Only my husband, children and best friend know. I'm very private. Because my husband is dieting and we are eating very low carb, when folks ask, I attribute it to a change in diet.

On 12/31/2018 at 11:50, J Johnston said:

Only my husband, children and best friend know. I'm very private. Because my husband is dieting and we are eating very low carb, when folks ask, I attribute it to a change in diet.

Very few people know. About 4 people. My mother doesn’t even know.

I tried to. Then my wife told her mother and that is pretty much like telling the world.

12 minutes ago, MeanSleevedMachine said:

I tried to. Then my wife told her mother and that is pretty much like telling the world.

This is not okay, talk about a break in trust. How can we trust someone again when they tell other people what is private to us?

I would be most distressed if the one person who knows about my procedure had told other people, I explained my need for privacy and I hope they respect that.

I tried to. Then my wife told her mother and that is pretty much like telling the world.

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My family knows, but I have not told anyone outside of my family that I am having the surgery. I just got my date recently and am not sure how to approach work with it.

Saying "I'll be out of work for 3 weeks because I'm having surgery" is simple enough, but seems weird to leave it at that. I don't like lying, but I don't want them to know. I don't want people at working looking at me all the time or checking on how I'm doing, etc. I dislike that kind of attention.

Any suggestions on how to phrase it?

My family knows, but I have not told anyone outside of my family that I am having the surgery. I just got my date recently and am not sure how to approach work with it.
Saying "I'll be out of work for 3 weeks because I'm having surgery" is simple enough, but seems weird to leave it at that. I don't like lying, but I don't want them to know. I don't want people at working looking at me all the time or checking on how I'm doing, etc. I dislike that kind of attention.
Any suggestions on how to phrase it?

I think saying you're having surgery is enough. No one needs to know what kind or why. If they check on you it's because they care. Most people have surgery because something is wrong, so just say, "I'm feeling better. Thank you." I don't know that most people will say, why what's wrong with you? They will probably just ask, are you okay? "I will be!" Just my opinion. I didn't tell anyone either, but I had people ask if I was ok or feeling better after.

On 01/27/2019 at 08:12, WLH said:

My family knows, but I have not told anyone outside of my family that I am having the surgery. I just got my date recently and am not sure how to approach work with it.

Saying "I'll be out of work for 3 weeks because I'm having surgery" is simple enough, but seems weird to leave it at that. I don't like lying, but I don't want them to know. I don't want people at working looking at me all the time or checking on how I'm doing, etc. I dislike that kind of attention.

Any suggestions on how to phrase it?

I told people that everything was fine, and that I was going to be out for a few.weeks for personal reasons and I might telework some. I didn’t even tell them I was having surgery or how long I’d be out. But I also have aging parents, so people could easily have assume it was something with them.

17 minutes ago, jesseycakes said:

I think saying you're having surgery is enough. No one needs to know what kind or why. If they check on you it's because they care. Most people have surgery because something is wrong, so just say, "I'm feeling better. Thank you." I don't know that most people will say, why what's wrong with you? They will probably just ask, are you okay? "I will be!" Just my opinion. I didn't tell anyone either, but I had people ask if I was ok or feeling better after.

I was thinking of saying "Nothing serious" but it is a serious surgery. I'm over-thinking it too much. I like the "I will be!" answer

17 minutes ago, notmyname said:

43 minutes ago, WLH said:

My family knows, but I have not told anyone outside of my family that I am having the surgery. I just got my date recently and am not sure how to approach work with it.

Saying "I'll be out of work for 3 weeks because I'm having surgery" is simple enough, but seems weird to leave it at that. I don't like lying, but I don't want them to know. I don't want people at working looking at me all the time or checking on how I'm doing, etc. I dislike that kind of attention.

Any suggestions on how to phrase it?

I told people that everything was fine, and that I was going to be out for a few.weeks for personal reasons and I might telework some. I didn’t even tell them I was having surgery or how long I’d be out. But I also have aging parents, so people could easily have assume it was something with them.

Except for my immediate supervisor, I think that might work. But I'm also afraid that would start a big rumor/gossip/guessing thing going. Unfortunately, the people I work with can be very intrusive. I already go against the norm for not sharing all details of my life..haha!

I’m planning to keep it private and am only telling my husband. It’s not a conversation I want to have over and over again with people who don’t understand.

When they have never done this they have no point of reference. Its Your Path, Your struggle and Yours will be the final victory.

I did at first but now only close family and friends know.

Mine is a secret as well. Only my husband, mother and sister know not even my children. I didn’t tell my husband until after we were married, I got it during our engagement phase.

I would not say I necessarily announce it, but I don't hide it either. If the situation calls for it, I will inform someone of it, but I don't go out of my way to tell people. So I guess I am a bit indifferent about others knowing? Sorry if I am not much help. lol

Only my family and my bff