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KATHY

IM SO SORRY I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY OTHER THAN MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

SO SORRY 😪

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Kathy
I am horribly saddened by your news. That is not the correct order for family to lose a member.
Grieving will be a long and windy road.
I can just say: I’m so sorry for your family. Please take care of yourself. And. Yes. WE LOVE YA BABY

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To all my bariatric friends/pals

thank you all so much for your nice thoughts to me and my family.

Andrew is (i don't like the words was) a wonderful, wonderful grand-son.

i will always love him forever and forever. Life sadly must/will go on

without him - but my memories will always be in my heart.

kathy

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Proudgrammy so SORRY for you and your family. Big Hug and Kiss is all I can offer with Love. Praying for some comfort for your broken heart.

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I am incredibly sorry. I wish you and your family peace. I hope Andrew is at peace as well.

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I am so sorry for your loss. This is so senseless and tragic.

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LONG
My wonderful, wonderful 15 year YOUNG Andrew died January 3rd. I'm still having trouble
processing. This was a terrible, awful, avoidable accident. Andrew was video chatting with 4
other friends. The jist of the story is....kids were talking, laughing, daring each other about "silly"
things. Not sure of all specific details (we will never know)
They were all teasing/taunting/joking with each other - story involving a neck and a rope - how tight one
could pull , won't say any more details, use your imagination. One child saw most of what was going on screen.
He screamed, ran to his mother and then called 911. Police followed to look into the situation. My
daughter was confused about any possible problem with police/ went upstairs - found Andrew in bedroom
closet. This boy, grant? is devastated about what happened. He didn't want to go funeral/hasn't been
able to talk to my daughter yet. This must be a terrifying nightmare that he will never forget.
Andrew was/is such a terrific young man. Handsome, smart/funny. Any and all people were very lucky to have
known him. He lit up a room. He was/is a terrific son/brother/nephew/friend and of course my grand-son.
his sister, 18 year old Morgan - is handling things the best she can. She lost her younger brother!! How terrible is that!!
She has a large support group of friends. She cries so often - but luckily friends are there to hold her.! my "little" wonderful
11 yr young Ethan has more trouble wrapping around the situation. Understanding what was going on. He slowing is understanding
that his big brother will never come home,
my daughter has a large community of friends in her neighborhood, many people from temple - so much
necessary support. She has 4 long time friends from different states that came to support her. BTW - her temple
holds 300 people - standing room only. Shows how much my Andrew and his family are loved.
We are so sad, terrified about this tragedy. We will all always love our Andrew. Forever and ever. The problem
now is dealing with the aftermath. Losing Andrew - the brother, grandson - friend but for my daughter and
my son-in-law - their son - i can't imagine how they feel. - they have friends and family at their house, one
after another - so they haven't been alone. Next week, and after, two more friends will be their for her.
But eventually they will be all alone! Their lives will never be the same. they are seeing a therapist individually,
and the whole family. They also are looking into finding a group of parents who have lost etc etc
thank you letting me unburden myself on you all.
kathy
I am very sorry for your loss.

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The organization is called Compassionate Friends, we have chapters in Ohio , I can't help but believe New York state has them also. Never will you make sense of what happened, but it has helped many of my friendsm

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I am so sorry for your loss. Parents and grandparents should not have to bury their children/grandchildren. How heart breaking for you and your family!

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My heart breaks for you and your family. May God bless you and hold you and your family during this terrible time.

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10 hours ago, Frustr8 said:

The organization is called Compassionate Friends, we have chapters in Ohio , I can't help but believe New York state has them also. Never will you make sense of what happened, but it has helped many of my friendsm

Compassionate Friends was wonderful when my son died. I met some beautiful people there who were the only ones who could truly know what it felt like to lose their child.

Kathy, my 20 year old son died in 2016 and his sister (my gorgeous daughter) found a great Facebook group for siblings that she said helped her a lot. Perhaps your granddaughter could look at that? I also joined a Facebook group only for parents who have lost a child. I would be more than happy to send you the names of the groups for your daughter and grandchildren if you would like. Both are specific to suicide (I know your grandson wasn't a suicide, but we have other members in the parents' group who have lost children in a similar manner to your grandson) and in the first few months after my son died they were a great help to me.

I do wish your family love and healing from such a terrible tragedy.

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One of my dearest friends lost her son involved in this same “game”. Such a tragedy. People need to come out and let others know about this horrible horrible loss, but few are comfortable talking about a suicide - accidental or not. Teenagers don’t always know of the possible consequences. We have to get the word out!

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