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20180131_175009.thumb.jpg.ff0bf05d6639979a9482cc27bbe6c9a5.jpg my mother in law sent this in the mail today. She knows I'm on a supervised diet and getting ready for surgery.


Im soo sorry she did that. I would throw it away. Don’t let her be a stumbling block. You are moving into a new season and she can’t do anything to stop you!! Stay Strong!!!!


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My mother, when she was younger was overweight and yo-yoed with it. You think she would fill my pain and struggles (She also has no disorders or diseases). But the last 15-20 years my moms weight has stayed at like 150-155, and shes 5'5". She also had my cousin, who I cherish with all of my heart tell me that she doesn't want me to have surgery too. 97 percent of my family members on my mothers side are all skinny... you think they would want what's best for me...

I'm doing it for me....you should do the same for you. I'm on board meds 4 times a day, sleep apnea and high cholesterol so I have to do something. I'm 5'10" and start weight of 282. I wish you the best !

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20180131_175009.thumb.jpg.ff0bf05d6639979a9482cc27bbe6c9a5.jpg my mother in law sent this in the mail today. She knows I'm on a supervised diet and getting ready for surgery.

I am still in awe of the amount of crap she sent you!!!! Could she be anymore of a ******????


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Oh ****. When I originally read the post I thought it was a PHOTO she sent you. I had no idea she actually mailed you all that crap. OMG! I think even with the filters on these posts the word I want to call her would get me kicked off the boards, but yeah. That is unbelievable. The best revenge will be living life as a happy, healthy, active, trim individual.

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1 minute ago, Little Green said:

Oh ****. When I originally read the post I thought it was a PHOTO she sent you. I had no idea she actually mailed you all that crap. OMG! I think even with the filters on these posts the word I want to call her would get me kicked off the boards, but yeah. That is unbelievable. The best revenge will be living life as a happy, healthy, active, trim individual.

"The best revenge will be living life as a happy, healthy, active, trim individual."

YES!!!

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I thought my husband was supportive too, but turns out, he's not. I've been discussing with him our finances and could we use all the money we have saved towards this urge and he got mad and started talking about we need that money fix the roof. Later, he went so far as to say that I need to stop thinking about myself all the time and think of others too.

DR Potential Sleever



I'm so sorry, DRoseman. [emoji22] My heart breaks for you. I can also empathize. My husband and I have had similar conversions. It is so hurtful that sometimes it seems he cares more about the money than the health benefit and quality of life I could gain. I have diabetes, arthritis, and have struggled with my weight most of my life. He went so far as to say the other day that if I'm going to go through with it he'll just have to look at it as money he gambled away and lost and will never get back. SERIOUSLY??? [emoji35] I wonder if our insurance was to pay all of it if he'd even make such a stink about it. They will only pay a portion and I have to pay the rest. I'm still working on my husband to help him understand the benefits of the surgery and why it's diff than just dieting or starving myself. I have a few months before I'm submitting for approval. I hope things get better on your end. In the meantime, hang in there, stick to your guns, and save. ((BIG HUGS)) [emoji173]

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One word for you all: theYouTube :D

Now here's another one/two: Ricky Nelson

(pssst..."you can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself"...)

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On 1/31/2018 at 6:14 PM, blind unicorn said:

20180131_175009.jpg my mother in law sent this in the mail today. She knows I'm on a supervised diet and getting ready for surgery.

:o:blink: Holy crap! That's just all kinds of wrong!!! But dear God, the HUMANITY! I have had many happy days having unnatural knowledge of that bit-c-h, Little Debbie and her hoe cakes. Happy Camper. Indeed. :D I happied my camper to 325lbs with that little hoe's help. Go donate to the food pantry at church. You will either make some one in need's day, or you'll make the minister's wife very very happy! ((hugs)) Remember, living well is the best revenge.

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10 hours ago, Little Green said:

Oh ****. When I originally read the post I thought it was a PHOTO she sent you. I had no idea she actually mailed you all that crap. OMG! I think even with the filters on these posts the word I want to call her would get me kicked off the boards, but yeah. That is unbelievable. The best revenge will be living life as a happy, healthy, active, trim individual.

Oh no you 'idn't!? Tell me you did NOT call her a S(C)ee-U-Next-Tuesday (the c is silent ;) ) ? Bahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahahahaahaha!!!

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Oh Fluffster thanks for downloading my man Ricky Nelson and my favorite of all time songs. Its all right now I've learned my lesson well- now sing the last line with me! I didn't cry when the Big Bopper et all died but I cried 3 days at Ricky's death. Ah the injustice of it all, like a shooting star HE WAS GONE.

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3 hours ago, FluffyChix said:

Oh no you 'idn't!? Tell me you did NOT call her a S(C)ee-U-Next-Tuesday (the c is silent ;) ) ? Bahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahahahaahaha!!!

And you know I did!!!!! :lol:

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