Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Overeaters Anonymous - Should I go??



Recommended Posts

Posted (edited)

Has anyone here ever attended an Overeaters Anonymous meeting?

Right after surgery I contacted the local chapter to talk to them about my reservations about the whole "higher power"/religious aspect of OA (I am nonreligious), and the host assured me it wasn't about religion. (The AA meetings I had gone to with a friend, they read from the Bible and prayed). Anyways, she went on to talk about how she became a food addict after SEVERE physical and sexual abuse by her family, and then I felt kinda like "my problems aren't nearly as bad as these people, so I don't think it's right for me to attend". I then mentioned I had WLS and she was kinda' iffy about it - gave me the impression she felt like I took an easy way out instead of working with OA and dieting, etc. I don't know...

Anyways, I am 6 months out now and the feelings of just wanting to nibble all day are coming back. I also have been eating super fast again and I vomit a lot. I don't eat the wrong foods, or too much foods, just too quickly. And I am seriously battling snacking all day, which I haven't.

OA is free and in the evenings, and I can't afford therapy or the time off work to go to it, so I am sort of thinking of going to OA. I just don't know if I will be ironically rejected for "cheating" by having WLS or being a bit thinner now. Anyone familiar with this group???? I have pretty bad anxiety and I am really nervous about the idea.

Edited by mousecat88

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'd say do whatever you think is going to help you. I've not been to OA, so I don't really know that much about them, but you wouldn't have to tell them you've had WLS, would you? Does your surgeon's office have support groups? Mine does, they meet once a month and have a seminar.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
2 minutes ago, GradyCat said:

I'd say do whatever you think is going to help you. I've not been to OA, so I don't really know that much about them, but you wouldn't have to tell them you've had WLS, would you? Does your surgeon's office have support groups? Mine does, they meet once a month and have a seminar.

I dunno - the things I want to talk about are kind of like "hey, I became addicted to food because of these events in my past and struggled with body image even when I was thin.... so I had WLS and now I need help because those old feelings of wanting to snack are coming back and it's making me physically sick." WLS is part of my story now.

My surgeon's office has a "support group" once a month, but from what I am told no one actually talks? They just have a speaker come in to talk about different things (one month was a plastic surgeon, one month a physical therapist, etc). I actually want to talk to people and get their advice.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I know OA uses the 12-steps and I am NOT A FAN. I just want to talk to people with similar issues. I guess I could go and not actually follow the steps, but use it to talk? Arrrghhh. Maybe a friend will go with me the first time.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
I think @ Danny Paul is either a member or has attended there a lot. Said they have helped him.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I remember going to my first OA meeting and coming down the steps and telling my friend I thought they all had way more problems than me and I didn't need it. I was about 230 and moved out of state. I went on to gain another 100 pounds, so obviously my problem was just as bad.

OA Is a good program and has helped many people. I have seen first hand.

Good luck!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
I went to OA and am not religious. I found it more white-knuckling and letting God guide you than real tactical help.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
30 minutes ago, ElaineP said:

I went to OA and am not religious. I found it more white-knuckling and letting God guide you than real tactical help.

That's what I am worried about. I want like common sense, real-world advice. I don't believe in the giving yourself over to a higher power thing or that "once an addict always an addict". I also feel like 12 step programs deflect personal responsibility.

My friend is in school to become a therapist and has to attend a support group for her class so I think we may go on Friday just to see what it is like.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I just got back from my psychiatrist and she said to give it a try and see if my surgeon has referrals (which they don't). If it doesn't work, she will pitch my problem to the team there and see if a therapist will pick up my case. No one there deals with eating disorders, but EVERYONE deals with substance abuse disorders (yay, West Virginia) and addiction is addiction so someone may be willing to try to work with me.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Surely hope so, you know , food Addiction is a tough but to crack.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Nut not Butt, got enough of that already!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I went for a little while. It wasn't for me. I'm not very religious either, and I found it to be too faith-based. They pray and read teachings. I did like hearing other people's stories of their eating disorders; in my group it wasn't just overweight people, it was all kinds of people who had issues with food.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I just checked to see if there was anything on MeetUp - none in my area, but the site somehow knows that 4 are interested. Maybe you'll have better luck in your area? I just searched "Gastric" and "Bariatric" to see what popped up, in case you want to try it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
9 hours ago, SublimeLemons said:

I just checked to see if there was anything on MeetUp - none in my area, but the site somehow knows that 4 are interested. Maybe you'll have better luck in your area? I just searched "Gastric" and "Bariatric" to see what popped up, in case you want to try it.

There's no meetups in my area - I live in a kinda rural place.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I talked to my trainer about this yesterday and he said I have an issue with undereating now and I told him that I am scared to start snacking throughout the day because it's not a good habit to pick back up. He said it'll be fine if I just eat like a few carrots in between my 5 small meals, but then I was like... but it can easily lead to me snacking on junk and then I will hate myself for doing that. It's such a slippery slope in my mind. He said my worry is good, but I took my worry up to level 10 and it's preventing me from eating things that are healthy and that I SHOULD get more calories in due to the intensity of my workouts. I just don't feel mentally comfortable doing that. I'm scared I will slip up and not be able to stop myself, or slip up and feel REALLY DAMN BAD and get really depressed. He said I am probably wanting to snack not so much because of bad habits coming back, but because I don't get enough macros in for the amount of work I am doing and my body is craving more food.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Featured Surgeons

    1. Masoud Rezvani

      Woodbridge, Virginia 22191

    2. Lisa Medvetz

      Downingtown, Pennsylvania 19335
      800-282-0066

  • Most popular:

  • Recent Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • christa_reid

      Hi I  am new here and I am going to have the gastric sleeve next month. I have to pay out of pocket so it is going quite quickly. The longer I wait the more bad stories I hear. I weigh 315 and 61 years old so I have a lot to lose. Any advice is welcome
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • ProudGrammy

      Georgia on my mind - off to grand-daughters high school graduation - she's smart and cute as a button, just like her grammy,☺️
      kathy
      · 2 replies
      1. SusieQ2019

        Congratulations to her Proud Granny, and wishing her a bright and successful future.

      2. Orchids&Dragons

        Congrats to your granddaughter! Have a wonderful trip!

    • *Meaghan*

      Went to my initial consult with the Bariatric surgeon/ program I chose. Came home with a folder full of information & helpful organization of all the testing that needs to be completed while I complete the required nutritional counseling. She also let me know my insurance typically takes 6 weeks to reply with authorization when submitted, so that puts my potential surgery date near the new year if all stays on track  I felt comfortable with her, in our discussions she agrees that I am a good candidate for the Gastric Bypass. I appreciated the 'introduction' class that was given after the consult with the surgeon where I was given this binder of every referral (from her, not my pcp referrals), & contact information for all the testing needed to make my contacts/calls tomorrow morning even easier I start my nutrition classes on June 5th, so that's when the clock will start toward insurance approval & getting the tool to help me reach my goals
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Torie Faye

      I had my Bypass Surgery on 04/25/2019 I'd weighted before surgery 308 and now 285. I get depressed because I thought it would be more. I follow all instructions from Dr.. Green walk every day work out and eating solid foods 
      · 1 reply
      1. ProudGrammy

        welcome welcome - 23 lbs pre/post op is great. you are doing fine. keep up the good work. kathy

    • MrsGamgee

      Day 5 post-op... didn't sleep great last night, lots of gas pain and it was my first night without using the rx pain meds. I'm tired and feeling rather stupid. My nurse is supposed to call today for a check in, so I'm debating taking a nap now and risk missing her call, or forcing myself to stay awake and pray she calls soon. Also, showering should be considered a workout... just doing the basics used up all my energy. Weight is slowly working its way down. I know that I shouldn't be on the scale yet, but I couldn't resist. I'm down almost 9lb down since surgery. Yay!
      · 1 reply
      1. Emilia Danciu

        You are allowed to feel tired, take naps and only do the minimum this soon after the surgery. Listen to your body and be good to yourself at this time. Most important things to care about at this time is hydration and protein. It is a full-time job to stay on top of that and prioritize your energy there for now. Just give your body the time to heal and adjust, don’t rush the recovery.

  • Trending Topics

  • Magazine Articles

  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs
    ×