As @FluffyChix stated in the original thread:

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Let's share all our sophomore experiences, our angst, our struggles, our suggestions--let's talk about life! Let's become friends! You can be on any kind of food plan, do any kind of exercise or not, be gay or straight, engage in cardio or not--you just have to be in the "tweener" stage post WLS.

Not a Newbie but not yet a Vet - Sophomores have different challenges and are coping with an awkward middle stage, so please only post if you've passed the six month post-surgery mark!

What does everyone think?

https://medium.com/accelerated-intelligence/an-ambitious-persons-take-on-work-life-balance-i-almost-lost-hope-in-my-marriage-b6f0c0355c2

35 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

What does everyone think?

https://medium.com/accelerated-intelligence/an-ambitious-persons-take-on-work-life-balance-i-almost-lost-hope-in-my-marriage-b6f0c0355c2

Very good article on perspectives!

So who is super defensive, private and protective of their post surgery persona lol ?

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Wouldn't think so, huh but in person it has not been confirmed by me that i had surgery although some may suspect...

So its not often i get to have open conversations about me. So quite a few people said i don't eat much and i totally was unwilling to acknowledge their observations because frankly they were generally negative. But having observations come from a objective party was... different.

A few things it made me consider was:

1. I don't eat much food by quantity (although in my mind i eat A LOT)

2. Maybe the WLS community obsesses like no other over food

3. I hate negative people (to the point where i throw away the baby with the bathwater- no bueno)

4. I like numbered instead of lettered lists

5. My perception about myself maybe totally skewed but in a vacuum who can know

Does anyone else:

A. Have an objective support system?

B. Think they eat too much although there is no evidence?

C. Randomly switch from numbered to lettered lists ?

D. Shut down information coming from negative sources?

E. Sometimes capitalize the letter "I" sometimes not?

Edited March 14, 20197 yr by GreenTealael

What do you mean by "objective support system"?

1 hour ago, Orchids&Dragons said:

What do you mean by "objective support system"?

1 hour ago, Orchids&Dragons said:

What do you mean by "objective support system"?

Someone or people not invested in your journey negatively or positively.

Been MIA for awhile but wanted to jump in to say that I totally feel like I eat way more than I probably do! Everyone around me comments that I dont eat and I'm over here thinking that I'm overdoing it all the time. Scale and nutritionist say otherwise though.

Well I’ve officially made it to my 6 month mark. I’m seeking some advice. I have been lingering between 200 and 203 for weeks. Though on the bright side, I’ve gone down a pants size during this epic stall. I know it’s just a number, but I’m so close to the 100’s and have been for SO LONG and I just really want to reach that goal. Has anyone had any success kicking their loss back into gear? Or do y’all think that’s just gimmicky and stay the course ? Would welcome pointers.

8 hours ago, Rosie T said:

Well I’ve officially made it to my 6 month mark. I’m seeking some advice. I have been lingering between 200 and 203 for weeks. Though on the bright side, I’ve gone down a pants size during this epic stall. I know it’s just a number, but I’m so close to the 100’s and have been for SO LONG and I just really want to reach that goal. Has anyone had any success kicking their loss back into gear? Or do y’all think that’s just gimmicky and stay the course ? Would welcome pointers.

If you're still doing the same eating pattern after 6 months, I think your body may have adapted to your "new normal" and you might want to change things up a bit. If you're still getting a lot of your protein from supplements, try shifting to more meats. Add a meal or two of just fruits/veggies. Change the timing of your meals. Add a little bit of exercise multiple times a day (for instance, every time I go to the ladies' room at work, I climb 3 flights of stairs. It only takes 2 minutes, but over the course of a day, I can get in 18 flights.) Good luck, Onederland is Onederful!

Thanks for the tips Orchids&Dragons. I was thinking of doing a one week shakeup anyway. Maybe doing a quick one week cycle through the post op stages. Protein shakes. Then liquids. Then soft. Just to shake things up and wake my body up. It seems to currently be set to repetitive snooze. ?

4 hours ago, Orchids&Dragons said:

If you're still doing the same eating pattern after 6 months, I think your body may have adapted to your "new normal" and you might want to change things up a bit. If you're still getting a lot of your Protein from supplements, try shifting to more meats. Add a meal or two of just fruits/veggies. Change the timing of your meals. Add a little bit of exercise multiple times a day (for instance, every time I go to the ladies' room at work, I climb 3 flights of stairs. It only takes 2 minutes, but over the course of a day, I can get in 18 flights.) Good luck, Onederland is Onederful!

Great advice!

Another article for your consideration

https://theascent.pub/8-types-of-negative-thoughts-limiting-your-potential-b52a301fe6b6?source=email-c7efe8a63ac4-1552645648063-digest.reader------0-59------------------386e29f6_325a_4184_9783_26d8c427d831-1&sectionName=top&gi=7087f2f6a850

On 3/14/2019 at 6:46 PM, GreenTealael said:

1. I don't eat much food by quantity (although in my mind i eat A LOT)

Recently a colleague said that I don't seem to eat that much in general and I was like WTF???

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2. Maybe the WLS community obsesses like no other over food

Not more than any other eating disordered community, LOL.

I’ve been hovering at 154-155 now (lost 76????)and I think it has to do w the candy I eat and not going to the gym as much as I should.
I have this huge fear deep down inside of failure. Will I get to my goal by 13 mos and maintain Like everyone knows I had the sleeve and then “what if” I fail as I have so many other times with “diets”.
Anyone have this fear inside of failure?
I know you can’t live “what iffing” your whole life but this is suppose to be a new beginning. I just don’t want to be five years down the road and the weight start creeping back.

On 3/14/2019 at 1:46 PM, GreenTealael said:

A. Have an objective support system?

 B. Think they eat too much although there is no evidence?

A. Yes. I’ve told enough coworkers that they provide cover while not totally blowing my spot.

B. Only when I pay attention. If I am trying to “eat right” I eat too much, because I am both instinctively eating AND trying to meet some sort of hypothetical nutrition goal. When I stop paying attention but eat what I think I want (no, not always cookies... but sometimes!) then I end the day thinking I actually ate a somewhat balanced and rational amount.

My restriction’s still pretty darn good. Last night at an event I had a gin and tonic, then two hours later I ate a tiny slider, a spring roll, a pig in a blanket, and a dumpling. And then I was done. Previously in the day I’d had a small thing of yogurt, coffee, and...wait, I think that was it. So obviously by the event I was pretty hungry.

But on days when I’m paying too much attention to “eating right” I just end up stuffed by the end of the day. So I’ll be doing less of that.

On 3/14/2019 at 1:46 PM, GreenTealael said:

A. Have an objective support system?

 B. Think they eat too much although there is no evidence?

A. Yes. I’ve told enough coworkers that they provide cover while not totally blowing my spot.

B. Only when I pay attention. If I am trying to “eat right” I eat too much, because I am both instinctively eating AND trying to meet some sort of hypothetical nutrition goal. When I stop paying attention but eat what I think I want (no, not always cookies... but sometimes!) then I end the day thinking I actually ate a somewhat balanced and rational amount.

My restriction’s still pretty darn good. Last night at an event I had a gin and tonic, then two hours later I ate a tiny slider, a spring roll, a pig in a blanket, and a dumpling. And then I was done. Previously in the day I’d had a small thing of yogurt, coffee, and...wait, I think that was it. So obviously by the event I was pretty hungry.

But on days when I’m paying too much attention to “eating right” I just end up stuffed by the end of the day. So I’ll be doing less of that.