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When were you and your significant other able to have sex? My boyfriend asked me and I wasn’t too sure. I’m going to ask my surgeon as well but it’s kind of awkward.

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In general, as soon as you feel ready. I could have at a week postop (not missionary though).

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I️ was sleeved 10/20/17 I️ was able to about 2 and a half weeks but everyone is different u will kno when u feel comfortable I️ was nauseous and could barely get out of bed or get fluids so sex definitely was the last thing on my mind in the beginning lol

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I️ was sleeved 10/20/17 I️ was able to about 2 and a half weeks but everyone is different u will kno when u feel comfortable I️ was nauseous and could barely get out of bed or get fluids so sex definitely was the last thing on my mind in the beginning lol

That’s how I feel right now and I’m just three days out. I’m hoping maybe a month out but I don’t want to put a lot of pressure on my stomach.


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That’s how I feel right now and I’m just three days out. I’m hoping maybe a month out but I don’t want to put a lot of pressure on my stomach.



The first week is def the roughest and you think it will never end but the more you sip fluids and walk before you know I️t you will be better I’m a month out and feel like I️ never had surgery lol find a position that works for both of you and your not putting pressure on your stomach and you tell him to go slow but don’t rush I️t your body will tell you when you ready [emoji4]


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40 minutes ago, ancirasd said:


That’s how I feel right now and I’m just three days out. I’m hoping maybe a month out but I don’t want to put a lot of pressure on my stomach.

I haven't had surgery yet, but 3 days seems a bit soon. I hope your boyfriend is being patient with you. You just had major surgery! It takes 6 weeks for your stomach to fully heal.

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I had surgery on a Monday and was able to Wednesday. I had a pretty easy recovery - the surgery was a piece of cake after 4 c sections. I’m almost 11 months out now, down 106 since surgery and 147 from my highest and about 20 pounds from my goal with no regrets at all.


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I haven't had surgery yet, but 3 days seems a bit soon. I hope your boyfriend is being patient with you. You just had major surgery! It takes 6 weeks for your stomach to fully heal.

I didn’t say I was going to at 3 days post op it was a discussion we had but I want to wait awhile. That’s the last thing on my mind right now just wanted to get feedback


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9 minutes ago, ancirasd said:


I didn’t say I was going to at 3 days post op it was a discussion we had but I want to wait awhile. That’s the last thing on my mind right now just wanted to get feedback

I think the others are right. You will know when you are ready.

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The general consensus of hospital nurses is to wait at least until your get home - they don't want to see it.

Beyond that, it's when you feel up to it and interested. An orgasm isn't going to do any harm to your new sleeve - it's how you get there that matters to your comfort, so probably no swinging from the rafters for a while. But something slow and gentle that doesn't cause any discomfort - go for it when you feel like it. Your bf should be perfectly capable of taking care of himself until you do.

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When were you and your significant other able to have sex? My boyfriend asked me and I wasn’t too sure. I’m going to ask my surgeon as well but it’s kind of awkward.


My doctor said that I should give it two weeks and see how I feel. Every doctor will say something different. Listen to your doctor, and if you feel like you are not ready by then, then don't do it until you are ready. I waited almost 2 months before my fiance and I were intimate following surgery. Don't let anyone pressure you after the date you are given. You don't have to be ready. You can wait if you feel like you need. I understand how awkward it can be to ask your doctor when the right time to have sex is, but it's a nessecery question, with some much needed council, like to use bc, or another form of protection due to not being able to get pregnant within the first year. Ect. :)

sw: 334
pre-op: 314
cw: 213

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My doctor said that I should give it two weeks and see how I feel. Every doctor will say something different. Listen to your doctor, and if you feel like you are not ready by then, then don't do it until you are ready. I waited almost 2 months before my fiance and I were intimate following surgery. Don't let anyone pressure you after the date you are given. You don't have to be ready. You can wait if you feel like you need. I understand how awkward it can be to ask your doctor when the right time to have sex is, but it's a nessecery question, with some much needed council, like to use bc, or another form of protection due to not being able to get pregnant within the first year. Ect. [emoji4]

sw: 334
pre-op: 314
cw: 213


Hey saw your stats just curious how far out are you and how many calories do you consume by the congrats on the success so far sleeved 10/20/17
Pre op 344
Sw 327
Cw 297


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