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LOL I've already decided this isn't my destiny. Surgery was step 1 of taking my life back and getting back TO being ME..My children are grown (not children with him) it's my time to shine =)

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It really is. It's hard because if it was say another Illness what would I have said. I wouldnt of hinted you do a runner but it's not his fault. It's just with that you worry for people's safety ..good luck anyway and "lol" I don't find your situation funny.. honestly.I hope you stay safe

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Sorry for the rant..I'm in a mood this morning...
I didn't feel the need to disclose to everyone. I am not the spokesperson or poster child for bariatric weight loss. I'm not responsible for other people's choices or success with weight loss.
It's not so much I have been busted for not disclosing. People are going to notice, talk and speculate about a massive weight loss. These same gossiping negative people will talk about you behind your back over other things once you reach goal.
If I was open about my surgery, these same people will judge..Why would I care to disclose to them I had surgery?
It's great to be an age where you don't give your time and attention to negative people.

I'm in my 20s and couldn't care less about people's gossiping. I'm glad I've reached this stage so young so I can fulfill my own wants. And not care about strangers talking crap

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23 hours ago, summerset said:

That's what you think.

I not only think it. I know it.

My wife's only worked there a few months and it was the very first time I'd met any of them.

My cover is not blown.

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I kept mine a secret & only my significant other & one friend know I did it.

Before surgery everyone knew I was working out & dieting anyway so they just see my results have paid off through diet & exercise. I made sure I made it known to the world months before surgery that I was working on my weight loss, so it all gradually looks legit & not so drastic.

Two people have asked if I had surgery & I just say no.

My choice, I want to keep my surgery a secret. It’s very personal to me. Plus, I know a lot of people that are so negative & gossip so much. I don’t want to deal with people’s opinions. It’s bad enough they used to always say I’m fat, now those same people are saying I’m getting too skinny. All the more reason I keep to myself.


Height: 5'0"
Weight for WLS consultation: 216 lbs.
Surgery date: 2/13/17
Goal: -71 lbs for healthy BMI (about 145 lbs).
Current weight: 130 lbs, 10 lbs away from new goal.
My profile picture is not me. It's my "FITspiration" body.

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I don't even know why this topic has to become a point to argue over on here. I can't see the purpose in being haughty or making anyone feel anything but supported in whichever position - 'tell all, tell some, not tell' they make. After all just like every dietary plan is different, every person has specific situations that lead to the choice of telling or not.

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24 minutes ago, Sosewsue61 said:

I don't even know why this topic has to become a point to argue over on here. I can't see the purpose in being haughty or making anyone feel anything but supported in whichever position - 'tell all, tell some, not tell' they make. After all just like every dietary plan is different, every person has specific situations that lead to the choice of telling or not.

I haven't seen anyone argue..Or did I miss something? Only stating my decision.

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It's not funny per season however I'm in a good place within me. He's an alcoholic non violent but an alcoholic none the less. I will try to see to it he has rehabilitation and at the same time I'm taking care of me. I don't know the future nor do I have faith he can or will fight his demons but I do know I will no longer carry his burdens. Thank you for your kind words.

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No problem. Honestly we as humans can only do so much. By the sounds of it you are a fantastic partner who is doing her best. But your also aware that you can't build a village on your own. Either he's there to put the effort in to build it with you... Or he's not ready to build it. So you live in another house while he takes his time to rebuild his own when he is ready. Sometimes people are not in each other's lives quite at the right time. But their lines may meet correctly one day. So don't lose all hope for the future. :) Good luck.

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On 12/4/2017 at 0:38 PM, Sosewsue61 said:

I don't even know why this topic has to become a point to argue over on here. I can't see the purpose in being haughty or making anyone feel anything but supported in whichever position - 'tell all, tell some, not tell' they make. After all just like every dietary plan is different, every person has specific situations that lead to the choice of telling or not.

Dangggggg girl! Did I open my trap and say something? You woulda thought I'd learned my listen in the whole Loose, Lose shenanigans! bahahahahahahahaha! I'll just say it now, I'm sorry for globally offending everyone! ;) hehe Confession and apologies are good for the soul! :D :460_circus_tent:

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Let me start by saying that I am 100% in favor of people having the right to keep their surgery private and to choose who to tell, or not to tell. Having said that, I have decided to tell family and co-workers that I am having the surgery. Because WLS is getting to be so common now, when others see someone having rapid weight loss, they usually speculate that surgery was involved - at least that's been my experience. I'd rather just be open about it than have people talk behind my back...but that's just me.
For those who are keeping it a secret, or trying to, I was wondering if any of you have been busted lying about not having surgery? I've read a lot of the little tricks that people do to hide their uneaten food at restaurants or excuses for why they are loosing weight. Any of that ever backfire on anyone? Just curious.

I kept mine private. I had one co worker ask me because she saw a difference but i barely know her so i told her a partial truth, i watch what i eat and workout like crazy, which is exactly what i'm doing. She was asking because she also wanted to lose weight so i told her what i eat and what workouts i do. But the surgery part is my own business, i did tell her Portion Control is everything. Personally i just don't want people in my business. I'm not ashamed of it by any means but i do want credit for all the hard work i've put in to look this good and maintain it.


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"How did you get rid of that toothache?"

"Oh, I took a lot of pain killers, slept a lot and took an antibiotic for a few days! It was hard, but I got rid of it."

"Oh, wow! Great! Maybe I can get rid of my toothache this way, too!"

"Thank you!" (Of course I kept that tooth extraction surgery to myself, haha!)

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