearly identified on the right side of the screen. So unless you've clicked before looking to see where a thread is or clicked on a link someone posted in another thread, you're pretty darn safe.

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<p>What if when you signed up you get to put a check next to the forums you want to take part in - and this could be changed whenever - so really you can only the ones you wanted to and asked to see. That way old or new you can make the mature choice for yourself.</p>

There used to be a function in the control panels where we could ignore entire forums, but I don't know if we still have it or not.

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I found the ignore threads option but not the ignore forums - seems like the easy option to me then nobody can complain if they 'accidently' (yeah right) end up in a forum they don't want to be part of.

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I don't know why this is such a big deal. If you accidentally go in there you don't have to keep reading. No different to a porn site... you very quickly know you're in there and it just takes one click to get out again.

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I, for one, think that making access to the RnR forums limited is basically hand holding of people who are old enough to make their own choice as to what they read. If you are mature enough to make the life changing decision to get the Lapband in the first place then you are mature enough to decide what posts you want to read and don't want to read. When you enter the RnR forum you are not automatically thrown into each and every thread and bombared with peoples thoughts, opinions, rants, raves, etc. whether the topic is "inappropriate in your mind" or not. You see titles of various topics, you are NOT required to click on them and if you do then be aware that you could read something that you may personally find offensive. Ignorance or lazyness of not paying attention to what forum you are in and what thread you read is no one's problem but your own. If you step into the street without looking both ways and get hit by a bus - is that the bus driver's fault? I don't think so.

Making the RnR forum something that you would have to specifically ask for registration with would absolutely inundate the site moderators with unnecessary work.

A newbie thats posts something like "help I'm having the lapband and I have a bunch of questions, etc, etc, etc ..." when they get no response will then realize "hmm perhaps I'm not posting in the right spot" and if they don't ... that is their problem for not learning how to read and research around the forums before making their post.

Who are WE to decide who should have the right to participate in certain forums? I've only been around these forums since approx. July and have less than 60 posts (I think) and generally choose to read more than I choose to post. I am old enough to vote, buy cigarette's (not that I smoke), buy alcohol, and even porn if I so choose and I am mature enough to make the decision to have the Lapband done. So who are YOU to tell me what I can and cannot read, and if I read it and don't like it then I can chose to not read it again, that's no one's issue but mine. Last I checked this is a free Country...

If you don't like the heat - stay out of the fire.

This post is not aimed or directed at anyone but is an expression of my opinion. When I state "you" I am not singling any one out.

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If you don't like the heat - stay out of the fire.

:clap2::clap2::clap2:

This post is not aimed or directed at anyone but is an expression of my opinion. When I state "you" I am not singling any one out.

surrrrrre you arent ... :)

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:clap2::clap2::clap2:

surrrrrre you arent ... :)

haha, I'm really not! Everyone is entitled to their opinion and the ability to share it. And if I do not agree with someone's opinion I will never attack them because of it. However, it is very easy to misinterpret someone's tone and intention in text which is why I added that little statement =)

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haha, I'm really not! Everyone is entitled to their opinion and the ability to share it. And if I do not agree with someone's opinion I will never attack them because of it. However, it is very easy to misinterpret someone's tone and intention in text which is why I added that little statement =)

Amen Sister - There has been WAY!!!! Too much of that going around here lately, wether it be by newbies, oldies, tweenies, etc. etc. ad nauseum. Both in and out of the Rants and Rave area which this isn't by the way despite the tone of many of the posts. And NO I am NOT being passive aggressive by not listing the names of those who are behaving more like this is RNR than the Feedback & Suggestions forum, I am only being too lazy to look for and list everyone (including myself after this post) but if anyone chooses to claim that I am I promise I will start screaming so loud my co-workers will be thinking its time for the nice little white men to visit me. Good grief the people making the passive aggressive accusations frequently come off looking even more passive aggressive than the person who they are responding to. I can't wait for the holidays to get over and for the members of this board to start behaving a bit better. ARGHHHHHH!!!!!

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Here comes my opinion if it counts at all.

IMHO - If you don't like a certain thing, stay away.

I'll put it this way. In every grocery store I can think of, the alcohol section is right by the produce. I don't know why it's this way, maybe carrots go good with Pale Ale.

Does anyone ever complain about the setup?

Do you get offended when you pass through to get to the next isle?

Sure you may pass through the different forums on this site, but it is clearly marked the "alcohol" section. (just for clarification in this case alcohol=RnR):biggrin1:

While it is there and you clearly don't drink, do you pick up a bottle and throw it on the ground to protest it's existance? I don't.

There are certain area's of this site I don't frequent, and there have been a few times I have felt offended about something, but I guess i am one of the few that ACTUALLY feels "to each his/her own"

If you don't like it, stay out. If you are going to complain, stop reading.

Don't go to the adult store if your not into body butter, fuzzy handcuffs, 'n porno. And if you do make it into the store, why are you complaining about whats in there?

I'm finished now...:censored:

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id like to disqualify my opinion.

Since being down south here, i dont have tv, i bike everywhere i go, i got on with a gallery here that needs me full time, and i havent been on here in a little while...and i realized....i dont care :D

section it whatever way ya wanna. turn it into a romper room, tear everyone to shreds free for all...i just dont care.

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