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Vsg10.26.17    4

Vsg10.26.17
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Hi all,

Having my sleeve done this Thursday. I have told a few people, but don't want most people I work with to know. What reasons do you give for missing work? I work in a place where people will probably ask and it would be weird to say nothing...

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jcb123    115

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9 hours ago, Vsg10.26.17 said:

Hi all,

Having my sleeve done this Thursday. I have told a few people, but don't want most people I work with to know. What reasons do you give for missing work? I work in a place where people will probably ask and it would be weird to say nothing...

I told my boss it was for a "personal surgery". He won't ask further because he knows if I wanted him to know I would have told him :)

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DaleCruse    756

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I just came out & told people. I found everyone I told was supportive except one. Ironically, she's one who could most use weight loss surgery. She considered surgery "cheating". Anyway, just telling people worked well for me. Good luck to you!

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Lufifi    76

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I even tell strangers. I really dislike the stigma and find that explaining it to people increases acceptance. Everybody at work knows but we are a close knit group anyway.

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15 hours ago, Lufifi said:

I even tell strangers. I really dislike the stigma and find that explaining it to people increases acceptance. Everybody at work knows but we are a close knit group anyway.

Not all people dont tell because of a 'stigma' some of us are just private people lol i dont share most things with strangers. Only my family know things about me, i dont feel me not telling a stranger will reduce the risk of acceptance for the next person lol but each to their own :)

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Gen17    92

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16 minutes ago, inhabitmysoul said:

I simply said I will be out for medical reasons but my job is really big on bringing documentation. Unfortunately the letterhead says bariatric surgery on the top so they know but are prohibited from asking questions.

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Actually! They shouldn't ask you anything or share with anyone!

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Lufifi    76

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Not all people dont tell because of a 'stigma' some of us are just private people lol i dont share most things with strangers. Only my family know things about me, i dont feel me not telling a stranger will reduce the risk of acceptance for the next person lol but each to their own [emoji4]


Never even hinted that anyone here was hiding it because of the stigma. I just am very aware that there is one, and know that with the rapid weight loss people will think that there are other things causing the weight loss. I'd rather be honest than get caught up later. Also, there should be no stigma. Bariatric surgery is just a tool... not a fix all and certainly not an easy way out.



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TriGirl    15

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I'm in the same boat. While I like my coworkers; it's none of their business. I'm sure they will talk when the weight starts to come off... I'm not telling anyone aside from my husband and my best friend who lives across the globe. I'm not a social butterfly and all of our family lives far away. People will think what they want and personally WLS arguments or negative opinions are not something I care to tackle. I would like to find a WLS buddy to confide in before my surgery though...

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1 hour ago, TriGirl said:

I'm in the same boat. While I like my coworkers; it's none of their business. I'm sure they will talk when the weight starts to come off... I'm not telling anyone aside from my husband and my best friend who lives across the globe. I'm not a social butterfly and all of our family lives far away. People will think what they want and personally WLS arguments or negative opinions are not something I care to tackle. I would like to find a WLS buddy to confide in before my surgery though...

I am with you. I have started spreading the seeds of potential major weight loss with my coworkers. I am down 40 pounds since summer, and I am telling people it's all nutrition and that I am starting my exercise program in November (I get sleeved Thursday). People have noticed the weight loss so hopefully it won't be as obvious that I had WLS.

Happy to be your WLS buddy if you need! When are you getting sleeved?

Thanks everyone one for the input!

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1 hour ago, Vsg10.26.17 said:

I am with you. I have started spreading the seeds of potential major weight loss with my coworkers. I am down 40 pounds since summer, and I am telling people it's all nutrition and that I am starting my exercise program in November (I get sleeved Thursday). People have noticed the weight loss so hopefully it won't be as obvious that I had WLS.

Happy to be your WLS buddy if you need! When are you getting sleeved?

Thanks everyone one for the input!

I have gone through the majority of the process I still need to get an EKG and a sleep study done I have not sent my date yet. Thank you for your friendship, I would love to be your buddy!

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