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Hi guys!

Revision patient here. I was banded in 2011, then had my band removed last June and am now scheduled and approved for bypass on Thursday. Im so scared, I keep thinking maybe I should reschedule. Wondering if anyone else has/had these thoughts:

-what if i die

-can I commit to the lifetime of changes

-what if I gain weight back

-what if I lose all the weight and still am not happy

-what if, what if, what if....

Also, this is silly but I can’t miss weeks of work. Anyone go back fairly soon after?

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Anxiety and nerves before an operation a common, I guess you need to determine what is normal and what is over the top anxiety and nerves.

Lots of what ifs, I am sorry I can't help you there, but if you can't commit to the recover time just yet, perhaps you should reconsider the timing until you can deal with some of the anxiety and take the time to recover properly. You are going to be in pain, you will have stitches, you won't be eating properly for awhile being at work before you are ready (and not just mentally ready but physically too) could compromise your health, recovery and weight loss. Timing of return to work may also depend on your job and where your work...sit at desk, on feet all day etc etc

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There are "what if" moments all through life. I certainly sympathize with you. I made a will out days before my surgery. On the day of surgery I told my surgeon I was having second thoughts. Looking back, yes I was terrified. I have never had a major surgery. However my health was declining and my joints ached all the time. I made the right decision. Take one day at a time. Good luck to you.

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5 hours ago, EspeciallyKK said:

Hi guys!

Revision patient here. I was banded in 2011, then had my band removed last June and am now scheduled and approved for bypass on Thursday. Im so scared, I keep thinking maybe I should reschedule. Wondering if anyone else has/had these thoughts:

-what if i die

-can I commit to the lifetime of changes

-what if I gain weight back

-what if I lose all the weight and still am not happy

-what if, what if, what if....

Also, this is silly but I can’t miss weeks of work. Anyone go back fairly soon after?

Literally had every single one of those questions and many more! Too many 'what ifs' which are all brought on by my awful anxiety. 😕

I think you will do just fine though and get through it. I am no seer, unable to see the future, but as long as you work hard to stay on track and meet your goals, then you will do alright! It's normal to feel these kinds of worries, and I'm sure most people on the site had at least one or two of them.

As for work, I can't answer that question. Unemployed here, but I know some people go back almost right away while others wait a few weeks. If it were up to me, I would say to use a couple weeks or so to really recover before going back. (But that's just me!)

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Thanks you guys. I’m sure it will all be fine, my brain just keep spiraling. How long were you guys off, if you were working at the time of surgery?

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I know for a fact, not a what if, your your incidence of cancer, metabolic syndrome, heart disease, sleep apnea, high blood pressure, diabetes, joint and knee problems, blood circulation, hypertension, respiratory disorders, kidney disease, liver disease, septicemia will dramatically rise if you stay obese.

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Hi guys!
Revision patient here. I was banded in 2011, then had my band removed last June and am now scheduled and approved for bypass on Thursday. Im so scared, I keep thinking maybe I should reschedule. Wondering if anyone else has/had these thoughts:
-what if i die
-can I commit to the lifetime of changes
-what if I gain weight back
-what if I lose all the weight and still am not happy
-what if, what if, what if....
Also, this is silly but I can’t miss weeks of work. Anyone go back fairly soon after?
These are my exact thoughts!!! My VS surgery is scheduled for March 11. Not too far behind you! I wish you the absolute best!!!!

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