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Anyone here is allowed to think and say......that they are a disgusting animal all they want.

But....I'm gonna feel sorry for you publicly, if you share that very sad piece of information publicly.

Don't do that to yourself. It's abusive. You, and everyone here...deserves better.

Dehumanization, historically...is a very ugly thing correlated with countless crimes against humanity.

Value yourself. Value others. And don't hang this toxic crap on fat people.

Oh sh. If you want to talk to me talk to me. I'm the only one who said it here. I don't say it on posts. I said it here. Do I care what you think about it ? No? Feel sorry for me all you like. I look amazing and feel amazing. I needed to feel like that for me to realise this is not the way to go with my life. End of the day we are all on the same boat so don't think your better than me because you were happy to be fat. My confidence dropped big deal. I look amazing. And I love my life so I don't feel sorry for myself feeling that way.

Trust me. I value my self and others. And someone on the net doesn't need me to do so . But again clap clap for you.

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In all honesty the original poster should just focus on herself, why worry about what others are saying about themselves? Has NOTHING to do with you...IMG_3508.JPG.361a7b77b5aad6a81ad01a9fa27f7baf.JPG
If you don't agree with certain people they use passive aggression . Lol i agree with you 100%

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In all honesty....saying you're a disgusting animal because of what you weigh...is going to be seen by others as being really really messed up. PARTICULARLY ON A BOARD FULL OF FAT PEOPLE:)
And by the way...you could focus on yourself and not respond to her post if "focusing on yourself" was a virtue you honored.
Practice what you preach.
I don't care what you think about a comment to myself. Infact did you type this message ? It's quite offensive. There are people with no arms that need voice typing. I think you and op should be mindfull of that. Instead of being insensitive and typing out long messages . Especially on a group with other disabled people LOL

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This was posted by the original poster in rants and raves, exactly where one comes to discuss things that are bothering them. Your reaction to the poster comes across as very aggressive.
Is there another area of the forum here that you suggest the poster could share her feelings freely?
A bit of levity is warranted in this area of the forums. Just my two cents.


I see. She's allowed to share her words freely but other people can't ? Lol she ranted I can rant too. Thank you for your two cents. I'll give you a cent back.

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People get on my nerves. Post something negitive about an particular group of people. And when they respond they start barking like a dog. Rant all you like. But don't expect people to wrap you up in cotton wool.

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I am not saying you need to coddle others when discussing your own struggles. I, and some others in this thread, are just saying we could all stand to be a little nicer to ourselves and understand how negative self-talk does not really lead to a healthy relationship with our bodies. I am sorry if my post upset you.

Lol don't over estimate your power. Your post didn't upset me. I completely forgot about it til I came back and saw it had been posted on.

Your invalidating people in a group yet telling them you posted this so we should all be kind to yourself? Good back tracking.

Your post had nothing to do with encourging people to be kinder to themselves and healthy relationships to our body. You said nothing about that in the post.

If someone is feeling like **** they should say how they feel. As holding it in is detrimental. Alot of people who are obese have negitive feelings towards themselves from over the years. Of perhaps trauma in their life etc. Introjects of feeling worthless etc from their past. Could have even led to binge eating and their obesity. So maybe think deeper than " oh she said she's ugly when I weigh more than her " when in reality she may have been called ugly her whole life. So sees her self as that. Yet people ten times bigger she seems them as beautiful Kings and queens. It doesn't mean they see you or anyone else that way. And while your telling someone to think about what they are saying. Think about what could be behind it. And I would prefer someone was honest about their self hate than internalizing it. Most people on this process have counselling through the process some do not. So if you see someone saying anything derogatory ton themselves offer sensitivity and support. Not make this whole post about them . You never know how much they may value your positive words. Instead of your 'rant' blaming them for making you feel worse . I'm leaving this thread because I don't come to this group for negitivity. And your post did not offend me. I was honest. And I will always be. You can choose to ignore it. Back track. Insult me. Suit your self. All the best.

It's not just 400lbs + that allowed to have issues with self worth .

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27 minutes ago, dreamingsmall said:

I look amazing and feel amazing.

Doesn't sound like you feel amazing. Just sayin'

Meh...good luck to you. I hope there comes a time in your life when you don't need to think of your previous self as a disgusting animal. You weren't. You were a PERSON with a weight problem. it's not shameful. it's not a sin. It's a metabolic disease. And it deserves compassion.

And yeah, I hope someday you have compassion for yourself.

Best wishes.

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Doesn't sound like you feel amazing. Just sayin' Meh...good luck to you. I hope there comes a time in your life when you don't need to think of your previous self as a disgusting animal. You weren't. You were a PERSON with a weight problem. it's not shameful. it's not a sin. It's a metabolic disease. And it deserves compassion. And yeah, I hope someday you have compassion for yourself. Best wishes.

It wasn't a disease to do with my motabilism . I ate too much. But whatever makes you feel better about your situation. And again. Hmm how I sound to you is neither here nor there. Your passive aggressive so can't take what you say seriously. What you say is gospel about someone you don't even know lol. Good job. I wasn't ashamed either lol. I was fat now I'm not as fat. It's not the end of the world. It was disgusting being lazy and fat isn't something to be proud of. Just because you were proud and fat doesn't mean everyone should feel the same get over yourself. You were happy and fat good for you. Carry on judging everyone who didn't feel the same as you lol. I have compassion for myself. I love my self. I did not like who i was fat. It's not a crime to feel better health wise and mentally and physically when your smaller you can do more things. Simple as. Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

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Morbid obesity, is, in fact, a metabolic disease (classified as such by the American Medical Association in 2013). And getting thin doesn't cure it.

We will all struggle with it the rest of our lives....which is why it's so important to be kind to yourself and have respect for yourself no matter whether you're thinner and doing well, or heavier and struggling.

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:blink: That's a lot of replies and a lot of anger. You said you're leaving the thread - so . . . good luck with everything!

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6 hours ago, dreamingsmall said:

I'm leaving this thread because I don't come to this group for negitivity.

Ironic. You are one of the rudest posters on this forum I have seen.

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:blink: That's a lot of replies and a lot of anger. You said you're leaving the thread - so . . . good luck with everything!

first you think you upset me and now you think you made me angry lol I find you super funny and I made a point. I feel sorry for you. I'm not angry. If you stop quoting me i wont get notification. Im not rude your speaking to me. So il reply. You only wanted to hear from people saying but"poor you" anyone who didnt agree with you . You and your fellow know it alls try to go at people. No ones offended by your self centred post. Oh and I don't need luck. I'm doing awsome. But good luck to you. I understand your jelous of smaller people. But it's not our fault we did something about our health at a smaller size and realise the damage we did sooner. You should be commending us lol. But good luck with everything too lol

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Morbid obesity, is, in fact, a metabolic disease (classified as such by the American Medical Association in 2013). And getting thin doesn't cure it.

We will all struggle with it the rest of our lives....which is why it's so important to be kind to yourself and have respect for yourself no matter whether you're thinner and doing well, or heavier and struggling.

Ok cool so you didn't eat too much. You became fat of air . ( Unless you have a medical condition) you can't tell me I have a disease lol. I know what got me were I am. You know what got you were you are. There is nothing wrong with my motabilism. But as I said. What ever makes you sleep better about what you did to your self. I take full responsibility for what got me here. Respecting your self and liking who you are fat. Are not the same thing. I respected myself at any size. I don't have to like it. Your the same person who says the ghrenlin removal is a myth. So I think your 'facts' are not quite. It's 2018 so what someone 'proved' 5 years ago.. is ER..great lol

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